Nancy Young wrote:
> I agree with you, Goomba. If one is, indeed, religious, do you
> actually think God is looking down (caring one way or another if
> you drink milk with meat) and saying, embarrass your guest by
> pointing out their mistake!
>
> She was a gracious host. No second guessing.

Do you think G-d cares about anything? No? Then you are probably basing it on
your own values and understanding as to what G-d wants. From the Jewish
perspective, we look to G-d to see what He wants and not double guess things
either. From the *Jewish* (and I mean "orthodox" when I say that) perspective
this means we have a tradition dating back to Moses (he wasn't playing chess
with G-d for 40 days and forty nights) and guidelines from that as to how to
decide what is required of us and what is optional and what is just nice. The
Torah has a law that says "Do not put a stumbling block before the blind".
Tradition tells us that that means more than just not causing some blind
person to fall. It is referring to someone who does not know better while you
do and then whether they realise it or not you cause them to stumble in a
matter. While it may not be held against that person for drinking milk after
meat because that person due to their circumstances does not know better, it
*CAN* be held against the person who gives it who *DOES* in fact know better
(from the Torah perspective at least and if you believe in the Torah then that
is what you follow).

Also, a gracious host can be just as gracious while explaining in a nice way
what is what. It can be done discretely. There is no reason to embarass anyone
(in fact forbidden from the Jewish perspective).

regards,
Ben