What kinda rocks in her head does this mom have? What 18 month old needs
a baby bottle with Coca Cola in it?? And this child would eat better
if mom didn't offer up the crap.....

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/ar...iet-chips.html


By James Tozer
Last updated at 7:58 AM on 09th June 2008

She's only 18 months old, but Courtney Boswell's diet of chips - and
not much else - means she weighs as much as the average four-year-old.

But despite being warned her daughter's future health is at risk, her
mother Angela insists the toddler will grow up just fine.

Miss Boswell, 33, said persuading Courtney to eat healthier foods has
proved almost impossible.
baby courtney boswell obese at 18 months

Courtney Boswell, aged 18 months, lives on a diet of chips

She said: 'Most of all she loves chips. I ate a lot of chips in
chocolate sauce when I was pregnant with her so maybe it comes from that.

'I think she'll be fine when she's older - I'm not worried at all.

'People say she's getting podgy because her tummy sticks out a bit, but
it's just a bit of puppy fat and she will grow out of it.'

Courtney, who weighs 2st 2lbs, or half a stone more than the average
18-month-old, will this week feature in Wednesday's ITV1 documentary,
Britain's Biggest Babies.

The toddler, whose diet also occasionally extends to chocolate, crisps,
cereal and Coca-Cola, is shown devouring a portion of chips in just
under ten minutes.

But her mother insisted that a lack of vegetables is not for lack of trying.
obese baby courtney boswell with mother Angela

Courtney's mother Angela said she has tried to get her daughter to eat
vegetables but she refuses

'I've tried giving her healthy food but she won't eat it,' Miss Boswell
said. 'She will eat a bit of what we're having, say spaghetti bolognese,
and she had a massive bowl of mashed potato the other day.

'She might have a banana sometimes, or yoghurt, but she won't touch
vegetables - she picks them up and throws them.'

Nutritionist Jeanette Jackson said: 'This really is very bad, this poor
child.

'She is only 18 months and already she is chronically obese. The foods
she is being given lack vitamins and minerals. Her development will be
delayed and, if it continues, there is high risk of her getting a
chronic illness.'

Catherine Collins, from the British Dietetic Association, added: 'It can
take up to seven attempts to get a child to try something new but there
are ways of varying this diet and the family should seek advice from
their GP.'

But Miss Boswell - who has four other children, including a
five-month-old son, Kai, by partner Gary Quinn, 37 - insisted there
was nothing wrong with Courtney's diet.

'We don't have any big people in our family,' she said. 'If there were
I'd be more concerned, but the other kids have had similar diets and
been fine.

'She's a very healthy baby and it's not often she gets ill. She drinks
milk and sometimes Coke between her meals but she is very active. All
the children get veg, but I can't force them to eat it.'

Around 13.4 per cent of children under ten are now obese - so
overweight that it threatens their health - up from 9.9 per cent in 1995.

On Jun 10, 2:44*pm, Goomba > wrote:
> What kinda rocks in her head does this mom have? What 18 month old needs
> * a baby bottle with Coca Cola in it?? *And this child would eat better
> if mom didn't offer up the crap.....
>
> http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/ar...-just-18-month...
>
> By James Tozer
> Last updated at 7:58 AM on 09th June 2008
>
> She's only 18 months old, but Courtney Boswell's diet of chips *- *and
> not much else *- *means she weighs as much as the average four-year-old.
>
> But despite being warned her daughter's future health is at risk, her
> mother Angela insists the toddler will grow up just fine.
>
> Miss Boswell, 33, said persuading Courtney to eat healthier foods has
> proved almost impossible.
> baby courtney boswell obese at 18 months
>
> Courtney Boswell, aged 18 months, lives on a diet of chips
>
> She said: 'Most of all she loves chips. I ate a lot of chips in
> chocolate sauce when I was pregnant with her so maybe it comes from that.
>
> 'I think she'll be fine when she's older *- *I'm not worried at all.
>
> 'People say she's getting podgy because her tummy sticks out a bit, but
> it's just a bit of puppy fat and she will grow out of it.'
>
> Courtney, who weighs 2st 2lbs, or half a stone more than the average
> 18-month-old, will this week feature in Wednesday's ITV1 documentary,
> Britain's Biggest Babies.
>
> The toddler, whose diet also occasionally extends to chocolate, crisps,
> cereal and Coca-Cola, is shown devouring a portion of chips in just
> under ten minutes.
>
> But her mother insisted that a lack of vegetables is not for lack of trying.
> obese baby courtney boswell with mother Angela
>
> Courtney's mother Angela said she has tried to get her daughter to eat
> vegetables but she refuses
>
> 'I've tried giving her healthy food but she won't eat it,' Miss Boswell
> said. 'She will eat a bit of what we're having, say spaghetti bolognese,
> and she had a massive bowl of mashed potato the other day.
>
> 'She might have a banana sometimes, or yoghurt, but she won't touch
> vegetables *- *she picks them up and throws them.'
>
> Nutritionist Jeanette Jackson said: 'This really is very bad, this poor
> child.
>
> 'She is only 18 months and already she is chronically obese. The foods
> she is being given lack vitamins and minerals. Her development will be
> delayed and, if it continues, there is high risk of her getting a
> chronic illness.'
>
> Catherine Collins, from the British Dietetic Association, added: 'It can
> take up to seven attempts to get a child to try something new but there
> are ways of varying this diet and the family should seek advice from
> their GP.'
>
> But Miss Boswell *- *who has four other children, including a
> five-month-old son, Kai, by partner Gary Quinn, 37 *- *insisted there
> was nothing wrong with Courtney's diet.
>
> 'We don't have any big people in our family,' she said. 'If there were
> I'd be more concerned, but the other kids have had similar diets and
> been fine.
>
> 'She's a very healthy baby and it's not often she gets ill. She drinks
> milk and sometimes Coke between her meals but she is very active. All
> the children get veg, but I can't force them to eat it.'
>
> Around 13.4 per cent of children under ten are now obese *- *so
> overweight that it threatens their health *- *up from 9.9 per cent in 1995.

Damn, that's really disgusting. I say feed the kid a healthy meal-
when she's hungry enough, she'll eat it. Mom is being extremely lazy
there...

merryb wrote:

> Damn, that's really disgusting. I say feed the kid a healthy meal-
> when she's hungry enough, she'll eat it. Mom is being extremely lazy
> there...

Regarding Mom- She didn't look terribly healthy to me either, y'know?

On Jun 10, 3:25*pm, Goomba > wrote:
> merryb wrote:
> > Damn, that's really disgusting. I say feed the kid a healthy meal-
> > when she's hungry enough, she'll eat it. Mom is being extremely lazy
> > there...
>
> Regarding Mom- She didn't look terribly healthy to me either, y'know?

You're right about that- I wonder about the rest of her family. I
guess I was blessed with non- picky kids, but they were raised eating
everything the adults ate, and I won't do the short order cook thing,
so I guess they had no choice!

"Goomba" > wrote in message
...
> What kinda rocks in her head does this mom have? What 18 month old needs a
> baby bottle with Coca Cola in it?? And this child would eat better if mom
> didn't offer up the crap.....
>
> http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/ar...iet-chips.html
>
>
snippage


Is mom trying out for the Maury Povich show where he has moms bring out
their 812 lb. six year olds in their underpants and cry, 'I can't stop
them'......''they'll cry if I don't give them a whole fried chicken, 6 lbs.
of bacon and three dozen eggs and 18 donuts for breakfast'......fix them
Maury, but don't ask me to accept responsibility for this......

Duh, I guess it is too PC to do what our parents used to do......remember
'if you don't stop crying over something so silly I'm going to give you
something to cry for?' Let the beach ball with feet cry. Give them what
they NEED to keep them healthy not what they DEMAND. I like the Brit show
with a nutritionist named Jillian McKenna (I think that is her last
name).....she flat out tells them you are killing yourself and your kids.
-ginny

On Tue, 10 Jun 2008 15:36:33 -0700, merryb wrote:

> On Jun 10, 3:25*pm, Goomba > wrote:
>> merryb wrote:
>> > Damn, that's really disgusting. I say feed the kid a healthy meal-
>> > when she's hungry enough, she'll eat it. Mom is being extremely lazy
>> > there...
>>
>> Regarding Mom- She didn't look terribly healthy to me either, y'know?

Hard to tell really, from both pictures. Having 'head and shoulders' shots
doesn't give much away. In those pictures neither of them look
particularly obese to me - I've seen both adults and children that look
positively 'porcine'in the face - now that's obese in my book.

> You're right about that- I wonder about the rest of her family. I guess
> I was blessed with non- picky kids, but they were raised eating
> everything the adults ate, and I won't do the short order cook thing, so
> I guess they had no choice!

Both my kids have gotten whatever we were eating, and it certainly wasn't
chips (fries) every day. My kidlette likes fries, but we have them so
seldom it doesn't worry me if she eats them.

--
Cheers
Chatty Cathy

Egg tastes better when it's not on your face...

On Jun 11, 8:23*am, "Virginia Tadrzynski" > wrote:
> "Goomba" > wrote in message
>
> ...> What kinda rocks in her head does this mom have? What 18 month old needs a
> > baby bottle with Coca Cola in it?? *And this child would eat better if mom
> > didn't offer up the crap.....
>
> >http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/ar...-just-18-month...
>
> snippage
>
> Is mom trying out for the Maury Povich show where he has moms bring out
> their 812 lb. six year olds in their underpants and cry, 'I can't stop
> them'......''they'll cry if I don't give them a whole fried chicken, 6 lbs..
> of bacon and three dozen eggs and 18 donuts for breakfast'......fix them
> Maury, but don't ask me to accept responsibility for this......
>
> Duh, I guess it is too PC to do what our parents used to do......remember
> 'if you don't stop crying over something so silly I'm going to give you
> something to cry for?' *Let the beach ball with feet cry. * Give them what
> they NEED to keep them healthy not what they DEMAND. *I like the Brit show
> with a nutritionist named Jillian McKenna (I think that is her last
> name).....she flat out tells them you are killing yourself and your kids.
> -ginny

TLC used to have programs like that - there were two different series,
each with a different nutritionist-host. They would show how the fat
kids would look as variously-aged adults. Sometimes the family would
appear to be successful in changing habits, and sometimes not.

I don't understand why parents don't learn to say, "No," more often?
Kids, especially toddlers, really don't have any rights except for
housing, sufficient food, and clothing. They shouldn't be ruling the
roost.

The new definitions of obese make that toddler AND her mom look
obese. Look at the baby's neck fat, arm fat and the big crease at her
wrist. Some of this is "baby fat," but seeing mom's face and neck, I
would guess the whole family is pudgy/fat/obese, and the mom's just in
denial.

N.

On Jun 11, 9:23 am, "Virginia Tadrzynski" > wrote:

> Duh, I guess it is too PC to do what our parents used to do......remember
> 'if you don't stop crying over something so silly I'm going to give you
> something to cry for?' Let the beach ball with feet cry. Give them what
> they NEED to keep them healthy not what they DEMAND. I like the Brit show
> with a nutritionist named Jillian McKenna (I think that is her last
> name).....she flat out tells them you are killing yourself and your kids.
> -ginny

Some of it may be stupidity, some of it laziness. A lot of it is
"mother of 4 other kids, including a 5-month old." My DH was out
with the kids when DD was about a year old. I had to go pick
something up, and sent him off with the two boys and baby and told him
to get her a container of milk to go with the graham crackers we'd
brought along.

I come back in maybe 15 minutes, and DD has a bottle of brown stuff--
cola. DH said he couldn't find any milk in the cafeteria. I glared
at him, took the bottle, and went up to the counter and asked. The
guy took the bottle, emptied it, rinsed it, and poured the milk in. I
must have been scary looking, because they didn't charge me.

DH gave me this innocent look. The boys cracked up as they watched
the smoke exiting the top of my head....

It seems to take a certain amount of concern and effort to be a good
parent. Maybe this lady does not have the energy to make the effort.

(BTW, DD didn't touch cola or much other soda until she hit her
teens.)

maxine in ri

"ChattyCathy" > wrote in message
.. .
> On Tue, 10 Jun 2008 15:36:33 -0700, merryb wrote:
>
>> On Jun 10, 3:25 pm, Goomba > wrote:
>>> merryb wrote:
>>> > Damn, that's really disgusting. I say feed the kid a healthy meal-
>>> > when she's hungry enough, she'll eat it. Mom is being extremely lazy
>>> > there...
>>>
>>> Regarding Mom- She didn't look terribly healthy to me either, y'know?
>
> Hard to tell really, from both pictures. Having 'head and shoulders' shots
> doesn't give much away. In those pictures neither of them look
> particularly obese to me

Me, either. They look overweight, but I dunno about obese. (There's no way
the mom is only 33, though...)

Mary

MareCat wrote:
> "ChattyCathy" > wrote

>> Hard to tell really, from both pictures. Having 'head and shoulders'
>> shots doesn't give much away. In those pictures neither of them look
>> particularly obese to me
>
> Me, either. They look overweight, but I dunno about obese. (There's
> no way the mom is only 33, though...)

I guess they are saying obese because of her weight puts her
in that category. Her arms looked awfully fat to me because
they were segmented like sausages. She even has a crease
in her forearm. Regardless, the way her mother describes her
diet, it sounds like a bad joke. Really annoys me on behalf of
the little girl who isn't old enough to know better. She's going to
have to live with the results, not her mother.

nancy

> It seems to take a certain amount of concern and effort to be a good
> parent. *Maybe this lady does not have the energy to make the effort.
>


That's what I think, too. It sucks to listen to a whiny kid, and I
think she's feeding her crap because it's easier than listening to the
whining.

On Wed, 11 Jun 2008 13:20:34 -0400, Nancy Young wrote:

> MareCat wrote:
>> "ChattyCathy" > wrote
>
>>> Hard to tell really, from both pictures. Having 'head and shoulders'
>>> shots doesn't give much away. In those pictures neither of them look
>>> particularly obese to me
>>
>> Me, either. They look overweight, but I dunno about obese. (There's no
>> way the mom is only 33, though...)
>
> I guess they are saying obese because of her weight puts her in that
> category. Her arms looked awfully fat to me because they were segmented
> like sausages. She even has a crease in her forearm.

I've seen a few 18 m/o toddlers that have the same thing - but luckily
they lost it by age 3.

> Regardless, the way her mother describes her diet, it sounds like a bad
> joke. Really annoys me on behalf of the little girl who isn't old
> enough to know better. She's going to have to live with the results,
> not her mother.
>
>
I agree. Some parents just never learn. I saw a really obese father and
son (think'porcine') in the supermarket a few months ago (at least I
assume they were father and son). The son was about 12 or 13 y/o. It was
around 3pm. They were waiting for somebody (Mom, I think) and were
standing with an empty shopping cart, near the entrance, munching on some
take-out burgers. Maybe they didn't want to shop hungry or they hadn't had
lunch, but the thought that crossed my mind was "That's the last thing
that child should be eating". Of course, I didn't say anything, as it was
really 'none of my business'.

My children get/got burgers and 'fast food' once in a while as a 'junk
food treat'.

BTW, DS enjoy's his McD's - but then he's almost 26 y/o now and could not
be described as overweight. Besides, it's his responsibility now, not mine
<g>

--
Cheers
Chatty Cathy

Egg tastes better when it's not on your face...

On Wed, 11 Jun 2008 19:08:01 +0100, Janet Baraclough wrote:


> At 18 months old, my middle son weighed 30 lbs; eating a very healthy
> mixed diet with no chips, sugar or convenience food. He was checked
> regularly at health clinics and nobody ever said he was overweight; he
> clearly was not, relative to his large bones and height. I can remember
> that his first pair of shoes were huge and the fitter remarked on it. At
> age 12, he was 6 ft tall and wearing size 10 mens shoes..and as skinny
> as a beanpole. In his 30's, he's 6ft 6 tall fit as a flea, and still
> as skinny as a beanpole.


Heh. I can remember being told at the baby clinic that my 7 m/o son was
overweight at 17lbs. He literally had 'folds of fat' on his legs. The RN
said I must be 'over feeding' him. I told the RN that she was 'nuts'. I
told her that DS refused to eat ready made baby foods (clever child), so I
used to make my own - mashed veggies, meat etc. In fact, whatever we were
eating, just all 'mooshed' up. But once he got enough teeth, he got what
we ate - 'unmooshed' - just cut up a bit smaller. Anyway, by the time he
started walking (at 12/13 months) it all 'melted' off. He only got
'junk food' as a treat right up until he started working. He is also like
a 'bean pole' - despite snacking on McD's (at his own risk, I might add) -
at almost 26 y/o.

--
Cheers
Chatty Cathy

Egg tastes better when it's not on your face...

ChattyCathy wrote:
> On Wed, 11 Jun 2008 13:20:34 -0400, Nancy Young wrote:

>> Regardless, the way her mother describes her diet, it sounds like a
>> bad joke. Really annoys me on behalf of the little girl who isn't
>> old enough to know better. She's going to have to live with the
>> results, not her mother.

> I agree. Some parents just never learn. I saw a really obese father
> and son (think'porcine') in the supermarket a few months ago (at
> least I assume they were father and son). The son was about 12 or 13
> y/o. It was around 3pm. They were waiting for somebody (Mom, I think)
> and were standing with an empty shopping cart, near the entrance,
> munching on some take-out burgers. Maybe they didn't want to shop
> hungry or they hadn't had lunch, but the thought that crossed my mind
> was "That's the last thing that child should be eating". Of course, I
> didn't say anything, as it was really 'none of my business'.

Yeah, I'm sure it would have gone over like a lead balloon if you had.

I worked with a woman who was very overweight, it was the
bane of her existance and she struggled with it. She had a baby
and swore up and down, her child would not be fat. Next thing
people are saying they saw her in the supermarket with him and
he was eating donuts out of an open box while shopping. Young
enough he was still sitting in the cart. Needless to say, he's really
large, extremely overweight to the extent he was hospitalized with
severe heart trouble by the time he was in high school.

To each their own, your weight is your problem (leaving the
airplane seat thing out of it), why bring your children up with that
when you *know* how hard it is to lose later in life. You *know*
that people are mean about it. Not an easy life you're giving your
child.

Eh. What are you going to do.

nancy

On Wed, 11 Jun 2008 15:12:14 -0400, Nancy Young wrote:


> To each their own, your weight is your problem (leaving the airplane
> seat thing out of it), why bring your children up with that when you
> *know* how hard it is to lose later in life. You *know* that people are
> mean about it. Not an easy life you're giving your child.
>
> Eh. What are you going to do.

Yup. Having children is a huge responsibility (in more ways than one).

--
Cheers
Chatty Cathy

Egg tastes better when it's not on your face...

On Tue, 10 Jun 2008 17:44:36 -0400, Goomba >
wrote:

>What kinda rocks in her head does this mom have? What 18 month old needs
> a baby bottle with Coca Cola in it?? And this child would eat better
>if mom didn't offer up the crap.....
>
>http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/ar...iet-chips.html
>
>
>By James Tozer
>Last updated at 7:58 AM on 09th June 2008
>
>She's only 18 months old, but Courtney Boswell's diet of chips - and
>not much else - means she weighs as much as the average four-year-old.
>
>But despite being warned her daughter's future health is at risk, her
>mother Angela insists the toddler will grow up just fine.
>

sounds like the lady in 'hansel and gretel.'

your pal,
blake

In article >,
ChattyCathy > wrote:


> > On Jun 10, 3:25*pm, Goomba > wrote:

> >> Regarding Mom- She didn't look terribly healthy to me either, y'know?
>
> Hard to tell really, from both pictures. Having 'head and shoulders' shots
> doesn't give much away. In those pictures neither of them look
> particularly obese to me - I've seen both adults and children that look
> positively 'porcine'in the face - now that's obese in my book.

I have to agree with the first part. The mom has fat fingers, I don't
know how she got the ring on, but the kid looks like she has normal baby
fat. I don't always find that facial fat translates to body fat. I
shared an office for five years with someone who had a fat face. She
also had mammoth thighs. She complained that people thought she was
fat. I watched her run up and down the soccer field for an hour and a
half. There wasn't much fat there, it just wasn't in the usual places.

My niece was very fat when she was young. I wondered, but once she
started getting her growth it disappeared. She eats like a horse, but
she isn't heavy any longer at nine:

http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=2qj973s&s=3

It was very good lemonade.


> Both my kids have gotten whatever we were eating, and it certainly wasn't
> chips (fries) every day. My kidlette likes fries, but we have them so
> seldom it doesn't worry me if she eats them.

When they were little, our kids ate (almost) anything they wanted.
Nothing was forced on them (I was forced to eat things, and I hated it).

--
Dan Abel
Petaluma, California USA

ChattyCathy wrote:
> On Tue, 10 Jun 2008 15:36:33 -0700, merryb wrote:
>
>> On Jun 10, 3:25 pm, Goomba > wrote:
>>> merryb wrote:
>>>> Damn, that's really disgusting. I say feed the kid a healthy meal-
>>>> when she's hungry enough, she'll eat it. Mom is being extremely lazy
>>>> there...
>>> Regarding Mom- She didn't look terribly healthy to me either, y'know?
>
> Hard to tell really, from both pictures. Having 'head and shoulders' shots
> doesn't give much away. In those pictures neither of them look
> particularly obese to me - I've seen both adults and children that look
> positively 'porcine'in the face - now that's obese in my book.

Mom has extra plump on that head/face, and dull lifeless hair and eyes.
Just an observation but one with some educated experience behind it.

Janet Baraclough wrote:

>> Hard to tell really, from both pictures. Having 'head and shoulders' shots
>> doesn't give much away. In those pictures neither of them look
>> particularly obese to me -
>
> I agree; especially the baby. In the article, it says the baby is 18
> months old and weighs 30 pounds. according to this chart, that is not
> beyond normal healthy limits.
>
In my opinion, on the whole the mother was plumper than the baby. The
child is just not being exposed to good food and will reap the problems
down the road if mom doesn't get a clue....

ChattyCathy wrote:

> I agree. Some parents just never learn. I saw a really obese father and
> son (think'porcine') in the supermarket a few months ago (at least I
> assume they were father and son). The son was about 12 or 13 y/o. It was
> around 3pm. They were waiting for somebody (Mom, I think) and were
> standing with an empty shopping cart, near the entrance, munching on some
> take-out burgers. Maybe they didn't want to shop hungry or they hadn't had
> lunch, but the thought that crossed my mind was "That's the last thing
> that child should be eating". Of course, I didn't say anything, as it was
> really 'none of my business'.


And I immediately have this image of large, rotund abdomens with
man-boobs. I see far, far too many of these young men lumbering along
next to large, fleshy fat parents.

ChattyCathy wrote:

> Heh. I can remember being told at the baby clinic that my 7 m/o son was
> overweight at 17lbs. He literally had 'folds of fat' on his legs. The RN
> said I must be 'over feeding' him. I told the RN that she was 'nuts'. I
> told her that DS refused to eat ready made baby foods (clever child), so I
> used to make my own - mashed veggies, meat etc. In fact, whatever we were
> eating, just all 'mooshed' up. But once he got enough teeth, he got what
> we ate - 'unmooshed' - just cut up a bit smaller. Anyway, by the time he
> started walking (at 12/13 months) it all 'melted' off. He only got
> 'junk food' as a treat right up until he started working. He is also like
> a 'bean pole' - despite snacking on McD's (at his own risk, I might add) -
> at almost 26 y/o.
>
I breastfed one baby for 2 years and he never a taste of any food or non
milk drink until 7 months or so. He was HUGE...He was the happiest,
healthiest baby in the world. Yet I had a doctor (seeing me, not the
baby) suggest a big baby like that "needed" real food because he was so
big. Huh?! Seems to me he was obviously getting plenty He nursed
efficiently, slept soundly and for long, long periods and just
flourished. I think that doctor just was from another culture and
generation. Just a different mindset, I guess?

On Jun 11, 3:28*pm, "kilikini" > wrote:
> ChattyCathy wrote:
> > On Wed, 11 Jun 2008 15:12:14 -0400, Nancy Young wrote:
>
> >> To each their own, your weight is your problem (leaving the airplane
> >> seat thing out of it), why bring your children up with that when you
> >> *know* how hard it is to lose later in life. *You *know* that people
> >> are mean about it. *Not an easy life you're giving your child.
>
> >> Eh. *What are you going to do.
>
> > Yup. Having children is a huge responsibility (in more ways than one).
>
> Most of my friends here in Florida are very large people and so are their
> kids. *I had a heart-to-heart with my friend Tina's son, Tyler, on Saturday.
> He's about 12, I think. *He cried and said he wanted a new dad. *(His dad is
> a crack-head felon and has spent most of Tyler's short life in and out of
> prison.) *He said he's tired of his dad calling his mom an ugly fat pig. *He
> wants his parents to get a divorce (it's in the proceedings, BTW) so he can
> have a new dad to play with him and teach him how to throw a ball around.
> He said he wanted to learn how to play cards and would I play a card game
> with him? *The poor kid went on to say (throwing his arms up in the air,
> emphatically), "Why do you think I look like this? *I have no friends
> because I'm too fat and no one will play with me because I don't know how to
> do anything! *No one will teach me. *No one will talk to me! *I'm just a fat
> ugly pig like my dad calls my mom!"
>
> Meanwhile, every day, Tyler's mom comes home from work tired, makes dinner
> from scratch, eats, and passes out exhausted from all the stress in her
> life. *I almost can't blame her; she's extremely unhappy and she's got a
> major responsibility between her 3 kids, 2 grandchildren, and the bills, but
> dang. *This poor kid was *screaming* for help. *I listened. *He spewed. *I
> think I'm his new best friend.
>
> I kind of feel good about that. *He's a really good kid; messed up, but he's
> got a great heart. * :~)
>
> kili

You have a good heart yourself- very kind of you to lend a shoulder.
Too bad more people don't reach out to someone with a need. I'm sure
you will make some kind of impact- if not now, then down the road a
bit...

kilikini wrote:
>
> ChattyCathy wrote:
> > On Wed, 11 Jun 2008 15:12:14 -0400, Nancy Young wrote:
> >
> >
> >> To each their own, your weight is your problem (leaving the airplane
> >> seat thing out of it), why bring your children up with that when you
> >> *know* how hard it is to lose later in life. You *know* that people
> >> are mean about it. Not an easy life you're giving your child.
> >>
> >> Eh. What are you going to do.
> >
> > Yup. Having children is a huge responsibility (in more ways than one).
>
> Most of my friends here in Florida are very large people and so are their
> kids. I had a heart-to-heart with my friend Tina's son, Tyler, on Saturday.
> He's about 12, I think. He cried and said he wanted a new dad. (His dad is
> a crack-head felon and has spent most of Tyler's short life in and out of
> prison.) He said he's tired of his dad calling his mom an ugly fat pig. He
> wants his parents to get a divorce (it's in the proceedings, BTW) so he can
> have a new dad to play with him and teach him how to throw a ball around.
> He said he wanted to learn how to play cards and would I play a card game
> with him? The poor kid went on to say (throwing his arms up in the air,
> emphatically), "Why do you think I look like this? I have no friends
> because I'm too fat and no one will play with me because I don't know how to
> do anything! No one will teach me. No one will talk to me! I'm just a fat
> ugly pig like my dad calls my mom!"
>
> Meanwhile, every day, Tyler's mom comes home from work tired, makes dinner
> from scratch, eats, and passes out exhausted from all the stress in her
> life. I almost can't blame her; she's extremely unhappy and she's got a
> major responsibility between her 3 kids, 2 grandchildren, and the bills, but
> dang. This poor kid was *screaming* for help. I listened. He spewed. I
> think I'm his new best friend.
>
> I kind of feel good about that. He's a really good kid; messed up, but he's
> got a great heart. :~)
>
> kili

That's a sad story, even more sad since there are many many more the
same or worse. Hopefully you can help him out and get him on the right
track.

On Jun 11, 6:28 pm, "kilikini" > wrote:

> Meanwhile, every day, Tyler's mom comes home from work tired, makes dinner
> from scratch, eats, and passes out exhausted from all the stress in her
> life. I almost can't blame her; she's extremely unhappy and she's got a
> major responsibility between her 3 kids, 2 grandchildren, and the bills, but
> dang. This poor kid was *screaming* for help. I listened. He spewed. I
> think I'm his new best friend.
>
> I kind of feel good about that. He's a really good kid; messed up, but he's
> got a great heart. :~)
>
> kili

Sounds like Tyler's one lucky kid. Not everyone finds someone who
has 2 ears and one mouth and uses them in that proportion.

Maxine in ri

In article >,
"Virginia Tadrzynski" > wrote:

> "kilikini" > wrote in message
> ...
> > ChattyCathy wrote:
> >> On Wed, 11 Jun 2008 15:12:14 -0400, Nancy Young wrote:
> >>
> >>
> >>> To each their own, your weight is your problem (leaving the airplane
> >>> seat thing out of it), why bring your children up with that when you
> >>> *know* how hard it is to lose later in life. You *know* that people
> >>> are mean about it. Not an easy life you're giving your child.
> >>>
> >>> Eh. What are you going to do.
> >>
> >> Yup. Having children is a huge responsibility (in more ways than one).
> >
> > Most of my friends here in Florida are very large people and so are their
> > kids. I had a heart-to-heart with my friend Tina's son, Tyler, on
> > Saturday. He's about 12, I think. He cried and said he wanted a new dad.
> > (His dad is a crack-head felon and has spent most of Tyler's short life in
> > and out of prison.) He said he's tired of his dad calling his mom an ugly
> > fat pig. He wants his parents to get a divorce (it's in the proceedings,
> > BTW) so he can have a new dad to play with him and teach him how to throw
> > a ball around. He said he wanted to learn how to play cards and would I
> > play a card game with him? The poor kid went on to say (throwing his arms
> > up in the air, emphatically), "Why do you think I look like this? I have
> > no friends because I'm too fat and no one will play with me because I
> > don't know how to do anything! No one will teach me. No one will talk to
> > me! I'm just a fat ugly pig like my dad calls my mom!"
> >
> > Meanwhile, every day, Tyler's mom comes home from work tired, makes dinner
> > from scratch, eats, and passes out exhausted from all the stress in her
> > life. I almost can't blame her; she's extremely unhappy and she's got a
> > major responsibility between her 3 kids, 2 grandchildren, and the bills,
> > but dang. This poor kid was *screaming* for help. I listened. He
> > spewed. I think I'm his new best friend.
> >
> > I kind of feel good about that. He's a really good kid; messed up, but
> > he's got a great heart. :~)
>
> Are you open to suggestions? Ask Tyler to walk with you as he vents. This
> is good exercise for him and if he balks at the thought of exercise, you can
> always tell him you need the company so nothing happens to you while you
> walk. Also, while he is visiting and talking, ask him to help you
> cook......remember some of the best chefs are male.........if he picks up on
> how things go together and how they taste, he might be willing to show his
> mom his new found skill and take some of the pressure off of her shoulders
> by maybe fixing a meal or two a week. Not only will he gain self confidence
> that he can do something, but it might give both he and his mom a newfound
> appreciation for the other. It's worth a shot.

Those are both FANTASTIC ideas.

Miche

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