Why not have coffee, red wine, and milk ? I'd prefer a good Zin, such
as Storybook Mountain's Eastern Exposure, but I don't pretend that
eveyone else should have the same opinion. Others might suggest a
Banyuls, but that can be bit on the alcoholic side for your needs. And
yes, tannic red wines can be a headache trigger. It is for me, and I
like red wine. Moderation and rehydration are key. And worrying about
it only makes it worse.

Dean G.