On 8/9/2014 10:00 PM, Nancy Young wrote:
> On 8/9/2014 9:26 PM, jmcquown wrote:
>> On 8/8/2014 7:51 PM, Cheri wrote:
>>> I'm sure you have good reasons, I just always find it sad when family
>>> members are estranged, nothing more.
>
>> I found it sad to discover he was more interested in money than anything
>> else. He and I used to get along very well. I taught him how to cook
>> when the only thing he could do was grill some steaks and bake a couple
>> of potatoes. Oh well.
>
> It's a shame. I remember he made the trip there to try to
> convince your father to sign everything over to him. Your dad
> might have been confused but he was still shrewd enough to know
> something wasn't right.
>
> nancy
>
Oh yeah. Dad called me on the phone in TN and told me. "You tell your
brother to stop calling me about my Will!" He wasn't totally confused.
I think he'd been seriously mislead with his high opinion Bro and
realized it.

I don't know what my brother expected. Dad had a Will. Dad just didn't
tell him he had one. Crazy like a fox, as they say.

He left everything to Mom. As it should be. Bro was pleased as punch
to find Dad had named him Executor... why, I don't know. It didn't
entitle him to anything, which I'm sure he soon discovered. Everything
passed right to Mom and he couldn't touch a dime.

Meanwhile, I'm the one who had to chase down the insurance policies,
most of which Dad had let lapse. I'm the one who had to run around with
our mother, changing things like bank info and the utility bill, phone
service, DMV registration, from both their names to only hers. "Mr.
Executor" didn't lift a finger to deal with any of that stuff.

The real kicker came when he asked me to reschedule Dad's funeral. He
couldn't get off work. Excuse me? You're some hotshot VP and you can't
tell them sorry, gotta go, my dad died? No, you need to reschedule the
funeral, Jill. Sure, that's easily done. Oh, Sorry, cancel the Full
Military Honors funeral. We need to change the date because he can't
get out of a friggin' meeting.

Yes, I'm plenty angry with him. It's not necessarily about the money.
It's about how callous he turned out to be.

Jill