jmcquown wrote:
>
> It's just plain rude, Dave, but then you know that already. She obviously
> doesn't care what you think or how you feel. I would suggest installing a
> keyed lock on the pantry door. When the neice is going to be in attendance,
> lock it the door and hide the key in your bedroom. Then be prepared to snap
> a photo of the look of surprise on her face when the door won't open.

I think that the sad thing is that she really doesn't care. I had to zip
my lip the other day when she was telling me how much she admires me
because of my interest in cooking and my culinary skills and how it is her
passion. Obsession would be more accurate.

Putting a lock on the panty would be difficult because it is a long shallow
closet with a set of bifold doors and it would lead me to explain why I
lock it. I should be able to just confront the woman and tell her to stay
the hell of of my pantry and out of my fridge..... and while she is at
it..... park her fat ass away from the buffet so that someone else can get
to the table and find some food. It is a pain in the ass to spend hours
preparing for a family gathering and then have her show up early and
proceed to eat up everything there before the others arrive. I don't want
to have to put things out a bit at a time. I would prefer to spend time
with the rest of the guests. I don't have an extra fridge and room to keep
the stuff, and I should not have to.

This past event was organized a little differently. She and her husband
showed up a little earlier than others. We kept them outside talking until
the others showed up. Then I herded everyone out to the patio and escorted
her to the seat in the corner so that it would be too much effort for her
to get out and past everyone else. After our walk in the back I brought
out one thing at a time, made sure that she got some and then placed it at
the less crowded end of the table, passing it to her whenever she asked,
but not leaving anything close enough that she could scarf it back before
the others had some.

Personally, I would prefer not to have her in my house, but it was a family
party, and in honour of her mother's birthday. We never invite her and her
husband on their own, have excuses prepared in case they try to invite
themselves. We no longer have family Christmas parties here because my
stand was that if we had to invite her we weren't having it.

I know that she has a problem. It is not my problem. her mother knows she
has a problem. She is 48 <?>. She thinks of herself as a BBW, not the FFS
the rest of us see her as.