On Tue, 28 Jul 2015 01:40:29 -0500, Sky >
wrote:

>On 7/26/2015 4:58 PM, Dave Smith wrote:
>> I caught a small portion of a radio show about kids in restaurants. One
>> women, who seemed to have some expertise on manners and training kids,
>> suggest that if the place does not have high chairs..... maybe it's a
>> place you should not be taking small children.
>
>IMNSHO, if children are appropriately behaved, sure, they can and should
>accompany their parents to any restaurant. BUT! Big, but!! If the
>child(ren) is(are) unhappy(!!) and/or misbehaves, then the parents
>should be obligated to take their child(ren) to another 'arena' (the
>restroom? outside?) until their child's attitude is better suited to the
>'atmosphere' of the situation --- I hope this makes sense. In no way
>did I allow (my) child to disturb any other diners' experiences while at
>any restaurant.
>
>When DS was young and (rarely) exhibited unbecoming behavior, I merely
>asked him, "Do you want to go to the restroom to have a 'conversation'?"
> It's never wise to castigate or chastise a child (or anyone regardless
>of age!) in public. Humiliation is cruel!
>
>DS's younger cousin, on the other hand (10++ years difference), was a
>virtual devil when it came to any public affair -- my brother and his
>wife did nothing to teach their young child proper manners or behavior
>when in public!
>
>Is this poor parenting? An example is/was (years ago) . . . 3-year old
>cousin was allowed to walk around a posh restaurant dinner table (party
>of 12+ adults) for a graduation party. The child was allowed to
>roam/walk everywhere along the dinner table (other diners' tables, too!)
>with nary any supervision while folks dined, clamoring all over! Not in
>my book - time for the child to go outside/home with their parent(s)!
>Alas, teaching their very young child proper manners was not a priority
>for my brother and his wife at that time
>
>Sky

I never allowed my daughter or any child to disturb dinner at home...
never had to say anything either, just gave 'that' look. Children who
act up at eateries it's because there's no control at home. When
children are raised like feral beasts that's how they behave all the
time... I never blame the child, I blame their zoo keeper.