On 7/6/2014 9:47 PM, Nellie wrote:
> On Sunday, July 6, 2014 11:32:57 PM UTC-7, dsi1 wrote:
>> On 7/6/2014 6:29 PM, Nellie wrote:
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>>> While it may not be a personality defect in a child, it is an inability to make the best of a bad situation or alter their situation that causes difficulty for the child.
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>>> The brighter the child, the better able he/she is able to do that. The others blame everyone/thing else, the other kids are dumb, the teacher is stupid/incompetent, and of course, the very popular," I am so smart and know everything so I am so bored and that is why I am not getting good grades"
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>> You're talking about kids here. The reality is that they have very
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>> little say in their education. Somebody has to stand up for them and
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>> that's what I did for my son. I removed him from that stressful
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>> These days, he's going to college and should graduate next year. He then
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>> plans to enter law school. Currently, he's taking honors classes and is
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>> now in an accelerated French class. He wants to finish two years of
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>> language in a summer. That might have been a tactical error because he
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>> received 6 credits of a B grade and needs to ace the second part of the
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>> class to stay in the honors program.
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>> Our family went through hell to get my oldest son to fit in with the
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>> educational system but in the end, he dropped out and never went back to
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>> school again. I was not about to repeat history with my second son and I
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>> wonder what would have happened had I not allowed the oldest to be put
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>> As far as these personality shortcomings you guys so fervently want to
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>> see in my kids, there are none. My question to you is what the heck kind
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>> of personality defects do you have to hope for such a thing?
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> I didn't say personality defect, in fact I said it was not. Even with that misunderstanding cleared up, where did you get that I (or we) hoped for it? I have worked with kids for many years and I would never wish or hope for any suffering for them.
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> Personality shortcomings that 'we' want to see in your kids? Are you talking to more than one person here?
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> I should have been more clear in my comment. I was speaking of academics and not about stress or any emotional issues. Go back and read the most common excuses that I listed in my last post, they are all regarding schoolwork and not personality defects.
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> We pulled our son out of a stressful situation once because he was not able to. The thing is, he told us about it and your son told you about it and that is exactly what I mean about being able to alter their situation. Changing classes, schools, GEDing out, taking classes at Community College, these are all bonafide ways of changing your circumstances.
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> I am glad your son is doing well.
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> Nellie
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I reread your post with your points in mind - thanks for the
clarification. I hope your son is doing well.