Wayne Boatwright at wrote on 5/8/05 12:56 AM:

> On Sat 07 May 2005 09:38:57p, Damsel in dis Dress wrote in
> rec.food.cooking:

>> For me, Mother's Day is all about my miscarriages, my tubal pregnancy,
>> my grown daughter who hates me, and my mom, who I have missed for 21
>> years. I can't wait for it to be over.
>>
>> Carol
>
> I understand. Since I lost my mother I simply cannot bear the day.

I was miserable the first 8 Mother's Days or so without my mom.

Then one year, it occurred to me: It's a stupid made-up "Holiday"
anyway--why get upset over something that is actually quite meaningless,
just because it no longer applied to me? Now, I just go about my business
like it's any other day. Maybe go to the cemetary, if I feel I'll get
something out of it. I think last year, I released a helium balloon at the
beach, after saying a prayer. I do always acknowledge her in some way, even
if it's just to think about something nice we did together. But I learned,
after years of making myself miserable over it, that Mother's Day is NOT
worth getting all upset over.

Let's face it, Mother's day gets hyped up by the marketers who benefit from
it: Greeting Card manufacturers, florists, restaurants, retail stores, etc.

The 2nd Sunday in May is not some "magical" day when your Mom becomes more
important than any other day. It's just some day, randomly selected about a
hundred years ago, to honor mothers. (see below for link to history of
Mother's Day).

http://www.holidays.net/mother/story.htm

Once "Mother's Day" became just another Sunday in May to me, I am a much
happier person. Don't get me wrong, I still miss my Mom profoundly, even
after almost 15 years. But no more or less than I do on some random
Thursday in September.