On Mon, 03 Oct 2005 21:00:20 GMT, Nellie Paris >
wrote:

>>
>>I thought this article was quite interesting. I find it very
>>interesting that the reseach found that people do not tip based on
>>service mostly.
>>
>>I look for good service, so I guess I must be in the minority. I
>>mean, it doesn't take much to notice the difference (its not like it
>>is much of a discussion at the table unless the server is particularly
>>good or particularly bad).
>
>I noticed in serving for 15 years that people have vastly differing
>opinions of what good service is, or even what friendliness is.
>
>I did not believe on getting buddy-buddy with people I was serving (I
>find that intrusive) nor would I ever have *touched* them, but to some
>that would mean I was cold and unfriendly. I would certainly never
>stoop down at tables. I don't believe a server should have a leering
>smile at all times either, but some patrons seem to be obsessed with
>how much you smile.
>
>I was also taught to space courses and never pile courses up on the
>table at the same time, but some customers feel that is slow service.
>

Mmmm. I am quite flexible with what I consider good service.
Standard good service I would call cordial, polite, and lack of a
frown or blank expression (mild smile or friendliness is fine). I
know attentiveness is subjective, but at least being around so I can
signal you is fine, too.

The first time, years ago, I went into a restaurant and the server was
buddy-buddy, I was a little taken aback. I don't mind it, but I do
find it a little odd.



MR