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Janet

In article >,
says...
>
> On 8/11/2016 3:03 PM, barbie gee wrote:
> >
> >
> > On Thu, 11 Aug 2016, Ophelia wrote:
> >
> >> "Gary" wrote in message ...
> >>
> >> Cheri wrote:
> >>>
> >>> "Ophelia" wrote:
> >>> > Would you like such a life? If not why not? If you did have it would
> >>> > you
> >>> > like people constantly making fun of you or being nasty about it?
> >>>
> >>> How would people even know if it wasn't posted constantly? Anyone can
> >>> make
> >>> someone else look bad when only one side is heard.
> >>
> >> She opens up "her side" of the marriage so certainly some people will
> >> comment. True though that we don't know his side of the story. She does
> >> invite comments though, O. According to her, the guy is a tyrant and
> >> mentally/emotionally abusive as hell. The white glove test won me over
> >> years ago. Then the dinners on demand so she has to cook his meals in
> >> advance just so she can feed him within minutes of showing up
> >> unannounced.
> >>
> >> Do you do that for your husband?
> >>
> >> --------------------
> >>
> >> Are you asking me? No of course not, but not everyone is me.
> >>
> >> Bullying makes me feel sick and that is what is going on here. Grab
> >> or even
> >> invent a reason and bully away wooopeeee!
> >
> > It's not bullying. She opens the way for commentary by sharing TMI,
> > then gets annoyed that people have something to say about it.
> >
> >
> Yes, at times it is TMI, but mature people ignore or turn away. If
> you jump in, you are bullying.

You just said "Maybe this is the outlet Julie needs to help keep her
sanity."

If Julie just needed to get it all off her chest she could write a
private diary. Instead, she chooses to exhibit it all to strangers.

You're withholding the acknowledgement and feedback that she is very
clearly looking for.

Silently ignoring a cry for help, is emotional abuse, you mean old
bully.

Janet UK