On Tue, 25 Dec 2018 18:32:12 -0800, "Julie Bove"
> wrote:

>"Bruce" > wrote in message
.. .
>> On Mon, 24 Dec 2018 14:47:18 -0500, wrote:
>>
>>>I don't like a very large kitchen where people can hang out. I have a
>>>spacious enough galley kitchen, very efficient, and I don't want/allow
>>>anyone helping me cook. I don't want to be distracted with any
>>>conversating while I'm cooking either. I have lots of cabinet and
>>>counter space and an over-size SS sink. I don't want guests rummaging
>>>in my cabinets and fridge because they never put things back where
>>>they found them. When people go out to eat they don't help the cook
>>>or wander about their kitchen, I operate the same. When I bring my
>>>car to the mechanic they don't allow me in their work space either.
>>>When I visit someone I respect their space the same as I expect guests
>>>to respect my space. I never tell guests to make themselves at home,
>>>they can make themselves at home at their home... otherwise they'll be
>>>drawing themselves a bath and napping in my bed. In fact I don't want
>>>guests watching TV... if watching TV is more important than visiting
>>>they'd best stay home or visit a sports bar.
>>
>> This reads like the diary of a neurotic control freak. The least
>> relaxed man in the state.
>
>We should let Steve decide. He has the psych. degree.

But I'm a very creative amateur psychologist.