Serendipity wrote:
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> I just don't talk about it. A couple of very close friends. They
> came to the funeral. We just don't talk about it. People are
> uncomfortable if I mention the murder on the very rare occasion.
> They get very antsy and very quiet then they act very nervous. I've
> learned to just keep quiet.


They are nervous because they don't know what to say to help, not
necessarily because they don't wanna hear about it. (Maybe they don't
want to hear about it, but that's a totally different issue and you
can't assume anything.) If you don't want to talk about it because you
don't want to talk about it, that's fine. If you don't want to talk
about it because it makes your friends clam up and act nervous, you are
doing them and yourself a disservice. "I've learned to just keep quiet"
sounds like you still have a lot to say.

Best regards,
Bob