"The Ranger" > wrote in message
ndwidth...
> Bob Muncie > wrote in message
> ...
> [snip]
>> It's too bad you are not worth the knowing...
>
> Bobby, Bobby, Bobby... It _sucks_ to be you. I know you'll read (and
> respond) this since you can't help yourself...
>
> ObFood: Ming's Mohito (with a kick).
>
> The Ranger
>
But, but butt...didn't Bobby announce just today that you were in his kill
file? Does that mean that you changed your identity, if he can still see
your posts??? '-) I am sure that he wouldn't lie about something, now,
would he?

Beea wrote:
> "The Ranger" > wrote in message
> ndwidth...
>> Bob Muncie > wrote in message
>> ...
>> [snip]
>>> It's too bad you are not worth the knowing...
>> Bobby, Bobby, Bobby... It _sucks_ to be you. I know you'll read (and
>> respond) this since you can't help yourself...
>>
>> ObFood: Ming's Mohito (with a kick).
>>
>> The Ranger
>>
> But, but butt...didn't Bobby announce just today that you were in his kill
> file? Does that mean that you changed your identity, if he can still see
> your posts??? '-) I am sure that he wouldn't lie about something, now,
> would he?
>
>

I've already filtered you twice today... can't you just go away? I
understand that you and the "ranger" have some sort of relationship....
is it okay that you both die of aids or something?

You have nothing of value to add to anyone... doubt me? Add something of
value for a change.

On Sun, 06 Dec 2009 23:29:03 -0500, Bob Muncie >
wrote:

>I've already filtered you twice today... can't you just go away? I
>understand that you and the "ranger" have some sort of relationship....
>is it okay that you both die of aids or something?
>
>You have nothing of value to add to anyone... doubt me? Add something of
>value for a change.

Public service announcement: <waving hands in air>

BOB! Turn off the computer and back away slowly. Please, GO TO
SLEEP! Come back in 36 hours.

--
I love cooking with wine.
Sometimes I even put it in the food.

Bob Muncie > wrote in message
...
[snip further Muncie-ist crap]

Boobie, Boobie... You're so pathetic.

ObFood: Celery and hummus.

The Ranger

On Dec 6, 11:12*pm, "The Ranger" > wrote:
> Bob Muncie > wrote in message
>
> ...
> [snip further Muncie-ist crap]
>
> Boobie, Boobie... You're so pathetic.
>
> ObFood: Celery and hummus.

*ding! ding! ding!*

And now ladies and gentlemen, let the 45973489573490573985734753409th
Childish And Pointless Flame Lame-Fest begin!

Rock on, lardass.

"aem" > wrote
> It's always fun to play Dear Abby with these weird social problems
> people post about; our lives are obviously too boring. -aem
>

Yes. People are going hungry.

"maxine in ri" > wrote in message
...
> My husband's church has "small group dinners" where the host supplies
> the main course and assigns the guests the appetizer, salads, sides,
> and desserts.
>
> Dh and i were assigned salad and bread, so I made a Citrus salad with
> candied walnuts and gougeres.
>
> We arrived precisely at 6:30 as requested, to find that we were the
> second couple there. As I placed my food on the counter, the hostess
> said "Oh, we don't need a salad. This other person brought a lovely
> salad of beets and pomegranates, which is what she considered an
> appetizer."
>
> She also brought (which I wasn't told) a basket of artisan bread, so
> to be graceful, I put the salad in the coatroom and suggested the
> gougeres would be nice for the appetizers.....
>
> She _also_ brought gyozo and sauce for the hors d'ouvres.
>
> If I had been the hostess, I probably would have told her, as the
> guests who were assigned those courses arrived, that while her
> offerings were lovely, it would be kind of her to let the other people
> share theirs rather than have the other guests shoved aside for her
> ego.
>
> What would _you_ have done?
>
> fuming in ri

Ugh. Get a ****ing life, will you?

On Dec 7, 12:59*am, "cybercat" > wrote:
>
> Ugh. Get a ****ing life, will you?

You should take your own advice, you ****.

On Sun, 6 Dec 2009 23:04:46 -0800 (PST), projectile vomit chick
> wrote:

>On Dec 7, 12:59*am, "cybercat" > wrote:
>>
>> Ugh. Get a ****ing life, will you?
>
>You should take your own advice, you ****.

You're so cute when you get mad and stamp your foot.

--
I love cooking with wine.
Sometimes I even put it in the food.

"maxine in ri" ha scritto nel messaggio
On Dec 6, 4:16 pm, "Nancy Young"

> Omelet wrote:
> > In article
> > maxine in ri > wrote:
>
> >> What would _you_ have done?
>
> > Left and gone home.
>
> (laugh) I didn't want to say it. I thought it.
>

Me too, but some of these were DH's friends, so I was a civil doobee for his
sake.

But how ignorant is that hostess to decide unilaterally that the beet
confection wasnt an appetiser? She's your problem. What would I do?
Probably politely tell her so. Was she expecting pigs in blankets or
something?

In article >,
sf > wrote:

> On Sun, 06 Dec 2009 23:29:03 -0500, Bob Muncie >
> wrote:
>
> >I've already filtered you twice today... can't you just go away? I
> >understand that you and the "ranger" have some sort of relationship....
> >is it okay that you both die of aids or something?
> >
> >You have nothing of value to add to anyone... doubt me? Add something of
> >value for a change.
>
> Public service announcement: <waving hands in air>
>
> BOB! Turn off the computer and back away slowly. Please, GO TO
> SLEEP! Come back in 36 hours.

Seconded...
--
Peace! Om

"Human nature seems to be to control other people until they put their foot down."
--Steve Rothstein

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"maxine in ri" > wrote in message
...
> My husband's church


There's your sign.

Van

On Dec 6, 7:57*pm, "gloria.p" > wrote:

> As hostess, I would have served the gyoza as an appetizer and
> the beets-and pomegranates as a second salad. *(There are SOME
> people, usually well-intentioned, who don't like beets, remember?)

People who don't like beets? Shocking, right Barb? ;-)

> Has this happened with this group before? *It sounds as though
> the rules haven't been stressed enough or some folk don't think
> the rules apply to them. *(Hm, why is it always the same people?)

This is only the second time they've had this, to my knowledge. Last
year's was the full dozen, and kind of too many to really enjoy
conversation (by me), but the food situation was ideal.

This was a very sweet 84 year old widow, and the woman in question is
on her new members class committee and very "assertive." Said woman
is also the reason I no longer volunteer in the kitchen at the all-
parish potlucks.

Both dinners, BTW, were on the night of the first snow of the season,
whatever that may fortell.
<g>
maxine in ri

On Dec 6, 8:21*pm, "Debbie" > wrote:
> "Dave Smith" > wrote in message
>
> m...
>
>
>
> > maxine in ri wrote:
>
> >> If I had been the hostess, I probably would have told her, as the
> >> guests who were assigned those courses arrived, that while her
> >> offerings were lovely, it would be kind of her to let the other people
> >> share theirs rather than have the other guests shoved aside for her
> >> ego.
>
> >> What would _you_ have done?
>
> >> fuming in ri
>
> > I can appreciate the anger. We were invited to a party last summer and I
> > asked what we could bring. The hostess suggested that I bring some cheeses
> > from our local cheese shop. that is easy enough, but the cheese sold there
> > is very expensive. I got a piece of each of four different cheeses....
> > $45. *I didn't mind the expense so much as the fact that when we showed up
> > there was no room on the table because other people had brought dishes.
> > the cheese never got served.
>
> > The hostess offered it to me to take home, I split it with her. The next
> > time I will just get one or two pieces.
>
> I had someone offer to make a dessert if I purchased the ingredients as it
> included an ingredient I was allergic to. *I did so and took them all over
> to her. *She lived across the street. *The night of the dinner, she "forgot"
> the dessert and forgot to return the leftovers of the ingredients. *I never
> allowed another person to contribute to a meal.
>
> Debbie

Now _that's_ chutzpah!

maxine in ri

On Mon, 7 Dec 2009 01:59:47 -0500, "cybercat" > wrote:

-->
-->"maxine in ri" > wrote in message
...
-->> My husband's church has "small group dinners" where the host supplies
-->> the main course and assigns the guests the appetizer, salads, sides,
-->> and desserts.
-->>
-->> Dh and i were assigned salad and bread, so I made a Citrus salad with
-->> candied walnuts and gougeres.
-->>
-->> We arrived precisely at 6:30 as requested, to find that we were the
-->> second couple there. As I placed my food on the counter, the hostess
-->> said "Oh, we don't need a salad. This other person brought a lovely
-->> salad of beets and pomegranates, which is what she considered an
-->> appetizer."
-->>
-->> She also brought (which I wasn't told) a basket of artisan bread, so
-->> to be graceful, I put the salad in the coatroom and suggested the
-->> gougeres would be nice for the appetizers.....
-->>
-->> She _also_ brought gyozo and sauce for the hors d'ouvres.
-->>
-->> If I had been the hostess, I probably would have told her, as the
-->> guests who were assigned those courses arrived, that while her
-->> offerings were lovely, it would be kind of her to let the other people
-->> share theirs rather than have the other guests shoved aside for her
-->> ego.
-->>
-->> What would _you_ have done?

Set yours aside, had dinner, and declined further invitations fron this person
brcause they obviously wern't very caring of your feelings.

-->>
-->> fuming in ri
-->
-->Ugh. Get a ****ing life, will you?
-->
You're such a bitch

Kajikit > wrote in message
news
> On Sun, 6 Dec 2009 16:28:55 -0800 (PST), The Ranger
> > wrote:
[snip]
>>She'd actually been thinking about this while prepping holiday
>>cookies; she offered up, "Okay; good night then," and turning to me
>>would just as "innocently" say, "<insert movie title> is still
>>playing. Didn't you mention you'd rather go to that instead of this
>>meal?" Sometimes, it's just best to put it all out on the table. <EG>
>>
> That's just being bitchy!

We, perhaps, have differing opinions of "bitchy" then. Telling a guest to
"hide her dish" when greeted at the front door isn't an issue with you?
Sorry but my view of thoughtlessness on the hostess' part isn't something I
would've willingly submitted to accepting. So there are multiple dishes of a
course; serve them alongside each other. But telling me, "Oh, hi. You two
didn't get here before Joanne. She already brought a dish for that, so hide
your dish there in the closet..." deserves a similar 'Tude.

The Ranger

In article
>,
maxine in ri > wrote:

> On Dec 6, 7:57*pm, "gloria.p" > wrote:
>
> > As hostess, I would have served the gyoza as an appetizer and
> > the beets-and pomegranates as a second salad. *(There are SOME
> > people, usually well-intentioned, who don't like beets, remember?)
>
> People who don't like beets? Shocking, right Barb? ;-)

With pomegranates, no less. Gack. Oy.
--
-Barb, Mother Superior, HOSSSPoJ
http://web.me.com/barbschaller - Who Said Chickens Have Fingers?
10-30-2009

In article >,
Kajikit > wrote:

> covered, not just the 'starch' section - but mostly, I know that there
> is no such thing as 'too much food' for a group event!

Come to my book group. :-) Always too much.

> I wouldn't do that for a small party though - if the courses are
> assigned it's safe to assume that the other guests will do what
> they're SUPPOSED to!

Apparently not. That's where it went south, through no fault of
Maxine's.
--
-Barb, Mother Superior, HOSSSPoJ
http://web.me.com/barbschaller - Who Said Chickens Have Fingers?
10-30-2009

In article >,
Janet Baraclough > wrote:

> Nobody even tries to bring enough of one dish to feed everyone; the
> variety of choice is part of the pleasure.

> Janet

Our "rule" for church potlucks was to bring a dish for 8-10; enough
total food for all and the hope was that an individual would portion a
generous "taste" rather than a full blown serving for one.
--
-Barb, Mother Superior, HOSSSPoJ
http://web.me.com/barbschaller - Who Said Chickens Have Fingers?
10-30-2009

Melba's Jammin'
> Who Said Chickens Have Fingers?

The same people marketing buffalo wings?
--
Mr. Joseph Littleshoes Esq.

Domine, dirige nos.
Let the games begin!
http://fredeeky.typepad.com/fredeeky.../sf_anthem.mp3

On Sun, 6 Dec 2009 16:16:51 -0500, Nancy Young wrote:

> Omelet wrote:
>> In article
>> >,
>> maxine in ri > wrote:
>>
>>> What would _you_ have done?
>>>
>>> fuming in ri
>>
>> Left and gone home.
>
> (laugh) I didn't want to say it. I thought it.
>
> nancy

geez. tough crowd.

your pal,
blake

On Sun, 6 Dec 2009 16:05:14 -0800 (PST), maxine in ri wrote:

> On Dec 6, 4:16*pm, "Nancy Young" > wrote:
>> Omelet wrote:
>>> In article
>>> >,
>>> maxine in ri > wrote:
>>
>>>> What would _you_ have done?
>>
>>>> fuming in ri
>>
>>> Left and gone home.
>>
>> (laugh) *I didn't want to say it. *I thought it.
>>
>> nancy
>
> Me too, but some of these were DH's friends, so I was a civil doobee
> for his sake.
>
> maxine in ri

just think of it as having more class than they.

your pal,
blake

On Sun, 06 Dec 2009 14:32:46 -0800, Ranée at Arabian Knits wrote:

> In article
> >,
> maxine in ri > wrote:
>
>> What would _you_ have done?
>
> I would have put it all out without comment to you or to her, at that
> point, then clarified for future dinners that people should please stick
> to their assignments. It was rude of the lady to bring all of that, but
> it was more rude of the hostess to tell you not to put yours out, IMO.
>
> Regards,
> Ranee @ Arabian Knits

maybe the extra-dish lady is some kind of queen bee/boss's wife the hostess
was afraid of offending.

i think i would have grinned and bore it, and hope the bread and salad
would still be good the next day at home. going back would depend on the
rest of the evening.

your pal,
blake

On Sun, 06 Dec 2009 23:29:03 -0500, Bob Muncie wrote:

> Beea wrote:
>> "The Ranger" > wrote in message
>> ndwidth...
>>> Bob Muncie > wrote in message
>>> ...
>>> [snip]
>>>> It's too bad you are not worth the knowing...
>>> Bobby, Bobby, Bobby... It _sucks_ to be you. I know you'll read (and
>>> respond) this since you can't help yourself...
>>>
>>> ObFood: Ming's Mohito (with a kick).
>>>
>>> The Ranger
>>>
>> But, but butt...didn't Bobby announce just today that you were in his kill
>> file? Does that mean that you changed your identity, if he can still see
>> your posts??? '-) I am sure that he wouldn't lie about something, now,
>> would he?
>>
>
> I've already filtered you twice today... can't you just go away?

you seem to have filtered multiple people multiple times, people who do not
nym-shift. are you sure you know what you are doing?

or maybe you are hallucinating the filters.

>I understand that you and the "ranger" have some sort of relationship....
> is it okay that you both die of aids or something?
>
> You have nothing of value to add to anyone... doubt me? Add something of
> value for a change.

this is pretty ****ing rich coming from you. your posts seem about equally
divided into smarmy ass-kissing nicey-nicey and wishing people to die some
horrible death.

blake

On Sun, 06 Dec 2009 20:52:48 -0800, sf wrote:

> On Sun, 06 Dec 2009 23:29:03 -0500, Bob Muncie >
> wrote:
>
>>I've already filtered you twice today... can't you just go away? I
>>understand that you and the "ranger" have some sort of relationship....
>>is it okay that you both die of aids or something?
>>
>>You have nothing of value to add to anyone... doubt me? Add something of
>>value for a change.
>
> Public service announcement: <waving hands in air>
>
> BOB! Turn off the computer and back away slowly. Please, GO TO
> SLEEP! Come back in 36 hours.

how about 36 months?

your pal,
blake

On Sun, 06 Dec 2009 23:12:42 -0500, Bob Muncie wrote:

> Debbie wrote:
>>
>> "Dave Smith" > wrote in message
>> ...
>>> Debbie wrote:
>>>>
>>>>> The hostess offered it to me to take home, I split it with her. The
>>>>> next time I will just get one or two pieces.
>>>>>
>>>>
>>>> I had someone offer to make a dessert if I purchased the ingredients
>>>> as it included an ingredient I was allergic to. I did so and took
>>>> them all over to her. She lived across the street. The night of the
>>>> dinner, she "forgot" the dessert and forgot to return the leftovers
>>>> of the ingredients. I never allowed another person to contribute to
>>>> a meal.
>>>
>>>
>>> I think that would really **** me off.
>>>
>>
>> That it did. Especially when she didn't go across the street to get it,
>> just said she forgot it. I am thinking she probably just didn't make it
>> and didn't want to own up to it.
>>
>> Debbie
>
> But you, as the better person, did not make it an issue. That's what I
> would see.
>
> Bob

i disagree. debbie should have posted that she wanted the woman to die
from AIDS.

blake

blake murphy wrote:
> On Sun, 6 Dec 2009 16:16:51 -0500, Nancy Young wrote:
>
>> Omelet wrote:

>>> maxine in ri > wrote:
>>>
>>>> What would _you_ have done?
>>>>
>>>> fuming in ri
>>>
>>> Left and gone home.
>>
>> (laugh) I didn't want to say it. I thought it.

> geez. tough crowd.

Put yourself in maxine's shoes. I don't care if she just stopped
at the store and picked something up, she brought it in and
presented it and was left standing there with egg on her face,
sort of, with Sorry, we don't need that. Some other person
brought something lovely.

She made a lovely sounding salad (that she was assigned) and
was made to feel dismissed. I was steamed for her. No pun
intended.

nancy

On Sun, 06 Dec 2009 17:57:59 -0700, gloria.p wrote:

> maxine in ri wrote:
>> My husband's church has "small group dinners"
>>
>> Dh and i were assigned salad and bread, so I made a Citrus salad with
>> candied walnuts and gougeres.
>>
>> We arrived precisely at 6:30 as requested, to find that we were the
>> second couple there. As I placed my food on the counter, the hostess
>> said "Oh, we don't need a salad. This other person brought a lovely
>> salad of beets and pomegranates, which is what she considered an
>> appetizer."
>
> THEN SERVE IT AS AN APPETIZER and serve my salad as it was meant
> to be! Your hostess wasn't very tactful was she?
>
>>
>> She also brought (which I wasn't told) a basket of artisan bread, so
>> to be graceful, I put the salad in the coatroom and suggested the
>> gougeres would be nice for the appetizers.....
>>
>> She _also_ brought gyozo and sauce for the hors d'ouvres.
>>
>
> Is she usually this passive aggressive, egotistical, or just
> clueless?
>
>> If I had been the hostess, I probably would have told her, as the
>> guests who were assigned those courses arrived, that while her
>> offerings were lovely, it would be kind of her to let the other people
>> share theirs rather than have the other guests shoved aside for her
>> ego.
>
> I agree with your suggestion. Your hostess was pretty much 50%
> of the problem. How could she not think about YOUR feelings, too?
>
>> What would _you_ have done?
>>
>> fuming in ri
>
> I'd have been fuming also, in fact I am on your behalf.
>
> As hostess, I would have served the gyoza as an appetizer and
> the beets-and pomegranates as a second salad. (There are SOME
> people, usually well-intentioned, who don't like beets, remember?)
>
> Has this happened with this group before? It sounds as though
> the rules haven't been stressed enough or some folk don't think
> the rules apply to them. (Hm, why is it always the same people?)
>
> Hugs and sympathy,
> gloria p

i wondering about the age or experience of the hostess. kind of sounds
like a rookie mistake, or as i suggested in another post, dread of the
Queen Bee.

your pal,
blake

On Mon, 7 Dec 2009 06:29:38 -0800 (PST), maxine in ri wrote:

> On Dec 6, 7:57*pm, "gloria.p" > wrote:
>
>> As hostess, I would have served the gyoza as an appetizer and
>> the beets-and pomegranates as a second salad. *(There are SOME
>> people, usually well-intentioned, who don't like beets, remember?)
>
> People who don't like beets? Shocking, right Barb? ;-)
>
>> Has this happened with this group before? *It sounds as though
>> the rules haven't been stressed enough or some folk don't think
>> the rules apply to them. *(Hm, why is it always the same people?)
>
> This is only the second time they've had this, to my knowledge. Last
> year's was the full dozen, and kind of too many to really enjoy
> conversation (by me), but the food situation was ideal.
>
> This was a very sweet 84 year old widow, and the woman in question is
> on her new members class committee and very "assertive." Said woman
> is also the reason I no longer volunteer in the kitchen at the all-
> parish potlucks.
>

geez, seems both my guesses were wrong.

your pal,
blake

"Nancy Young" > wrote in message
...
> Put yourself in maxine's shoes. I don't care if she just stopped at the
> store and picked something up, she brought it in and
> presented it and was left standing there with egg on her face, sort of,
> with Sorry, we don't need that. Some other person
> brought something lovely.
> She made a lovely sounding salad (that she was assigned) and
> was made to feel dismissed. I was steamed for her. No pun
> intended.

I'm with you nancy!

blake murphy wrote:
> On Sun, 6 Dec 2009 16:05:14 -0800 (PST), maxine in ri wrote:
>
>> On Dec 6, 4:16 pm, "Nancy Young" > wrote:
>>> Omelet wrote:
>>>> In article
>>>> >,
>>>> maxine in ri > wrote:
>>>>> What would _you_ have done?
>>>>> fuming in ri
>>>> Left and gone home.
>>> (laugh) I didn't want to say it. I thought it.
>>>
>>> nancy
>> Me too, but some of these were DH's friends, so I was a civil doobee
>> for his sake.
>>
>> maxine in ri
>
> just think of it as having more class than they.


I suppose it would be okay to look terribly disappointed and say "
But..you asked me to bring this..... and now you don't want it?"

On Dec 7, 5:54*am, "Van" > wrote:
> "maxine in ri" > wrote in ...
>
> > My husband's church
>
> There's your sign.

LOL!!! Well spotted, Van.

blake murphy wrote:
>
>>
>> Has this happened with this group before? It sounds as though
>> the rules haven't been stressed enough or some folk don't think
>> the rules apply to them. (Hm, why is it always the same people?)
>>
>> Hugs and sympathy,
>> gloria p
>
> i wondering about the age or experience of the hostess. kind of sounds
> like a rookie mistake, or as i suggested in another post, dread of the
> Queen Bee.

I suspect that the hostess would learn nothing from the experience
unless someone spoke up and protested that they had been asked to bring
that item, or if she were to invite the snubee to another dinner and the
person or persons whose food had been rejected declined the invitation
and told them that the last time they did that they were offended by
being asked to bring something specific and were then told it was not
wanted because someone else had already brought something better <?>.

"Kajikit" > wrote in message
news
> On Sun, 6 Dec 2009 16:28:55 -0800 (PST), The Ranger
> > wrote:
>
>>On Dec 6, 1:16 pm, "Nancy Young" > wrote:
>>> Omelet wrote:
>>> > In article
>>> > >,
>>> > maxine in ri > wrote:
>>>
>>> >> What would _you_ have done?
>>>
>>> >> fuming in ri
>>>
>>> > Left and gone home.
>>>
>>> (laugh) I didn't want to say it. I thought it.
>>
>>SWMBO laughed when she read this. She would've done just what Maxine
>>did; fumed quietly. 'Course, the moment we returned to the car, I'd've
>>heard about it. From that point onward, wild horses would not be able
>>to drag her back to that hostess' house.
>>
>>She'd actually been thinking about this while prepping holiday
>>cookies; she offered up, "Okay; good night then," and turning to me
>>would just as "innocently" say, "<insert movie title> is still
>>playing. Didn't you mention you'd rather go to that instead of this
>>meal?" Sometimes, it's just best to put it all out on the table. <EG>
>>
>>The Ranger
>
> That's just being bitchy!
> --

There is a season for everything.. including being a bitch! Was this one?
Wasn't there. Maxine didn't seem to think so, so I will go along with her.
:-)

Debbie

"blake murphy" > wrote in message
...
> On Sun, 06 Dec 2009 23:12:42 -0500, Bob Muncie wrote:
>
>> Debbie wrote:
>>>
>>> "Dave Smith" > wrote in message
>>> ...
>>>> Debbie wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>> The hostess offered it to me to take home, I split it with her. The
>>>>>> next time I will just get one or two pieces.
>>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> I had someone offer to make a dessert if I purchased the ingredients
>>>>> as it included an ingredient I was allergic to. I did so and took
>>>>> them all over to her. She lived across the street. The night of the
>>>>> dinner, she "forgot" the dessert and forgot to return the leftovers
>>>>> of the ingredients. I never allowed another person to contribute to
>>>>> a meal.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> I think that would really **** me off.
>>>>
>>>
>>> That it did. Especially when she didn't go across the street to get it,
>>> just said she forgot it. I am thinking she probably just didn't make it
>>> and didn't want to own up to it.
>>>
>>> Debbie
>>
>> But you, as the better person, did not make it an issue. That's what I
>> would see.
>>
>> Bob
>
> i disagree. debbie should have posted that she wanted the woman to die
> from AIDS.
>

wouldn't wish that on public enemy #1

Debbie

"Dave Smith" > wrote in message
...
> blake murphy wrote:
>>
>>>
>>> Has this happened with this group before? It sounds as though the rules
>>> haven't been stressed enough or some folk don't think
>>> the rules apply to them. (Hm, why is it always the same people?)
>>>
>>> Hugs and sympathy,
>>> gloria p
>>
>> i wondering about the age or experience of the hostess. kind of sounds
>> like a rookie mistake, or as i suggested in another post, dread of the
>> Queen Bee.
>
> I suspect that the hostess would learn nothing from the experience unless
> someone spoke up and protested that they had been asked to bring that
> item, or if she were to invite the snubee to another dinner and the person
> or persons whose food had been rejected declined the invitation and told
> them that the last time they did that they were offended by being asked to
> bring something specific and were then told it was not wanted because
> someone else had already brought something better <?>.

Well the next time this hostess invited them, they could be very gracious
and thank them adding that they assume no contribution would be needed from
this time either, which would be a good thing as the last time their
contribution wasn't needed they couldn't eat it fast enough before it
spoiled.

Debbie

Omelet wrote:
> In article >,
> Kajikit > wrote:
>
>>> SWMBO laughed when she read this.

>>>
>>> She'd actually been thinking about this while prepping holiday
>>> cookies; she offered up, "Okay; good night then," and turning to me
>>> would just as "innocently" say, "<insert movie title> is still
>>> playing. Didn't you mention you'd rather go to that instead of this
>>> meal?" Sometimes, it's just best to put it all out on the table. <EG>
>>>
>>> The Ranger
>> That's just being bitchy!
>
> Actually, with women, the proper term is "catty". <g>



I don't think I have EVER heard a man referred to as "bitchy".

gloria p

On Mon, 07 Dec 2009 17:08:45 -0700, "gloria.p" > wrote:

-->Omelet wrote:
-->> In article >,
-->> Kajikit > wrote:
-->>
-->>>> SWMBO laughed when she read this.
-->
-->>>>
-->>>> She'd actually been thinking about this while prepping holiday
-->>>> cookies; she offered up, "Okay; good night then," and turning to me
-->>>> would just as "innocently" say, "<insert movie title> is still
-->>>> playing. Didn't you mention you'd rather go to that instead of this
-->>>> meal?" Sometimes, it's just best to put it all out on the table. <EG>
-->>>>
-->>>> The Ranger
-->>> That's just being bitchy!
-->>
-->> Actually, with women, the proper term is "catty". <g>
-->
-->
-->
-->I don't think I have EVER heard a man referred to as "bitchy".
-->
-->gloria p

Lead a sheltered life do you............

"Dave Smith" > wrote in message
m...
> blake murphy wrote:
>> On Sun, 6 Dec 2009 16:05:14 -0800 (PST), maxine in ri wrote:
>>
>>> On Dec 6, 4:16 pm, "Nancy Young" > wrote:
>>>> Omelet wrote:
>>>>> In article
>>>>> >,
>>>>> maxine in ri > wrote:
>>>>>> What would _you_ have done?
>>>>>> fuming in ri
>>>>> Left and gone home.
>>>> (laugh) I didn't want to say it. I thought it.
>>>>
>>>> nancy
>>> Me too, but some of these were DH's friends, so I was a civil doobee
>>> for his sake.
>>>
>>> maxine in ri
>>
>> just think of it as having more class than they.
>
>
> I suppose it would be okay to look terribly disappointed and say "
> But..you asked me to bring this..... and now you don't want it?"
>
That is what I would have done. simple, straightforward, nonassholish.

blake wrote:

> i wondering about the age or experience of the hostess. kind of sounds
> like a rookie mistake, or as i suggested in another post, dread of the
> Queen Bee.

Maxine said the hostess was "a very sweet 84 year old widow".

Bob