"Wayne Boatwright" wrote in message
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On Mon 11 Sep 2017 12:20:38p, Dave Smith told us...

> On 2017-09-11 2:30 PM, Wayne Boatwright wrote:
>> On Mon 11 Sep 2017 07:38:51a, Dave Smith told us...
>>
>
>> There are a couple of TV programs related to weight loss,
>> especially for those who weigh close to or over 600 pounds.
>> During part of the story you see the person eating at home, in
>> quantities that easily equal what BN eats.
>
> You can understand why I do everything possible to avoid having
> here here. I can't say that I cannot afford to feed her. It is
> more accurate to say that I simply don't want to. I should not be
> expected to have to go to the extra work and expense when she is
> just going to make a pig of herself. Buffet is still a legitimate
> way of serving food in various venues, like pot luck dinners. You
> take the foods you like, pass on the others, try a little of this
> and that. I think most of us will admit to eating more than usual
> at an you can eat buffet that we are paying for but taking two
> plates at a time is yet another example of her gluttony.

Having followed BN posts for a long time, short of simply getting rid
of her I would be inclined to do one or more of the following:
"hosting" a dinner at a restaurant or buffet and making it clear that
each family unit pay their own bill; hosting a buffet in your home,
including a reasonable but limited quantity of food (when it's gone,
it's gone); hosting a potluck dinner at your home and when everything
has been eaten the dinner is over; do _not_ ever host a formal meal
where you have both cooked and served the food, or provided dishes of
food at the table.

I would also remove all foods from the kitchen that you do not plan
to have available. Take it all to the basement or another room where
everything can be locked up, including foods from the refrigerator,
pantry, etc. If BN complains about not having enough to eat, make it
clear that everything you have has been eaten, and if she feels the
need for more food, suggest to here that she's more than welcome to
go out and buy some.

I know you have describd the family dynamics before, by my personal
inclination is once and for all to eliminae her from the guest list
regardless of the consequences. People will either get over it or
not, but it will save your sanity and aggravation.

I remember from years ago in our family my grandparents summarily
dismissed and banned one particular cousin because of his behavior,
although it wasn't food related. Some people were miffed, but most
completely understood. Even those who were miffed eventually got
over it.

You do whatever you have to do, but the situation needs to be changed
permanently. BN would _never_ be welcome in my home.


Wayne Boatwright

==

I think it is obvious she has mental problems. Remember, she is a relative
after all ...



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