Sheldon wrote:
>
> The Bubbo wrote:
>> Sheldon wrote:
>> > But what if she really and truly didn't want a new stove, and not
>> > particulary that one... she could have just been day dreaming out loud,
>> > because you were getting a new appliance she didn't want to be left out
>> > of the shopping celebration. My father did that to my mother with a
>> > refrigerator - very similar story - she was so ****ed that it was a
>> > long time before she resumed cooking for him and at every opportunity
>> > would make disparaging comments about the new fridge to anyone who
>> > would listen, how the old one was better, this way, that way, every
>> > which way...
>>
>> suddenly everything becomes clearer.
>> Everyone comes from somewhere and your road map has been made apparent.
>> Nice.
>
> You sound exactly like the kind of chattel that would don her best knee
> pads for getting a vacuum cleaner on Valentines day.
>

Unlike you, I don't judge and denigrate people when they give a gift. I
imagine gift giving must be pretty tense around your house, people living in
high anxiety trying to find the right gift, the gift that won't have you
declaring them cheap or pretentious or snotty. Are you at least considerate
enough to make up an easy to reference chart for them to use so they can stay
out of '****' or 'dirty wop' territory?

Or are you one of those that tells people exactly what gift to give you?

I think LadyJane did something lovely for her mother and I think it is
presumptuous on your part to declare you understand their relationship better
than they do, it is an error on your part to presuppose all the things you
did.

I think it's sad you grew up seeing such bitterness and anger in your parents,
it's obviously affected you. Normally, I wouldn't want to make sweeping
judgements about someone based on just a few things posted, but you've made it
obvious that it is in fact the acceptable and normal thing to do.

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