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cshenk

Janet wrote in rec.food.cooking:

> In article >,
> says...
> >
> > "Janet" > wrote in message
> > t...
> > > In article >,
> > > says...
> > > >
> > >> "Ed Pawlowski" > wrote in message
> > >> ...
> > >> > On 3/3/2016 11:52 AM, jmcquown wrote:
> > >> >
> > >> >> Well, Leona was quoting from an article. I watch 'House
> > Hunters' on >> >> HGTV. Seems like lots of people want the latest
> > greatest kitchens but >> >> they don't actually use them. (I've
> > got some neighbors like that.) >> >>
> > >> >> True, not everyone is a great cook nor do they want to cook.
> > I would >> >> suggest a different restaurant if I felt it was over
> > budget. >> >>
> > >> >> Jill
> > >> >
> > >> > Or pick up a bucket of KFC or a bag of burgers. While we
> > enjoy going >> > to
> > >> > dinner with friends, we enjoy just spending time with them
> > even more. >> > They
> > >> > just have to speak up and with real friends you can do that.
> > > >
> > >> I love to cook but I hate doing the dishes. And if you have
> > people >> staying
> > >> over, you'll eventually have to do that while they are there.
> > You can >> only
> > >> put this off for so long. That cuts into visiting time.
> > >
> > > Whatever kind of friends or family don't offer to help in the
> > > kitchen when they're staying over?
> > >
> > > while they're helping cook or wash up you can still socialise.
> >
> > Ha! Not in my kitchen. Only one person will fit comfortably. Get
> > two in there and it can be a battle. You have to carefully
> > orchestrate things or one person gets trapped at the stove end,
> > unable to move.
> >
> > And maybe it is common to help in the kitchen where you are at.
>
> Absolutely. Tonight one of my neighbours is making dinner for ten of
> us; she's 82. She will do all the cooking and set a pretty table. The
> rest of us will all help her serve and clear away, and before we go
> home we'll wash and dry the dishes (men and women).
>
> I don't
> > know. My mom hated other people to be in her kitchen so mostly
> > they just weren't. She did have a nurse friend who always came
> > over at dinner time and kept insisting on cooking for us. And my
> > mom did let her do this a few times. But the woman was a horrible
> > cook and everything she made was inedible. So my mom put her foot
> > down there too.
>
> I love it when anybody else wants to cook in my kitchen :-)
> especially when their food is something new to me. I've had guests
> teach me to make sushi, pasta, Thai cooking, and all sorts of new
> recipes. If they can't cook they can pour drinks.
>
> Ever since they could stand on a chair, our kids and now theirs help
> in the kitchen and it doesn't matter how long it takes or how much
> mess. Even tots can scrub potatoes, pod peas, roll pastry, set the
> table.
> > I know that some people here have cook alongs and such. Something
> > like that to me would be potential for nightmare. Not something
> > I'd want to do. It's all a moot point for me anyway. We have a
> > small house and we don't have people stay over, except for Angela's
> > friends and they all sleep in her room. We have no extra room or
> > extra beds.
>
> Gawd, you'd hate my family, where a single bed isn't considered
> full until there are two adults sardined into it; a double can hold
> at least four kids, some at the top and some at the bottom; all the
> sofas are long enough to sleep on. The overflow sleep on the floor;
> or bring a tent.
> > And I don't know of anyone who
> > might come from a ways off to spend the night.
>
> That's really sad.
>
> Janet UK

LOL, I'm the one with the distance friends with the cook-over parties.
There's about 10 of us though not everyone makes every annual event.
So it's common to see 6 in the kitchen at once working out various
things, helping one another and cleaning up after one another.
Generally the first arrivals show Thursday evening, official opening is
Friday (usually a local restraunt because some are just getting there
and tired from a drive or flight). Saturday is an all day cook and eat
event with small servings showing up every hour of something or other.
Sunday is a combo of leftovers and anything one of us wanted to make
but didnt get to on Saturday. Folks start drifting out on Sunday for
home but a few may not leave until Monday some time.

Definatly will all sofas and beds here! I also have a thick (4 inch)
foam double futon for the floor but anyone in that, needs to accept
that the dogs and cat are apt to join them in a snooze at night...

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