On Fri, 24 Nov 2017 09:25:43 -0500, jmcquown >
wrote:

>On 11/23/2017 12:09 PM, Wayne Boatwright wrote:
>> On Thu 23 Nov 2017 08:06:38a, jmcquown told us...
>>
>>> On 11/22/2017 5:39 PM, Dave Smith wrote:
>>>> I had to fly out to BC last weekend to attend a celebration of
>>>> life for my oldest and bested friend who had died suddenly.Â* He
>>>> had a large extended family. He had one daughter, two stepsons
>>>> and two stepdaughters, and a bunch more extended family that
>>>> included the kids' half brothers and half sisters, and more who
>>>> adored the guy. Some of the kids own a "Organic Farm Community
>>>> and Wellness Centre Organic Farm" on Saltspring Island where the
>>>> hosted the event.
>>>>
>>>> There were no church lady sandwiches. In fact, I don't remember
>>>> any bread at all. There was a platted piled high with slices of
>>>> salami and a couple types of cheese, a platter of the most
>>>> delicious onion tarts you could imagine, a platter of the 4 or 5
>>>> huge fillets of smoked salmon, a couple platters of assorted
>>>> cheeses.... Brie, Camenbert, creamy Brie, Blue cheeses and many
>>>> more.Â* Then there huge selection of fresh fruits. They had an
>>>> assortment of nice wines, Champagne and some craft beers.
>>>>
>>>> My friend had been a musician and some of his friends and former
>>>> band mates provided the music.
>>>>
>>> I'm sorry for the reason, it's no fun to lose a friend. I'm glad
>>> it wasn't the church-lady sandwiches and casseroles in a church
>>> basement. I've never actually attended a dead spread, just heard
>>> about them here.
>>>
>>> Jill
>>>
>>
>> Barb Schaller used to write about them on occasion. I've only been
>> to one and it was truly wonderful food.
>>
>Yep, Barb sort of coined the phrase on RFC.
>
>The first funeral I attended was for a girl I went to high school with.
>She had just graduated a few months before. She was killed in a car
>crash on her way home from work. It was too depressing to consider
>going back to her family's house for a gnosh. The only funerals I've
>been to since then were my parents'. After Dad's funeral Mom was in no
>shape to deal with visitors. When I was making the arrangements she
>said NO to the idea of a dead spread.
>
>Jill

The one church service I attended to honor the recently deceased
served food in the side yard but it wasn't called a dead spread...
was simply called a Feed.