"Edwin Pawlowski" > wrote in message
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> "Nancy Young" > wrote in message
>> The scariest thing you said, no offense meant, is the bill paying thing
>> ...
>> if you kick the bucket tomorrow, is she equipped to take care of the
>> finances? Does she know where the money is? Etc?
>
> I meant paid the bill in a restaurant.

Oh! (laugh) That's a little different. I was quite surprised to see you
say something like that, recipe for disaster.

> She has paid the bills at home, but you do bring up a very god point.
> Often when the spouse in charge of finance dies, the other is left with
> problems. I've take some precaustion on that. For one thing, I pay some
> bills on line but I keep the paper statements coming "just in case" the
> computer dies or I do.

Good move. I pay the bills, but I have most of them automatically
deducted from my checking account, I just keep way too much money
in my account so I don't even have to think about it.

> As for the other things, she is actually quite capable, but I prefer to do
> it for her. She does other things for me. When I get out of the shower in
> the morning, my breakfast is ready and my lunch is made and packed.

Hey, I didn't mean to imply she was incompetent. I knew when I posted
I was skating on thin ice.

> No offense taken. My brohter passed away just over a year ago. his wife
> had no clue about some things. Every one should have an envelope iwth at
> least basic insructions how to find bank accounts, insurance policies,
> pasword to the computer or any other little bits of information to help
> those left with the chore of settling things.

I could not agree more. I keep a file in a safe place, plus people know
where
to find it. Unfortunately, and I'm dreading it, I just have to call my
mother and
ask about that ... after all, I'm her executor, I couldn't tell you where
her money
is, like that.

nancy