"Jean B." > wrote in message
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> jmcquown wrote:
>> On 7/20/2014 9:37 AM, jmcquown wrote:
>>> On 7/20/2014 12:07 AM, Jean B. wrote:
>>>> jmcquown wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>> Agree. I despise that "just get another one" attitude. Uh, what? As
>>>>> if they are so easily replaced.
>>>>>
>>>>> Jill
>>>>
>>>> Not replaced... as in you think you can ever find a cat like the one
>>>> who died, esp. if you adored that cat. I know I can never replace
>>>> Ming.
>>>> He was my sweetheart. The relationship with a new cat/cats would
>>>> evolve in its own direction.
>>>
>>> Of course. But when your daughter leaves for college you may be doing a
>>> bit of travelling to visit her. Until she gets settled in it might be
>>> better for you to wait. Of course it's completely up to you. I
>>> definitely *DID NOT* appreciate being told "just get another one"
>>> after my dog
>>> Sampson died.
>>>
>>> Jill
>>
> Put like that, it does sound like the person who said that thought that
> dogs were totally replaceable. That was a very hurtful thing for the
> person to say. I still have no idea what my life is going to settle into,
> so I need to hold off for at least a while. I just do recall that when I
> have seen cats who are up for adoption, I am always sorely tempted to get
> more than one of them.

When Maui died, we saw it coming. I said when she died, we would get two.
She would not have tolerated a second one very well if at all. We had
already picked out two that we loved. But we never thought we would get
them. Then Maui's health really tanked more suddenly than we expected. We
got those two perhaps a week later. Only because we were staying in a hotel
over the weekend and didn't want to take new cats there.

Then when we realized that Ballerina was not coming back after the raccoon
incident, we got another right away. It's not that I didn't love the other
cats. I just wanted a certain cat vibe in the house.