Gar wrote:

>
> I'm with you. I wouldn't go. I had a young family member who got
> married a few years ago. She was asking "around" if people thought it
> was OK to ask one of the more affluent family members to help pay for
> a wedding. Talk about a turnoff.

That takes nerve. We had our wedding reception at my in law's house. They
sold the house a few years later and moved into an apartment. Apparently, the
house changed hands again two or three years later. My very obnoxious niece
(who has been the subject of several rants here already) had the nerve to ask
the new owners if she could have her wedding reception there. She was
actually surprised when they rejected her request. I suppose she is too self
centred to realize that no one in their right mind would clean up their house
and vacate it to allow a complete stranger to host a party with a whole lot
of other strangers in their house.

It is an odd situation. Naturally we were happy to think that someone had
enjoyed our wedding reception so much that they would want to do the same
thing at the same place, but it would never occur to me to even think about
asking someone to allow my friends and family to use their house for a major
party even if I knew them. I could never ask a stranger for something like
that. I would be more inclined to take myself to the local psycho ward if I
started thinking like that.





>
>
> >Limited open bars usually stop at dinner time, for
> >> those who don't have a clue.
> >
> >Your experience is far from universal.
>
> I've never seen or heard of it either. But after reading SF's posts
> on and off for a few years I'm sure I wouldn't be friends with people
> like her.
>
> >I'm from the mid-south, and IME there, open bars don't close until the
> >couple wants the guests to go home. And most receptions aren't sit-down
> >dinners; they're what's known as 'heavy hors d'oevres' which means
> >entree-type food in portions that fit on small plates (think tapas
> >buffet). No assigned seating, and sometimes seating for only 1/2 the
> >guests, thus forcing people to mingle. That's what my wedding was like.
>
> I've not been to a wedding like that, but a few very high-end
> Christmas party's. This year we went to a part held at the Hyatt
> Lodge located in the McDonald's Campus. When I heard the "M" word I
> gasped. I was assured that we wouldn't be eating McShitties food.
>
> The party was supposed to be from 7-10 pm. Traffic was very light and
> we got there a few minutes early. The bar was open, food was out,
> servers were at their stations, and a chef was at her cooking station
> to work her private magic for each person who wished. There were a
> few hundred people there and maybe 25 chairs at low tables. The rest
> of the tables were standing height and not many of them. I was the
> designated driver and the token date. I met lots of people, Had fun
> conversation. Heard great piano music. ETC. I've never been to a
> party of strangers and had more fun. The forum you've described is
> awesome.
>
> >I've been to a few weddings in and around NYC, and it was entirely
> >different from what I was used to: Open bar with 'cocktail hour' until
> >dinner, then only wine or beer served by waiters with assigned seating
> >at a sit-down dinner, where you didn't get up again unless you wanted to
> >dance or had to go to the bathroom. Personally, I hate being tied to a
> >table.
>
> The weddings I've been to like that opened the bar up as soon as
> dinner was done without any restrictions.
>
> >I've also been a to potluck weddings in state parks and back yards where
> >there was little or no alcoholic drinks.
>
> Well,,,,,potluck? You must have known what you were in for?
>
> >And don't get me started on my
> >in-laws' Pittsburgh and Rochester NY weddings!
>
> LOL How about a wedding that the grooms father had put a $100 cap on
> the bar. The first 5 people in line got through with backups. The
> rest were at a cash bar.
>
> Gar