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in article , Peter Aitken at
wrote on 11/7/04 3:42 PM:
> There's certanily nothing wrong with the joint effort approach and it can
> indeed be a lot of fun. However neither of you seem to have read the
> original complaint which was when guests are specifically asked *NOT* to
> bring anything and then they do and expect it to be served.
Actually, no, that's incorrect.
Sheldon's post was in direct response to mine, and the part he quoted was
where I mentioned I was going to a friend's for Thanksgiving and I offered
to bring a side dish or pie, whatever they tell me to bring.
He is the one who mentioned specifically asking his guests not to bring
anything. Which is great if that's how you do it and your friends understand
that. But the way it was written, it was easy to think that he presumed my
offer would not be welcome, because at his place, it wouldn't be.
That presumption just isn't true in my case. I know these people, I have
eaten with them many, many times, and I have shared many holidays with them.
And I understand that my offering is welcome.
I never said I was asked not to bring something, but I would anyway. I said
I would bring whatever I was asked to bring. Huge difference.
> Some hosts go to
> a lot of effort to plan every aspect of a meal, from appetizers to main
> course to side dishes, wines, and desserts. It is planned as an entire
> entity, with each element complementing the others, not just a mish-mash of
> dishes. Your green bean casserole, no matter how good it is, will not fit
> in!
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> Peter Aitken
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