PENMART01 > wrote in message
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> >> As an aside, I wonder why you are so angry with the OP? I
> >> understand where he's coming from, but even if I didn't I
> >> sure wouldn't ridicule him for being frustrated with the
> >> hosts of the parties he's attended.
> >>
> >I don't suffer fools and boors; he qualifies as both. He is
> >someone thatgoes to parties, scarfs down everything in sight,
> >offers a minimal item (See's candies) and then trashes the
> >host/hostess to anyone outside the party. "Oh I went to
> >their party... It sucked man..."
> >
> >> Maybe you aren't aware that in some circles it is nigh unto
> >> mandatory to make an appearance at many holiday parties
> >> hosted by clients, bosses, business peers, etc and a refusal
> >> would be rude, and possible career suicide.
> >
> >I've been to many of those shin-digs. You show up, let the boss,
> >the boss' boss, and two levels higher see you. And then you leave.
> >In the meantime, you mingle. Billy-Joe-Jim-Bob wasn't at this
> >type of formal party; he was at an acquaintance's apartment and
> >is trashing the lack of anything remotely signifying his demanding
> >tastes. In those cases, the "I have a root canal" excuse is applicable.
> >
> >> I too wonder why people "have" parties when they so
> >> obviously don't give a crap enough to provide even the
> >> most basic of hospitality. Perhaps they don't want to
> >> have them in the first place, but do because it's required
> >> of their position at work. Holiday parties seem to bring
> >> out the worst in both hosts and guests.
> >
> >You said it yourself in your previous post; some people are still
> >doing the "dorm thing" and providing the space is their only
> >requirement. Sometimes they'll (or a guest that has a little more
> >sense) raid the meager pantry to help with alcohol absorption.
> ><shrug> It's not a party /I/ like attending but I've seen plenty
> >of them.
> >
> >No. More likely, Billy-Joe-Jim-Bob is a whining parasite that is
> >one of those albatross that /have/ to be invited.
> >
> Your diatribe sounds like your assumptions are based solely on
> recounting and rationalizing your own behaviour.

"Rationalizing" my own behavior? Heh. Yeah. That's it. I need something like
you (human dogshit) to point that out.

> Unfortunately the OP has made made legitimate points.

There were no valid point beyond his being a boor of extraordinary
proporations and cheap to boot. An informal party is just that; informal and
(usually) low-key. It's akin to a beer-bash; enter at your own peril.

> It's rude beyond reproach to waste people's time and efforts
> by their feeble attempt at playing host/ess beyond their
> capabilities.

Not everyone throws out beans and pastas as filler for their guests like
you've stated repeatedly.

> it's embarassing to endure any affair, especially a dinner, where
> the host/ess has provided the proverbial one meatball and no
> spaghetti. When I find myself in the situation where everything
> is metted out so exactly I instantly develop an emergency
> requiring my departure... better to cut my losses early.

And their's...

> Naturally I never again accept an invite from those clods, nor
> do I ever invite them.

A win-win if ever there was a case.

The Ranger