"Ed Pawlowski" > wrote in message
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> On 7/18/2014 3:23 PM, wrote:
>
>>>>
>>>>> I think it's a rather sad commentary that some people cannot enjoy
>>>>> life
>>>>> without being joined at the hip.
>>>>
>>>> Oh, god yes. It's ridiculous the way you can count on never seeing
>>>> only one of some couples.
>>>>
>>>
>>>
>>> I used to work with a guy who spent almost all of his time with his
>>> wife. He never went anywhere without her. I don't know is that was his
>>> idea or her's, but she used to call him four or five times a day, and he
>>> used to call her.
>>
>> So what's wrong with that ?
>>
>
> I spend a lot of time with my wife but when I go to work I only call one
> time a day. Dave is talking about 8 to 10 times between them. That is
> obsessive. Affects concentration and work performance too.
>
> I work with a guy that is similar. Texting numerous times aside, he used
> to leave work at lunch to take her a coffee where she worked. He could
> stay at the shop and have a paid lunch, but instead he left and gave up 5
> hours of overtime pay a week. That coffee cost him about $7,000 a year in
> lost wages.
I have worked with people like that. And it wasn't always the spouse.
Once, there was a pregnant woman where I worked. I didn't actually work
with her as we had a lot of employees. Her mom or dad used to bring her
lunch in daily. Dad worked there too so he could only do this on his day
off. But the three of them had lunch together whenever they could and often
her husband was there was well. Lunch was some sort of carrot salad. Dad
told me that her Dr. told her that she needed to eat it. I didn't question
why.
The whole thing was perfectly silly as we had a mostly empty and well
cleaned full sized refrigerator in one of the break rooms. We also all had
lockers so if she didn't want to use the fridge, she could have used an
insulated container. I don't think we had insulated bags yet in those days.
I guess since they all had different schedules, it was one time when they
all could get together, even if dad or daughter was just on a coffee break.
Had a coworker who was working part time nights. She worked at a bank
during the day. Her husband worked for some kind of company that had
something to do with food. I never could figure out exactly what he did but
I know that he got a lot of freebies. He once treated us all to a VIP table
at a Neil Young concert. I just know that he somehow got the table via his
work. None of us had to pay the cover charge and we were all treated like
stars. Anyway...
He was in the store all night when his wife was working. They'd have coffee
together and he would hang around until she got off work. Some of us
thought that was a tad creepy. He was a nice enough person, just perhaps a
little strange. But now that I think of it, perhaps this was their way of
conserving on gas. She worked across the street at the bank so he may well
have dropped her off on the way to his work then came back to pick her up.
They lived North of there so maybe he didn't want to have to drive back to
get her? Dunno.
I do hate being called all the time though and I do have a person who does
it to me. I used to get a ton of texts but I just quit responding to them
unless they seemed important which they mostly were not. Now if I get too
many calls on they cell phone, this person gets blocked for an hour or more.
I have yet to find a way to block the home phone though and that might be
hard to do. So what I finally resorted to there was to push the "talk"
button, set the phone down and then keep doing whatever I was doing. I told
this person they may call me once in a day and then again only if it is an
emergency. Otherwise, just stop. They are doing it out of boredom, usually
on the way to and from work, using Bluetooth.
One of my friends gets multi calls at home from another friend. We're not
really sure why. This woman calls her going to and from work, on her breaks
at work, as soon as she gets home. Many times a day. It was far worse when
she was recovering from a heart attack. She was not allowed to drive yet
and was walking around so she would call while walking. It got to the point
of being an extreme nuisance and I think that my friend finally did get
through to her because the calls lessened dramatically.
I think sometimes people who do these things are only thinking of themselves
and not the fact that the other person might actually have some things that
they need to do. When I was a kid, we called our grandparents long distance
once a week. We were allowed to call our friends perhaps once a day for
perhaps a total of an hour. We all shared the same landline phone.
Otherwise the phone was saved for important matters. Business or
emergencies.
Personally, I'd rather if a person feels the need to contact me repeatedly
that they do it by email. Then I can just delete at whim.