In article >,
Dave Smith > wrote:
> Isn't it sad that it has become so common that those people aren't
> bothered by it. My mother is a little upset with my brothers this
> week. We were all invited to an aunt's 80th birthday party to be held
> next weekend. It is a 2-3 hour drive each way for us. I was the one
> who got the invitation and was asked to call the rest and get back to
> them. My mother definitely wanted to go and my oldest brother wanted
> to go. The other two brothers said no. So I got back to my cousin
> and told here that 5 of us were coming. Meanwhile, the oldest brother
> decided that he wasn't going to go, then he was. Apparently I was
> supposed to call him about the details. When I called he said they
> weren't going. They have a great excuse. Someone ( I don't know who)
> is going to a wedding and they are going to be baby-sitting that
> person's daughter. Then I found out that the other two brothers are
> going. One has not called to confirm that he is going, and I really
> doubt that the one who is backing out has called to cancel. And I am
> not doing it for him. I am not going to call and make excuses for my
> brother. He is old enough to do that himself.

I have been asked to extend invitations to my adult children (as it
sounds like you were above - the adult part, anyway). I provide the
host with contact information and tell them that I do not wish to be
involved in the invitation. It ain't my party and I refuse to be put
into the middle of the invitation and acceptance process. I refuse.

I don't accept or acknowledge second hand invitations. My SIL's
relatives have invited us to their family events and I ask Beck (the
appointed messenger) to have the host contact me directly. They're
quite willing to do it - it seems to be a matter of not having contact
info,
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