Janet wrote:
>
> However you usually serve food at table, for the visit, I suggest you
> cook plenty of meat or fish and veg then plate up everyone's meal in the
> kitchen. Invite her to help so she can plate her own meal.That way she
> selects the right amount of the right food combination and discreetly
> avoids anything unsuitable.

Whenever I have dinner guests, I leave all in the kitchen then
let everyone go in with a plate and put what they want on the
plate. That solves many problems.