zxcvbob wrote:

> Serendipity wrote:
> [snip]
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>> I just don't talk about it. A couple of very close friends. They
>> came to the funeral. We just don't talk about it. People are
>> uncomfortable if I mention the murder on the very rare occasion.
>> They get very antsy and very quiet then they act very nervous. I've
>> learned to just keep quiet.
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>
>
> They are nervous because they don't know what to say to help, not
> necessarily because they don't wanna hear about it. (Maybe they don't
> want to hear about it, but that's a totally different issue and you
> can't assume anything.) If you don't want to talk about it because you
> don't want to talk about it, that's fine. If you don't want to talk
> about it because it makes your friends clam up and act nervous, you are
> doing them and yourself a disservice. "I've learned to just keep quiet"
> sounds like you still have a lot to say.

Hey Bob, I probably have a lot to say on the matter but I don't. I find
comfort in cooking. When I have a real bad day, I cook and cook. On
days like this, my freezer and fridge as well as anyone close by are
well stocked with food. Somehow it eases the pain and soothes the soul
I can't explain it but it does help.
>
> Best regards,
> Bob