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>
> > I now have the case where a person who comes to my house to dine
> makes me
> > cringe.
>
> I see a couple of possibilities:
>
> 1) Who is closest (relationship-wise) to this guest? Doesn't sound
> like you're the one inviting him over. Have that person say a few
> words, tactfully and privately. I don't think it is your place to say
> anything - unless you are very good friends already.

I had to do that sort of thing to someone once. The guy has a habit of
saying and doing things that really ****ed people off to the point where
people would ask us not to bring him along or tell him about dinners,
parties etc. When he found out about a dinner party he suggested he would
invite himself along and had to tell him that he was not welcome because he
didn't know how to behave. He was a little upset, but not enough to
improve his behaviour.

A few years ago he moved a long way away, but close to an old mutual friend
who dreaded his arrival. The last time I talked to the mutual friend he
told me the guy had actually cleaned up his act. They had a long talk one
night and said he said that he realized that he didn't have many friends
and the friends he did have didn't want much to do with him.