>Sheryl Rosen
>
>I have no idea what will be served for Thanksgiving, as I'm going to my
>friend's house and it will be whatever her Mom and she cook up. I offered
>to bring either a side dish or a pie. Whichever I'm told to do, that's what
>I will bring. I have never had Thanksgiving with them, only Christmas (ham)
>and Easter (Lamb) but her mom is a wonderful cook and I have no doubt it
>will all be delicious!

I also don't bring a "dish" to someone elses dinner, nor do I permit guests to
bring any to mine (if they do it won't get served), in fact it won't even get
refrigerated, all my fridge space is planned... they are free to retrieve their
dish on their way out (I won't even peek to see what it is). I always tell
guests *emphatically* not to bring anything other than a pleasant disposition
and an appetite, NO dishes. I think it's very rude, especially after being
told in no uncertain terms not to bring a dish they do, and then expecting it
to be served... NOT! When I host a dinner I tend to it in its entirety from
soup to nuts, including all drinks and dessert, I don't want anyone fercockting
up my dinner menu with their kind of surprises... anyone needs to show off
their kitchen prowess feel free to host your own dinners. You wanna bring
wine, feel free, but I consider that a gift for the host and it won't get
served (I would be rude to give away a gift given to me)... if it's good wine
I'll happily drink it myself, afterwards, if it's rot gut it'll go down the
drain, later... I wouldn't make a gift of rotten wine... and that's the point,
I don't want to get maneuvered into serving your crap at my dinner. When I
accept a dinner invitation I bring a host/ess gift with no expectation it will
be served to the other guests, in fact I take great offense at someone giving
away my gift to total strangers, especially right in my face (I don't give away
someones gift either, see above). I usually bring flowers, chocolates, or
Champagne, and would be very offended if at the end of dinner they gave my gift
to one of their schnorrer guests to take home... I'd never again accept their
invite. Of course what someone does with a *gift* unbeknownst to the giver is
no ones business, it's a gift after all... but somehow that kind of crassness
always manages to surface.

And I especially don't appreciate someone thinking that if they bring a dish
that excuses them from any and all reciprosity. I'll extend a dinner invitation
once, perhaps twice... after that they still don't invite me to their dinner
it's all over... I hate schnorrers, in all their mutations.


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