In article >, gravesend10
@verizon.net says...

> There was no reason to post the info and then not say he would be
> dying soon... she made it sound like a simple urinary problem.

No, she did not. First mention of him;

L said, he is an older man, an incontinent mess for the past 10
years, unable to get out, and she does not want to do terminal care ever
again.

What part of that sounds like a simple urinary problem ?

Janet UK

> wrote in message
...
> On Sat, 28 Sep 2013 13:21:09 -0400, Gary > wrote:
>
>>Janet wrote:
>>>
>>> In article >,
>>> says...
>>>
>>> > I see lots of young girls out in the sports cars in the summer with
>>> > the old, bald guys, Gary so don't think all would turn you down
>>>
>>> Yeah, but are they looking for Gary or the sports car :-)
>>
>>LOL! The sports car and a "sugar daddy."
>>I don't qualify nor do I want a young trophy wife.
>>I do still have all my hair and teeth though.
>>I'm very fine by myself these days.
>>If I meet someone that floors me someday....maybe
>>But not actively looking for anyone.
>>
>>G.
>
> I figure it would be too damned hard to adjust to another persons
> routine now, I'm fine by myself.

I know I couldn't if it came to that

"Cheryl" > wrote in message
eb.com...
> On 9/28/2013 7:22 AM, wrote:
>
>> The answer, at least it worked well for my neighbour and I, is to
>> sprinkle urine around the boundaries. Deer understand marking
>> territory and they will go to someone else.
>
> I think she's tried urine but from what species, I don't know. Do the
> recommend a species?

Human male

"jmcquown" > wrote in message
...
> On 9/29/2013 12:16 AM, Ed Pawlowski wrote:
>> On Sat, 28 Sep 2013 23:32:47 -0400, Cheryl >
>> wrote:
>>
>>> On 9/28/2013 7:22 AM, wrote:
>>>
>>>> The answer, at least it worked well for my neighbour and I, is to
>>>> sprinkle urine around the boundaries. Deer understand marking
>>>> territory and they will go to someone else.
>>>
>>> I think she's tried urine but from what species, I don't know. Do the
>>> recommend a species?
>>
>>
>> Human. Really, it works.
>>
> Sheesh. I don't even like to pee in a cup at the doctor's office. To
> discourage deer from eating plants I'm supposed to do this at home? LOLOL

No, not you Male pee! Because of the hormones apparently

"Ed Pawlowski" > wrote in message
...
> On Sun, 29 Sep 2013 00:20:56 -0400, jmcquown >
> wrote:
>
>>On 9/29/2013 12:16 AM, Ed Pawlowski wrote:
>>> On Sat, 28 Sep 2013 23:32:47 -0400, Cheryl >
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>>> On 9/28/2013 7:22 AM, wrote:
>>>>
>>>>> The answer, at least it worked well for my neighbour and I, is to
>>>>> sprinkle urine around the boundaries. Deer understand marking
>>>>> territory and they will go to someone else.
>>>>
>>>> I think she's tried urine but from what species, I don't know. Do the
>>>> recommend a species?
>>>
>>>
>>> Human. Really, it works.
>>>
>>Sheesh. I don't even like to pee in a cup at the doctor's office. To
>>discourage deer from eating plants I'm supposed to do this at home? LOLOL
>>
>>Jill
>
> No cup needed. Just run out after dark and pee on the bushes.

lol the neighbours might thing he moon just came out <g>

> wrote in message
...
> On Sat, 28 Sep 2013 23:32:47 -0400, Cheryl >
> wrote:
>
>>On 9/28/2013 7:22 AM, wrote:
>>
>>> The answer, at least it worked well for my neighbour and I, is to
>>> sprinkle urine around the boundaries. Deer understand marking
>>> territory and they will go to someone else.
>>
>>I think she's tried urine but from what species, I don't know. Do the
>>recommend a species?
>
> My neighbour, male, used to go outside to pee at dark

Trying to scare something/someone? err you?

> wrote in message
...
> On Sun, 29 Sep 2013 08:29:03 -0400, Gary > wrote:
>
wrote:
>>>
>>> On Sat, 28 Sep 2013 18:30:57 -0700, "Cheri" >
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>> >"Brooklyn1" > wrote in message
>>> .. .
>>> >
>>> >> If he's otherwise a nice guy you really should bring him to a
>>> >> Urologist... in most cases a small pill once a day will cure his
>>> >> leaky
>>> >> bladder... you seem rather shallow, like you're so perfect.
>>> >
>>> >
>>> >Oh, the irony.
>>> >
>>> >Cheri
>>>
>>> Lol - a pill won't fix this - probably has a few more months left but
>>> the illness has dragged out a couple of years now, sadly for him.
>>
>>Would you marry the guy if he was healthy? If so, if he loves you and
>>you love him, you should go for at least a few months together. This
>>life on earth is all we are guaranteed so I'd grab any opportunity to
>>be with someone that I loved. You should never pass up that even if
>>you see an end in sight.
>>
>>You would make the end of his life happy and be there for him when he
>>died. You said he's "stinking rich" so don't sign a prenup and you
>>might be very well compensated for your "troubles." At least he might
>>end his life a bit happier, and you too if you really do care about
>>him.
>>
>>Even if you don't marry him, if you care about him, be there for him.
>>At least be a close friend (without financial compensation). It's the
>>right thing to do and you know it is.
>>
>>G.
>
> No, the proposal was several years ago but I didn't want another
> relationship - partly because I was married for 43 years to someone I
> did love until the end. However, I had no desire to go through the
> last years with someone else and what I was pointing out now was that
> had I decided the money looked to good to be true, I would now be
> working extraordinarily hard for it!
>
> He's simply a friend and at this end of the game, I am thinking
> keeping friends as friends, both male and female, is the best policy,
> for me anyway.

Yes, I can understand that.

> wrote in message
...
> On Sun, 29 Sep 2013 09:47:05 -0400, Nancy Young
> > wrote:
>
>>On 9/29/2013 9:23 AM, wrote:
>>
>>> No, the proposal was several years ago but I didn't want another
>>> relationship - partly because I was married for 43 years to someone I
>>> did love until the end. However, I had no desire to go through the
>>> last years with someone else and what I was pointing out now was that
>>> had I decided the money looked to good to be true, I would now be
>>> working extraordinarily hard for it!
>>
>>What's that saying, marry for money and it will be the hardest
>>job you ever had. Especially under those conditions. It's so
>>hard being the caregiver when you love the person and have a life
>>history together.
>>
>>nancy
>
> Right. The best tip I had at the time was when the day had been
> frustrating, that night scribble down all your thoughts in a notebook.
> That way you 'clear' it away and get rid of it and it leaves you
> prepared for the next day. Sounds silly, but I found it worked.

Good idea!

"Gary" > wrote in message ...
> Janet wrote:
>>
>> Sounds like you're more attracted to him that she is, you're single;
>> why don't you go and care for him? Who knows, you might find lurv
>> together. Don't miss this chance, Gary. Maybe he'll leave you one of
>> his sports cars.
>>
>> Janet UK
>
> LOL! In her original post it sounded like she really liked him and
> only quit because he was sick.
> What you wrote above is the silliest thing I've read in a long time.
> Shows where your mind is at. Dumb but funny. Oh ye Scottish ppl!

Just don't class us all from UK the same)

On Mon, 30 Sep 2013 10:33:53 +0100, Janet > wrote:

>In article >, gravesend10
says...
>
>> There was no reason to post the info and then not say he would be
>> dying soon... she made it sound like a simple urinary problem.
>
> No, she did not. First mention of him;
>
> L said, he is an older man, an incontinent mess for the past 10
>years, unable to get out, and she does not want to do terminal care ever
>again.
>
> What part of that sounds like a simple urinary problem ?

All of it, especially ongoing for 10 years. Most people, male and
female, suffer simple urinary problems for many years because they
don't think it important enough to seek medical help and/or are simply
embarrassed. Don't you see all the ads on TV for men to buy depends
and to have their prostate checked?

In article >, gravesend10
@verizon.net says...
>
> On Mon, 30 Sep 2013 10:33:53 +0100, Janet > wrote:
>
> >In article >, gravesend10
> says...
> >
> >> There was no reason to post the info and then not say he would be
> >> dying soon... she made it sound like a simple urinary problem.
> >
> > No, she did not. First mention of him;
> >
> > L said, he is an older man, an incontinent mess for the past 10
> >years, unable to get out, and she does not want to do terminal care ever
> >again.
> >
> > What part of that sounds like a simple urinary problem ?
>
> All of it, especially ongoing for 10 years.

"Terminal care" , and his age, didn't give you a clue?
The guy is OLDER THAN L.. and she was married for 40+ years and has
been widowed for 20.

> Most people, male and
> female, suffer simple urinary problems for many years because they
> don't think it important enough to seek medical help and/or are simply
> embarrassed. Don't you see all the ads on TV for men to buy depends
> and to have their prostate checked?

No, I've never seen depends (or equivalent) advertised on UK TV.
Possibly because in the UK, the NHS supplies serious incontinence
products, and advertises prostate checks and care in every GP waiting
room.
There's no TV advertising of prescription-only medicine here, either.

Janet UK

wrote:
>
> I wish to god they didn't advertise all those here - actually I only
> see prescription only drugs advertised on US channels but what gets me
> is they have to then tell you what the side effects could be. In some
> cases I would think it would pay them not to run an ad

I agree with you! The ads for prescription drugs spend about 10
seconds telling you what the drug is for, then the next 2 minutes or
so listing side effect after side effect. It's crazy!

G.

"jmcquown" > wrote in message
...
> On 9/30/2013 11:46 AM, Ophelia wrote:
>>
>> "jmcquown" > wrote in message
>> ...
>>> On 9/29/2013 12:16 AM, Ed Pawlowski wrote:
>>>> On Sat, 28 Sep 2013 23:32:47 -0400, Cheryl >
>>>> wrote:
>>>>
>>>>> On 9/28/2013 7:22 AM, wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>> The answer, at least it worked well for my neighbour and I, is to
>>>>>> sprinkle urine around the boundaries. Deer understand marking
>>>>>> territory and they will go to someone else.
>>>>>
>>>>> I think she's tried urine but from what species, I don't know. Do the
>>>>> recommend a species?
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Human. Really, it works.
>>>>
>>> Sheesh. I don't even like to pee in a cup at the doctor's office. To
>>> discourage deer from eating plants I'm supposed to do this at home?
>>> LOLOL
>>
>> No, not you Male pee! Because of the hormones apparently
>>
>>
> Well then... I'll just walk up the street and ask Dave if he'd like to pee
> around the yard!

ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

On Mon, 30 Sep 2013 19:38:20 +0100, Janet > wrote:

>In article >, gravesend10
says...
>>
>> On Mon, 30 Sep 2013 10:33:53 +0100, Janet > wrote:
>>
>> >In article >, gravesend10
>> says...
>> >
>> >> There was no reason to post the info and then not say he would be
>> >> dying soon... she made it sound like a simple urinary problem.
>> >
>> > No, she did not. First mention of him;
>> >
>> > L said, he is an older man, an incontinent mess for the past 10
>> >years, unable to get out, and she does not want to do terminal care ever
>> >again.
>> >
>> > What part of that sounds like a simple urinary problem ?
>>
>> All of it, especially ongoing for 10 years.
>
> "Terminal care" , and his age, didn't give you a clue?
> The guy is OLDER THAN L.. and she was married for 40+ years and has
>been widowed for 20.
>
>> Most people, male and
>> female, suffer simple urinary problems for many years because they
>> don't think it important enough to seek medical help and/or are simply
>> embarrassed. Don't you see all the ads on TV for men to buy depends
>> and to have their prostate checked?
>
> No, I've never seen depends (or equivalent) advertised on UK TV.
>Possibly because in the UK, the NHS supplies serious incontinence
>products, and advertises prostate checks and care in every GP waiting
>room.
>There's no TV advertising of prescription-only medicine here, either.
>
> Janet UK

Perhaps the UK has Depends equivalents... perhaps yoose call them
Bloke's Nappies. LOL
You're attempting to take my point off track, ain't gonna work...
there was NO reason to mention that man's wallet... his wealth (or
lack thereof) has nothing whatsoever to do with being a good friend
(friends like that are no friends at all), it was gauche to mention.
Actually it was uncalled for talk about one's personal losses on a
cooking newsgroup, take it to email and keep it in email... because
it's patently unfair to apprise some but not others of details of ones
personal life. I really don't give a sou that she had to care for her
sick husband, that's what she contracted to do in her wedding vows...
or was it just a Shack Up sans that "Sickness or Health" clause.

"jmcquown" > wrote in message
...
> On 9/28/2013 3:12 PM, wrote:
>> On Sat, 28 Sep 2013 13:21:09 -0400, Gary > wrote:
>>
>>> Janet wrote:
>>>>
>>>> In article >,
>>>> says...
>>>>
>>>>> I see lots of young girls out in the sports cars in the summer with
>>>>> the old, bald guys, Gary so don't think all would turn you down
>>>>
>>>> Yeah, but are they looking for Gary or the sports car :-)
>>>
>>> LOL! The sports car and a "sugar daddy."
>>> I don't qualify nor do I want a young trophy wife.
>>> I do still have all my hair and teeth though.
>>> I'm very fine by myself these days.
>>> If I meet someone that floors me someday....maybe
>>> But not actively looking for anyone.
>>>
>>> G.
>>
>> I figure it would be too damned hard to adjust to another persons
>> routine now, I'm fine by myself.
>>
> Good on you for realizing that! I'm fine by myself, too. I don't
> understand the stigma about people who choose to remain single. I was
> divorced in 1984. I've had more than one proposal between then and now.
> One I actually accepted. Then I found out there were "conditions"
> attached. No thank you! I'm content and happy. I hope you are, too.

Good for you!

On 9/30/2013 3:24 PM, wrote:
> On Mon, 30 Sep 2013 19:38:20 +0100, Janet > wrote:
>
>> In article >, gravesend10
>> @verizon.net says...
>>>
>>> On Mon, 30 Sep 2013 10:33:53 +0100, Janet > wrote:
>>>
>>>> In article >, gravesend10
>>>> @verizon.net says...
>>>>
>>>>> There was no reason to post the info and then not say he would be
>>>>> dying soon... she made it sound like a simple urinary problem.
>>>>
>>>> No, she did not. First mention of him;
>>>>
>>>> L said, he is an older man, an incontinent mess for the past 10
>>>> years, unable to get out, and she does not want to do terminal care ever
>>>> again.
>>>>
>>>> What part of that sounds like a simple urinary problem ?
>>>
>>> All of it, especially ongoing for 10 years.
>>
>> "Terminal care" , and his age, didn't give you a clue?
>> The guy is OLDER THAN L.. and she was married for 40+ years and has
>> been widowed for 20.
>
> Correct
>>
>>> Most people, male and
>>> female, suffer simple urinary problems for many years because they
>>> don't think it important enough to seek medical help and/or are simply
>>> embarrassed. Don't you see all the ads on TV for men to buy depends
>>> and to have their prostate checked?
>>
>> No, I've never seen depends (or equivalent) advertised on UK TV.
>> Possibly because in the UK, the NHS supplies serious incontinence
>> products, and advertises prostate checks and care in every GP waiting
>> room.
>> There's no TV advertising of prescription-only medicine here, either.
>>
>> Janet UK
>
> I wish to god they didn't advertise all those here - actually I only
> see prescription only drugs advertised on US channels but what gets me
> is they have to then tell you what the side effects could be. In some
> cases I would think it would pay them not to run an ad
>
Those ads drive me crazy. What really got to me was former Vice
President Bob Dole touting Viagra. Do we really need to know your dick
doesn't get hard without a pill?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nBdgpjnKInA

This clip also includes an ad Mr. Dole did for Pepsi. So it's sort of
OB Food. Only if you consider soft-drinks food. Or even a beverage.

Jill

On 9/30/2013 7:16 PM, jmcquown wrote:
> On 9/30/2013 3:24 PM, wrote:
>> On Mon, 30 Sep 2013 19:38:20 +0100, Janet > wrote:
>>
>>> In article >, gravesend10
>>> @verizon.net says...
>>>>
>>>> On Mon, 30 Sep 2013 10:33:53 +0100, Janet > wrote:
>>>>
>>>>> In article >, gravesend10
>>>>> @verizon.net says...
>>>>>
>>>>>> There was no reason to post the info and then not say he would be
>>>>>> dying soon... she made it sound like a simple urinary problem.
>>>>>
>>>>> No, she did not. First mention of him;
>>>>>
>>>>> L said, he is an older man, an incontinent mess for the past 10
>>>>> years, unable to get out, and she does not want to do terminal care
>>>>> ever
>>>>> again.
>>>>>
>>>>> What part of that sounds like a simple urinary problem ?
>>>>
>>>> All of it, especially ongoing for 10 years.
>>>
>>> "Terminal care" , and his age, didn't give you a clue?
>>> The guy is OLDER THAN L.. and she was married for 40+ years and has
>>> been widowed for 20.
>>
>> Correct
>>>
>>>> Most people, male and
>>>> female, suffer simple urinary problems for many years because they
>>>> don't think it important enough to seek medical help and/or are simply
>>>> embarrassed. Don't you see all the ads on TV for men to buy depends
>>>> and to have their prostate checked?
>>>
>>> No, I've never seen depends (or equivalent) advertised on UK TV.
>>> Possibly because in the UK, the NHS supplies serious incontinence
>>> products, and advertises prostate checks and care in every GP waiting
>>> room.
>>> There's no TV advertising of prescription-only medicine here, either.
>>>
>>> Janet UK
>>
>> I wish to god they didn't advertise all those here - actually I only
>> see prescription only drugs advertised on US channels but what gets me
>> is they have to then tell you what the side effects could be. In some
>> cases I would think it would pay them not to run an ad
>>
> Those ads drive me crazy. What really got to me was former Vice
> President (OOOPS! Where did I get that idea? Correction: Senator Bob Dole touting Viagra.

> Do we really need to know your dick
> doesn't get hard without a pill?
>
> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nBdgpjnKInA
>
> This clip also includes an ad Mr. Dole did for Pepsi. So it's sort of
> OB Food. But only if you consider soft-drinks food.
>
> Jill

"Brooklyn1" > wrote in message
...
> On Mon, 30 Sep 2013 20:59:35 +0100, "Ophelia" >
> wrote:
>
>>
>>"jmcquown" > wrote in message
...
>>> On 9/30/2013 11:46 AM, Ophelia wrote:
>>>>
>>>> "jmcquown" > wrote in message
>>>> ...
>>>>> On 9/29/2013 12:16 AM, Ed Pawlowski wrote:
>>>>>> On Sat, 28 Sep 2013 23:32:47 -0400, Cheryl >
>>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>>> On 9/28/2013 7:22 AM, wrote:
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> The answer, at least it worked well for my neighbour and I, is to
>>>>>>>> sprinkle urine around the boundaries. Deer understand marking
>>>>>>>> territory and they will go to someone else.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> I think she's tried urine but from what species, I don't know. Do
>>>>>>> the
>>>>>>> recommend a species?
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Human. Really, it works.
>>>>>>
>>>>> Sheesh. I don't even like to pee in a cup at the doctor's office. To
>>>>> discourage deer from eating plants I'm supposed to do this at home?
>>>>> LOLOL
>>>>
>>>> No, not you Male pee! Because of the hormones apparently
>>>>
>>>>
>>> Well then... I'll just walk up the street and ask Dave if he'd like to
>>> pee
>>> around the yard!
>>
>>ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
>
> I can pee like a powerwasher. LOL
> Actually that's exactly what I did yesterday, I powerwashed my house.

Not with pee I trust???

"Brooklyn1" > wrote in message
...
> On Sun, 29 Sep 2013 10:23:09 -0300, wrote:
>
>>On Sun, 29 Sep 2013 08:29:03 -0400, Gary > wrote:
>>
wrote:
>>>>
>>>> On Sat, 28 Sep 2013 18:30:57 -0700, "Cheri" >
>>>> wrote:
>>>>
>>>> >"Brooklyn1" > wrote in message
>>>> .. .
>>>> >
>>>> >> If he's otherwise a nice guy you really should bring him to a
>>>> >> Urologist... in most cases a small pill once a day will cure his
>>>> >> leaky
>>>> >> bladder... you seem rather shallow, like you're so perfect.
>>>> >
>>>> >
>>>> >Oh, the irony.
>>>> >
>>>> >Cheri
>>>>
>>>> Lol - a pill won't fix this - probably has a few more months left but
>>>> the illness has dragged out a couple of years now, sadly for him.
>>>
>>>Would you marry the guy if he was healthy? If so, if he loves you and
>>>you love him, you should go for at least a few months together. This
>>>life on earth is all we are guaranteed so I'd grab any opportunity to
>>>be with someone that I loved. You should never pass up that even if
>>>you see an end in sight.
>>>
>>>You would make the end of his life happy and be there for him when he
>>>died. You said he's "stinking rich" so don't sign a prenup and you
>>>might be very well compensated for your "troubles." At least he might
>>>end his life a bit happier, and you too if you really do care about
>>>him.
>>>
>>>Even if you don't marry him, if you care about him, be there for him.
>>>At least be a close friend (without financial compensation). It's the
>>>right thing to do and you know it is.
>>>
>>>G.
>>
>>No, the proposal was several years ago but I didn't want another
>>relationship - partly because I was married for 43 years to someone I
>>did love until the end. However, I had no desire to go through the
>>last years with someone else and what I was pointing out now was that
>>had I decided the money looked to good to be true, I would now be
>>working extraordinarily hard for it!
>>
>>He's simply a friend and at this end of the game, I am thinking
>>keeping friends as friends, both male and female, is the best policy,
>>for me anyway.
>
> Being a good friend is likely all he wants.

Agreed and he will be lucky to have her for his friend.


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> wrote in message
...
> On Sun, 29 Sep 2013 19:57:24 -0400, Brooklyn1
> > wrote:
>>>
>>>No, the proposal was several years ago but I didn't want another
>>>relationship - partly because I was married for 43 years to someone I
>>>did love until the end. However, I had no desire to go through the
>>>last years with someone else and what I was pointing out now was that
>>>had I decided the money looked to good to be true, I would now be
>>>working extraordinarily hard for it!
>>>
>>>He's simply a friend and at this end of the game, I am thinking
>>>keeping friends as friends, both male and female, is the best policy,
>>>for me anyway.
>>
>>Being a good friend is likely all he wants.
>
> Exactly now, but I am not the care giver which is also good.

Yes!


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