> > I don't really understand your hostility about this. The only
> > suggestion I have made is that parents can make an effort to
> > see that their children deal better with things that parents
> > have a hard time with. It's normal, isn't it, for us to want and
> > expect our kids to rise above our weaknesses? As it happens

The problem with this rationale is it doesn't work with a real phobia.


Example, I always knew I didn't like enclosed spaces. I don't like
sitting in a restaurant booth where I feel cramped. When DH & I went
camping years ago we decided we would sleep in the back of our truck.
The bed of the truck had one of those hard covers. I made curtains to
go over the windows & we put a mattress in the bed also. The
campground had no lights & I woke up in the middle of the night in
complete darkness not knowing where I was. I had a full blown panic
attack. I actually felt like I couldn't breath. I didn't even know I
had that in me. This was all unexpected & uncontrollable.

> > I don't have any full-fledged phobias

Then you wouldn't really know what it 't like then.