Julia Altshuler wrote:

> I've thought more about the question of what makes a fussy adult and how
> to deal with them. I've decided that the definition of fussy is someone
> who can't find anything to eat in a restaurant or social gathering or
> someone who can't be polite in those situations.

That could be my nephew. While it is possible for him to find something to
eat, if there are lots of options, and he will whine about the lack of choice.

> Example: I don't eat raw fish. I know that lots of people adore sushi
> bars, but I can't bring myself to try it.

Nothing wrong with some raw fish, but I realize some people are squeamish
about it. Personally. I think most fish tastes better cooked than raw,
especially the sushi I have had.

> From time to time I'll be at a friend's home when they're serving
> something I don't like, but I can normally find a way to eat something
> else they're serving without calling attention to myself. I certainly
> don't have to bring my own food (though I normally offer to bring a dish).

When eating at friends' places I tend to eat only small portions of potatoes,
tomatoes, and avoid completely all citrus and nuts. I like them, but I suffer
if I eat them, I prefer to just not make a fuss and would rather do without
than make a fuss.

> There are actually a fair number of foods that I don't like. Some of
> them I don't eat because of legitimate health concerns. Others don't
> make sense, but I'm always able to order something in a restaurant or
> turn down food politely.

That was what really bothered me about my nephew at Christmas. There were lots
of options, things I had made, and those that his brother, his mother and and
his grandmother had contributed. Instead of just declining, he whines and
pouts. He is way past the age where that would be acceptable, and old enough
to know that if he is so damned picky he can bring along something he does
like.


> The stories of people who can be offered 10 desserts, turn them all
> down, and insist on going out for something different, amuse and horrify
> me. THAT'S fussy.

I was raised to eat what was offered. I try to offer a selection. When it
comes to people who are that picky I would simply rather not bother.