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Dave Smith[_1_]

On 2017-10-23 2:33 PM, wrote:
> On Mon, 23 Oct 2017 10:02:23 -0700 (PDT), dsi1 >

> There's a very simple solution. What we would do when people
> suggested getting together as a group and there may be some that we
> really didn't feel comfortable with at our home we suggested meeting
> at a restaurant. People can enjoy themselves to their heart's content
> and then pay their own tab. We used to do that all the time, with
> family and friends, no one feels put out. And whoever chose for
> whatever reason not to attend could decline.

I suppose if she had to pay her own way she would decline. The last time
I treated her she took advantage. There were lunch specials that came
with a choice of soup or salad. She ordered it with soup, and then
ordered a large salad as well. That's two lunches. Then, just before
leaving to attend a cheese tasting, she ordered a cheese platter (for
two) for herself.

The last time I was in a restaurant with the woman her mother was
treating. BN orders a gourmet burger than comes with fries or salad, and
she ordered it with salad. A few minutes later, she called the waitress
over and ordered salad. When the meals were served shad asked about the
fries. The waitress thought she had wanted the salad instead of the
fries. Nope. She wanted both. The waitress scooted to the kitchen to
correct the order and get the fries, but a couple minutes later she
calls the waitress back and cancels the order for the fries. Now the
waitress has to go back to the kitchen to cancel the fries. About 5
minutes later, she calls the waitress over and orders the fries.

I don't know if you have ever been in a party where someone keeps
changing their order, or uses other means to monopolize a server. My
experience is that the server disappears. They don't want to waste their
time running back and forth for nothing. They prefer to wait on the
less demanding tables. When I had to sit near her and her husband at a
recent buffet event her husband commented that waiters often get mad at
them. Who can blame them for getting frustrated?