"Sheryl Rosen" wrote in message
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>
> In my apparently low-brow social circle, it is not only considered NOT
> rude
> to offer to contribute when invited to dinner, it is usually welcome with
> open arms and included in the menu plan.
>

I will always ask if there is something I can bring when I'm invited, but I
don't ask twice if the answer in no. I rarely if ever will show up empty
handed. I'll usually bring a bottle of wine. It doesn't matter to me one way
or another whether that wine is served at the get together. I figure that
once I give the wine to the hosts it is theirs to do with as they please.

Thanks,
-Mike