On 30 Dec 2003 19:23:57 GMT, Cate >
wrote:

>Gar <> wrote in :
>
>> I'm with you. I wouldn't go. I had a young family member who got
>> married a few years ago. She was asking "around" if people thought it
>> was OK to ask one of the more affluent family members to help pay for
>> a wedding. Talk about a turnoff.
>
>Good lord.

I made the right choice by not attending. They had dinner, dancing,
cake. Coffee, water, juice. Luckily there was a bar in the
complex that people could go and pay bar prices for a soda. I guess
they did what they could afford, but a rented canopy, a few tubs of
soda on ice, and catered chicken would have been better from the
reports I heard.

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> Yes, that's pretty much how my wedding was.

Your wedding sounds great.

>> Well,,,,,potluck? You must have known what you were in for?
>
>Sure. I was just pointing out to sf, who so wanted to give me a clue
>about how weddings are done in his/her part of the world, that each
>wedding is different from the next.

You can't point anything out to her. She's clueless.

>> LOL How about a wedding that the grooms father had put a $100 cap on
>> the bar. The first 5 people in line got through with backups. The
>> rest were at a cash bar.
>
>Good god. I remember getting really annoyed the first time I encountered
>a cash bar at a wedding. It was actually a bar with barstools and TVs
>going, and this was in a reception hall that routinely hosted weddings.
>The wedding party came in drunk and rowdy, beer bottles in hand, after
>having done their photo duties for several *hours.*

More proof that a cash bar doesn't control drunkenness.

>And what is WITH people who schedule their weddings at 2pm but their
>receptions not until 7pm?

That's as bad as a cash bar. One of the nicer weddings I've attended
had the ceremony in the hall. Hors-d'oeuvres and cocktails were
served in another room during the pictures. Worked great.

Gar