On Jun 6, 1:49?pm, Dan Abel > wrote:
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> "jmcquown" > wrote:
> > Sheldon wrote:
> > > Dan Abel wrote:
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> > >> The first question that pops into my mind when I hear someone
> > >> complaining about their ex is, "Then why did you marry this person?".
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> > > Only a loser would think to ask such a dumb question.
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> > > A much smarter question is to ask someone why they stay married to
> > > such a loser.
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> > > Sheldon
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> > Not to mention, people change. I'm certainly not the same person I was in
> > my 20's. But sometimes (skyhooks can back me up on this!) a person is very
> > good at hiding what they are really like until after the wedding. It's
> > almost like the marriage license gives them license to turn into a jackass
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> That's two very good answers to the question. I'm not trying to make a
> judgement here, I'm really curious. Not curious enough to ask, of
> course.

Most divorces occur due to being much too young at the time of the
marriage to make a committment that requires a fairly high degree of
maturity. But some years later when one develops a degree of maturity
enough to realize they're with the wrong person they are hopefully
intelligent enough to divorce. And many do this a number of times,
because it isn't possible to really know how someone will be within a
marriage until after the marriage anyway. Those who stay with the
wrong person through a lifetime of concealed misery are the real
dummies because it's far smarter to divorce than to martyr ones life
away.

Sheldon