"Nancy Young" > wrote in message
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> Vox Humana wrote:
>
> > In addition, I suspect that there are some mental health issues. As I
> > mentioned in some other posts in this thread, she has 15 dogs in a
single
> > family home. She isn't home all day and the dogs aren't housebroken.
They
> > have literally destroy her home -- ****ing on the carpeting and
furniture
> > and chewing the wallpaper, furniture, and woodwork. She has a couple of
> > adult children who are nearly as bad as well as some grandkids who I
feel
> > sorry for because they are left to own devices to survive. I think that
her
> > lifestyle has been slowly distorted and she has lost all reference to
how
> > most people live. Her son also destroys the house. When you walk into
a
> > situation like that it is very overwhelming -- at least it was for me.
She
> > has had time to adapt to the dysfunction, but it was a shock to me.
Even
> > last year it was bad, but not this bad.
>
> Believe it or not, I knew someone like that, you could be describing
> her. Really, the stories I could tell. She was my boss for a time.
> When she left (was fired), they had to fumigate her cube, it was
> crawling with fleas. You get the general idea. A coworker's husband
> is a roofer, he did her roof and my friend called him there. When he
> got home he said NEVER CALL ME THERE AGAIN. He had to go into the
> house to answer, and the filth and dog and cat feces all over the
> place grossed him out.
>
> I have no idea what the problem was, but she was/is obviously
> mentally ill and should be on some kind of medication.
>
> nancy

My relative had a series of dysfunctional marriages (4 in total), with the
longest one being to an alcoholic. I think she has the classic co-dependant
behavior where she tries to manipulate the environment to create her own
private reality. I can't imagine what it would be like to work with her.
She is so manipulative and demanding. Nothing is as it appears on the
surface. I was so anxious and depressed when I left. It is one of those
situations where I can't imagine it getting better. In some respects I
think she is addicted to turmoil.