"Yellow" > wrote in message
T...
> In article om>,
> says...
>>
>> On 6/7/2014 10:49 AM, Yellow wrote:
>>
>> > My husband definitely voted for sudden (although
>> > at just 45, he would have preferred much later in life and sudden) and
>> > he told me that if "I ever need someone to wipe my bottom for me, shoot
>> > me" and this was something what went through my mind a lot in the three
>> > days that my husband was on a life support machine before it was
>> > finally
>> > accepted by us all that there was no hope and I agreed we should turn
>> > it
>> > off. As much as it hurt to let him die, he would not have liked life
>> > with brain damage.
>>
>> You pretty much just described my father when you relayed your husbands
>> desire to not have a lingering death. After my father was diagnosed
>> with cancer, went through treatment, and we pretty much thought he was
>> well into recovery, he still wasn't eating enough to heal the damage
>> that had been done to his body. He and my mom had made a pact that if
>> one of them required life support, the other would not allow it. The
>> night he passed away, I still can't comprehend how my mother had the
>> strength to tell the ER doctors not to prolong his life on a machine.
>
> Your Mom found the courage she needed to do the right thing for your Dad
> because at the end, that is all you can do for them.
>
>> She misses him every day though he's been gone almost 5 years now to the
>> day. But as time goes on she is becoming stronger and learning how to
>> live without him. Her volunteering "job" helps her a lot.
>
> Yes, the trick is not to even try to "get over them" but to find a way
> of living that allows you to cope with the loss - sounds easy doesn't
> it, when you write it down. :-)

I am saving all these. I am terrified of it happening to me.

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On 6/7/2014 6:35 PM, wrote:

> Along with the advice you have already received, about cooking regular
> portions and freezing, I have two suggestions:
>
> Don't cook every night. A friend who has been divorced longer than I have
> been married, would always eat two frozen meals of the "Lean Cuisine" or
> "Healthy Choice" type for work day dinner. (A single such lo cal meal
> was never satisfying.)
>
> Club together with friends in the same boat. When my wife was recovering
> and I was busy with work, her friends set up a meal rotation. The idea
> was that they were cooking anyway, so they would just increase the number
> of portions by two. Make enough food for four, pack up three containers,
> and let your friends pick them up. Then you only cook one day out of four,
> and are always eating something different. (Yes, you could go to each
> others' houses every night, but this way you don't get tired of each other.)
>
>
> Salads with some cooked protein is always good. That's how we use up leftover
> steak when we feel like grilling outdoors. Two friends of mine live
> mainly off pasta with tomato sauce of some kind.

Hope your wife is doing better. One service, some friends of ours used,
is called Meal Train. You look at the calendar and choose the dates you
want to bring food, it worked out well for our friends. It also tells
you if they are allergic to anything, or if they do not like onions,
nuts, etc.

http://www.mealtrain.com/

Becca

On 6/8/2014 7:15 AM, Ophelia wrote:
>
>
> "Yellow" > wrote in message
> T...
>> In article om>,
>> says...
>>>
>>> On 6/7/2014 10:49 AM, Yellow wrote:
>>>
>>> > My husband definitely voted for sudden (although
>>> > at just 45, he would have preferred much later in life and sudden) and
>>> > he told me that if "I ever need someone to wipe my bottom for me,
>>> shoot
>>> > me" and this was something what went through my mind a lot in the
>>> three
>>> > days that my husband was on a life support machine before it was >
>>> finally
>>> > accepted by us all that there was no hope and I agreed we should
>>> turn > it
>>> > off. As much as it hurt to let him die, he would not have liked life
>>> > with brain damage.
>>>
>>> You pretty much just described my father when you relayed your husbands
>>> desire to not have a lingering death. After my father was diagnosed
>>> with cancer, went through treatment, and we pretty much thought he was
>>> well into recovery, he still wasn't eating enough to heal the damage
>>> that had been done to his body. He and my mom had made a pact that if
>>> one of them required life support, the other would not allow it. The
>>> night he passed away, I still can't comprehend how my mother had the
>>> strength to tell the ER doctors not to prolong his life on a machine.
>>
>> Your Mom found the courage she needed to do the right thing for your Dad
>> because at the end, that is all you can do for them.
>>
>>> She misses him every day though he's been gone almost 5 years now to the
>>> day. But as time goes on she is becoming stronger and learning how to
>>> live without him. Her volunteering "job" helps her a lot.
>>
>> Yes, the trick is not to even try to "get over them" but to find a way
>> of living that allows you to cope with the loss - sounds easy doesn't
>> it, when you write it down. :-)
>
> I am saving all these. I am terrified of it happening to me.

You are not alone, Ms O, this is a club I do not want to join.

Becca

"Ema Nymton" > wrote in message
...
> On 6/8/2014 7:15 AM, Ophelia wrote:
>>
>>
>> "Yellow" > wrote in message
>> T...
>>> In article om>,
>>> says...
>>>>
>>>> On 6/7/2014 10:49 AM, Yellow wrote:
>>>>
>>>> > My husband definitely voted for sudden (although
>>>> > at just 45, he would have preferred much later in life and sudden)
>>>> > and
>>>> > he told me that if "I ever need someone to wipe my bottom for me,
>>>> shoot
>>>> > me" and this was something what went through my mind a lot in the
>>>> three
>>>> > days that my husband was on a life support machine before it was >
>>>> finally
>>>> > accepted by us all that there was no hope and I agreed we should
>>>> turn > it
>>>> > off. As much as it hurt to let him die, he would not have liked life
>>>> > with brain damage.
>>>>
>>>> You pretty much just described my father when you relayed your husbands
>>>> desire to not have a lingering death. After my father was diagnosed
>>>> with cancer, went through treatment, and we pretty much thought he was
>>>> well into recovery, he still wasn't eating enough to heal the damage
>>>> that had been done to his body. He and my mom had made a pact that if
>>>> one of them required life support, the other would not allow it. The
>>>> night he passed away, I still can't comprehend how my mother had the
>>>> strength to tell the ER doctors not to prolong his life on a machine.
>>>
>>> Your Mom found the courage she needed to do the right thing for your Dad
>>> because at the end, that is all you can do for them.
>>>
>>>> She misses him every day though he's been gone almost 5 years now to
>>>> the
>>>> day. But as time goes on she is becoming stronger and learning how to
>>>> live without him. Her volunteering "job" helps her a lot.
>>>
>>> Yes, the trick is not to even try to "get over them" but to find a way
>>> of living that allows you to cope with the loss - sounds easy doesn't
>>> it, when you write it down. :-)
>>
>> I am saving all these. I am terrified of it happening to me.
>
> You are not alone, Ms O, this is a club I do not want to join.

Not just me then(

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In article >, lid
says...
>
> "Ema Nymton" > wrote in message
> ...
> > On 6/8/2014 7:15 AM, Ophelia wrote:
> >>
> >>
> >> "Yellow" > wrote in message
> >> T...
> >>> In article om>,
> >>> says...
> >>>>
> >>>> On 6/7/2014 10:49 AM, Yellow wrote:
> >>>>
> >>>> > My husband definitely voted for sudden (although
> >>>> > at just 45, he would have preferred much later in life and sudden)
> >>>> > and
> >>>> > he told me that if "I ever need someone to wipe my bottom for me,
> >>>> shoot
> >>>> > me" and this was something what went through my mind a lot in the
> >>>> three
> >>>> > days that my husband was on a life support machine before it was >
> >>>> finally
> >>>> > accepted by us all that there was no hope and I agreed we should
> >>>> turn > it
> >>>> > off. As much as it hurt to let him die, he would not have liked life
> >>>> > with brain damage.
> >>>>
> >>>> You pretty much just described my father when you relayed your husbands
> >>>> desire to not have a lingering death. After my father was diagnosed
> >>>> with cancer, went through treatment, and we pretty much thought he was
> >>>> well into recovery, he still wasn't eating enough to heal the damage
> >>>> that had been done to his body. He and my mom had made a pact that if
> >>>> one of them required life support, the other would not allow it. The
> >>>> night he passed away, I still can't comprehend how my mother had the
> >>>> strength to tell the ER doctors not to prolong his life on a machine.
> >>>
> >>> Your Mom found the courage she needed to do the right thing for your Dad
> >>> because at the end, that is all you can do for them.
> >>>
> >>>> She misses him every day though he's been gone almost 5 years now to
> >>>> the
> >>>> day. But as time goes on she is becoming stronger and learning how to
> >>>> live without him. Her volunteering "job" helps her a lot.
> >>>
> >>> Yes, the trick is not to even try to "get over them" but to find a way
> >>> of living that allows you to cope with the loss - sounds easy doesn't
> >>> it, when you write it down. :-)
> >>
> >> I am saving all these. I am terrified of it happening to me.
> >
> > You are not alone, Ms O, this is a club I do not want to join.
>
> Not just me then(

I think it is something that terrifies everyone but it's not worth the
energy dwelling on what might be - just make sure you appreciate them,
even when they are being a pain in the arse and you want to lock them in
the doghouse. A much better use of energy. :-)

"Yellow" > wrote in message
T...
> In article >, lid
> says...
>>
>> "Ema Nymton" > wrote in message
>> ...
>> > On 6/8/2014 7:15 AM, Ophelia wrote:
>> >>
>> >>
>> >> "Yellow" > wrote in message
>> >> T...
>> >>> In article om>,
>> >>> says...
>> >>>>
>> >>>> On 6/7/2014 10:49 AM, Yellow wrote:
>> >>>>
>> >>>> > My husband definitely voted for sudden (although
>> >>>> > at just 45, he would have preferred much later in life and sudden)
>> >>>> > and
>> >>>> > he told me that if "I ever need someone to wipe my bottom for me,
>> >>>> shoot
>> >>>> > me" and this was something what went through my mind a lot in the
>> >>>> three
>> >>>> > days that my husband was on a life support machine before it was >
>> >>>> finally
>> >>>> > accepted by us all that there was no hope and I agreed we should
>> >>>> turn > it
>> >>>> > off. As much as it hurt to let him die, he would not have liked
>> >>>> > life
>> >>>> > with brain damage.
>> >>>>
>> >>>> You pretty much just described my father when you relayed your
>> >>>> husbands
>> >>>> desire to not have a lingering death. After my father was diagnosed
>> >>>> with cancer, went through treatment, and we pretty much thought he
>> >>>> was
>> >>>> well into recovery, he still wasn't eating enough to heal the damage
>> >>>> that had been done to his body. He and my mom had made a pact that
>> >>>> if
>> >>>> one of them required life support, the other would not allow it. The
>> >>>> night he passed away, I still can't comprehend how my mother had the
>> >>>> strength to tell the ER doctors not to prolong his life on a
>> >>>> machine.
>> >>>
>> >>> Your Mom found the courage she needed to do the right thing for your
>> >>> Dad
>> >>> because at the end, that is all you can do for them.
>> >>>
>> >>>> She misses him every day though he's been gone almost 5 years now to
>> >>>> the
>> >>>> day. But as time goes on she is becoming stronger and learning how
>> >>>> to
>> >>>> live without him. Her volunteering "job" helps her a lot.
>> >>>
>> >>> Yes, the trick is not to even try to "get over them" but to find a
>> >>> way
>> >>> of living that allows you to cope with the loss - sounds easy doesn't
>> >>> it, when you write it down. :-)
>> >>
>> >> I am saving all these. I am terrified of it happening to me.
>> >
>> > You are not alone, Ms O, this is a club I do not want to join.
>>
>> Not just me then(
>
> I think it is something that terrifies everyone but it's not worth the
> energy dwelling on what might be - just make sure you appreciate them,
> even when they are being a pain in the arse and you want to lock them in
> the doghouse. A much better use of energy. :-)

Oh I do and I never want to lock him in the doghouse He is lovely and
puts up with me What more could I ask)))

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Ophelia wrote:
>
> I am saving all these. I am terrified of it happening to me.

It's definitely going to happen to you or your husband eventually.
Just enjoy every day with him while it lasts. Miserable times once
someone dies but when it happens, do know that eventually time will
heal.

Next universal election, I'm planning to run for the position of
"God." If I win, I'll definitely fix all this needless earthly
suffering. I have a lot of visions for the future. It does NOT have to
be this bad.

G.

On 2014-06-05 2:07 PM, Janet Wilder wrote:

> Sorry for dumping this. Anyway, pleas send tips on how to cook for
> one. How do you inspire yourself to get up and make a meal for one person?


I should have mentioned this recipe when you originally posted the
request but I didn't know if you keep kosher. It is a recipe for
stuffed pork chops that I saw years ago on Over Easy, an old TV show
for oldsters hosted by Hugh Downs. Their recipes were aimed at retired
couples, widows and widowers. This is one recipe that I tried and really
enjoyed. In fact, I should to it again some time.

You will need one thick pork chop, one small onion, one or two carrots,
apple juice and pitted prunes.

Peel and chop potato and carrot. Cut a slit into the chop and stuff
it with the prune(s) and stick a tooth pick in to keep it closed.
Season with salt and pepper and brown slightly in a hot pan. Add equal
parts water and apple juice and toss in the potato and carrot. Cover and
simmer 20 minutes.

"Gary" > wrote in message ...
> Ophelia wrote:
>>
>> I am saving all these. I am terrified of it happening to me.
>
> It's definitely going to happen to you or your husband eventually.
> Just enjoy every day with him while it lasts.

We do.

Miserable times once
> someone dies but when it happens, do know that eventually time will
> heal.

I will not tell you my plan.


> Next universal election, I'm planning to run for the position of
> "God." If I win, I'll definitely fix all this needless earthly
> suffering. I have a lot of visions for the future. It does NOT have to
> be this bad.

I'll vote for you


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On Thu, 05 Jun 2014 15:45:14 -0400, Ed Pawlowski > wrote:

>On 6/5/2014 2:07 PM, Janet Wilder wrote:
>> Some of the FB members may have heard, but my husband and best friend
>> passed away on Sunday. the funeral was on Tuesday in New Jersey as we
>> had already purchased plots there near my daughter's grave.
>>
>
>> Sorry for dumping this. Anyway, pleas send tips on how to cook for
>> one. How do you inspire yourself to get up and make a meal for one person?

>
>Keep cooking the same way, but make another meal portion for the next day.

I cook mainly for myself, Janet... I do what is suggested above. I
cook for more than just one meal, and sometimes cook big
things/casseroles, etc. If you have a freezer, portion some off into
individual portions and you have have dinner ready when you just
cannot face cooking.

Christine

On 6/9/2014 8:07 PM, Christine Dabney wrote:
> On Thu, 05 Jun 2014 15:45:14 -0400, Ed Pawlowski > wrote:
>
>> On 6/5/2014 2:07 PM, Janet Wilder wrote:
>>> Some of the FB members may have heard, but my husband and best friend
>>> passed away on Sunday. the funeral was on Tuesday in New Jersey as we
>>> had already purchased plots there near my daughter's grave.
>>>
>>
>>> Sorry for dumping this. Anyway, pleas send tips on how to cook for
>>> one. How do you inspire yourself to get up and make a meal for one person?
>
>>
>> Keep cooking the same way, but make another meal portion for the next day.
>
> I cook mainly for myself, Janet... I do what is suggested above. I
> cook for more than just one meal, and sometimes cook big
> things/casseroles, etc. If you have a freezer, portion some off into
> individual portions and you have have dinner ready when you just
> cannot face cooking.
>
> Christine
>

I'm trying. poured a bowl of cereal this AM but the milk had gone bad.
Made a sandwich for lunch and a couple of hot dogs for dinner.

I will try to do better tomorrow. I spend most of the day on the phone
except for too runs to get the death certificates and go to the bank.
Then I learned my health benefits terminate at the end of the month, so
I had to go get some. Trip to the post office to mail death
certificates. I'll get his pension for the rest of my life, but it's
going to take them up to 3 months to process it.

Called about one of those Life Alert gizmos. $41 a month! Told the
kids they could scrape me off the floor, I'm not paying.

Cancelled DirectTV which we only had for baseball. They told me the
cancellation fee was $250 but if I didn't want to pay it, I could keep
it for 15 months. @ $35 a month, it was cheaper to cancel it.

Need to go to Social Security tomorrow and fax some documents to California.

Will do the probate later in the week.

--
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Way-the-heck-south Texas
Spelling doesn't count. Cooking does.

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On 2014-06-10 7:12 AM, wrote:

>>
>> Called about one of those Life Alert gizmos. $41 a month! Told the
>> kids they could scrape me off the floor, I'm not paying.
>
> I agree, that's a bit much. I keep a land line and have one with four
> handsets. That way I keep one in the bathroom which is the room for
> the most and worst accidents. It's at a low level in case I couldn't
> reach it up on the counter.


Wise idea. I once had a call in the middle of the night. It was my
mother's neighbour. They had heard the tapping on the pipes. My mother
had passed out in her bathroom and could not get up. Who knows if she
had had a cordless phone with her if she could have managed to call.
After that she had a life alert and only needed to push a button to get
help.

On 2014-06-10 8:26 AM, wrote:

>> Wise idea. I once had a call in the middle of the night. It was my
>> mother's neighbour. They had heard the tapping on the pipes. My mother
>> had passed out in her bathroom and could not get up. Who knows if she
>> had had a cordless phone with her if she could have managed to call.
>> After that she had a life alert and only needed to push a button to get
>> help.
>>
>>
> Tapping would not help me, this is a solid concrete built set of
> condos, it's rare to hear neighbours, even if they are partying. Men
> working on units, hammering etc. yes, one can hear that.

Her condo was a similar concrete construction and quite well sound
proofed. I never heard and noises from her neighbours. She had fallen in
the bathroom and was tapping on the pipe. The metal pipes carried the
sound well enough to wake up the woman in the next condo.
>
> I had a friend who had to use a walker so I made her a decorative
> little bag to hold her phone that she could hang from the walker. It
> was always with her and she was always able to reach it from the
> floor. Her cat loved it too

Just remember that when people fall they are sometimes also quite
confused and may not be able to reach up. Maybe what they need is
BluTooth, and hope their voice is strong enough and clear enough to
activate the voice dialing. A pendant with a simple button may be the
best option.

On 6/9/2014 10:37 PM, Janet Wilder wrote:
> Called about one of those Life Alert gizmos. $41 a month! Told the
> kids they could scrape me off the floor, I'm not paying.

Check this out:

http://www.logicmark.com/products/guardian-alert/

No service contract or monthly fee. Push the button for two-way
communication with the 911 operator. A search shows they're available
at Walmart and I'm sure many other big-box retailers would stock them,
or you can order online.

Jill

On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 08:39:57 -0400, jmcquown >
wrote:

>On 6/9/2014 10:37 PM, Janet Wilder wrote:
>> Called about one of those Life Alert gizmos. $41 a month! Told the
>> kids they could scrape me off the floor, I'm not paying.
>
>Check this out:
>
>http://www.logicmark.com/products/guardian-alert/
>
>No service contract or monthly fee. Push the button for two-way
>communication with the 911 operator. A search shows they're available
>at Walmart and I'm sure many other big-box retailers would stock them,
>or you can order online.
>
>Jill

Yep, and:

"There are no monthly fees associated with the Guardian Alert 911.
Once the unit is plugged into a power outlet and an active landline it
is ready to use. "

How many people have an active landline phone line anymore? ;-)

John Kuthe...

"jmcquown" wrote in message ...

On 6/9/2014 10:37 PM, Janet Wilder wrote:
> Called about one of those Life Alert gizmos. $41 a month! Told the
> kids they could scrape me off the floor, I'm not paying.

Check this out:

http://www.logicmark.com/products/guardian-alert/

No service contract or monthly fee. Push the button for two-way
communication with the 911 operator. A search shows they're available
at Walmart and I'm sure many other big-box retailers would stock them,
or you can order online.

Jill

~~~~~~~
I have one of these and have been very satisfied. I accidentally activated
it once and received immediate response from a 911 operator. It has longer
range than most. My house is on 3/4 acre, and I tested it from every area
of the house and lawn. It worked perfectly in every case. It does require
a landline, but the setup simply means plugging it in.

I got mine from amazon.com:
http://www.amazon.com/LogicMark-3091...=logicmark+911

MaryL

> wrote in message
...
> On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 07:46:09 -0400, Dave Smith
> > wrote:
>
>>On 2014-06-10 7:12 AM, wrote:
>>
>>>>
>>>> Called about one of those Life Alert gizmos. $41 a month! Told the
>>>> kids they could scrape me off the floor, I'm not paying.
>>>
>>> I agree, that's a bit much. I keep a land line and have one with four
>>> handsets. That way I keep one in the bathroom which is the room for
>>> the most and worst accidents. It's at a low level in case I couldn't
>>> reach it up on the counter.
>>
>>
>>Wise idea. I once had a call in the middle of the night. It was my
>>mother's neighbour. They had heard the tapping on the pipes. My mother
>>had passed out in her bathroom and could not get up. Who knows if she
>>had had a cordless phone with her if she could have managed to call.
>>After that she had a life alert and only needed to push a button to get
>>help.
>>
>>
> Tapping would not help me, this is a solid concrete built set of
> condos, it's rare to hear neighbours, even if they are partying. Men
> working on units, hammering etc. yes, one can hear that.
>
> I had a friend who had to use a walker so I made her a decorative
> little bag to hold her phone that she could hang from the walker. It
> was always with her and she was always able to reach it from the
> floor. Her cat loved it too

The cat got in the bag? ;-)

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On 6/10/2014 9:03 AM, MaryL wrote:
>
>
> "jmcquown" wrote in message ...
>
> On 6/9/2014 10:37 PM, Janet Wilder wrote:
>> Called about one of those Life Alert gizmos. $41 a month! Told the
>> kids they could scrape me off the floor, I'm not paying.
>
> Check this out:
>
> http://www.logicmark.com/products/guardian-alert/
>
> No service contract or monthly fee. Push the button for two-way
> communication with the 911 operator. A search shows they're available
> at Walmart and I'm sure many other big-box retailers would stock them,
> or you can order online.
>
> Jill
>
> ~~~~~~~
> I have one of these and have been very satisfied. I accidentally
> activated it once and received immediate response from a 911 operator.
> It has longer range than most. My house is on 3/4 acre, and I tested it
> from every area of the house and lawn. It worked perfectly in every
> case. It does require a landline, but the setup simply means plugging
> it in.
>
> I got mine from amazon.com:
> http://www.amazon.com/LogicMark-3091...=logicmark+911
>
>
> MaryL

I was hoping you'd chime in, Mary!

Jill

> wrote in message
...
> On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 14:10:01 +0100, "Ophelia"
> > wrote:
>
>>
>>
> wrote in message
. ..
>>> On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 07:46:09 -0400, Dave Smith
>>> > wrote:
>>>
>>>>On 2014-06-10 7:12 AM, wrote:
>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Called about one of those Life Alert gizmos. $41 a month! Told the
>>>>>> kids they could scrape me off the floor, I'm not paying.
>>>>>
>>>>> I agree, that's a bit much. I keep a land line and have one with four
>>>>> handsets. That way I keep one in the bathroom which is the room for
>>>>> the most and worst accidents. It's at a low level in case I couldn't
>>>>> reach it up on the counter.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>Wise idea. I once had a call in the middle of the night. It was my
>>>>mother's neighbour. They had heard the tapping on the pipes. My mother
>>>>had passed out in her bathroom and could not get up. Who knows if she
>>>>had had a cordless phone with her if she could have managed to call.
>>>>After that she had a life alert and only needed to push a button to get
>>>>help.
>>>>
>>>>
>>> Tapping would not help me, this is a solid concrete built set of
>>> condos, it's rare to hear neighbours, even if they are partying. Men
>>> working on units, hammering etc. yes, one can hear that.
>>>
>>> I had a friend who had to use a walker so I made her a decorative
>>> little bag to hold her phone that she could hang from the walker. It
>>> was always with her and she was always able to reach it from the
>>> floor. Her cat loved it too
>>
>>The cat got in the bag? ;-)
>
> No, but it frequently made runs at the bag lol

Heh

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On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 08:39:57 -0400, jmcquown >
wrote:

> On 6/9/2014 10:37 PM, Janet Wilder wrote:
> > Called about one of those Life Alert gizmos. $41 a month! Told the
> > kids they could scrape me off the floor, I'm not paying.
>
> Check this out:
>
> http://www.logicmark.com/products/guardian-alert/
>
> No service contract or monthly fee. Push the button for two-way
> communication with the 911 operator. A search shows they're available
> at Walmart and I'm sure many other big-box retailers would stock them,
> or you can order online.
>

I am passing that along, thanks for posting!


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On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 08:03:56 -0500, "MaryL"
> wrote:

> It does require
> a landline, but the setup simply means plugging it in.
>

Landline? Well, there's your fee.

> I got mine from amazon.com:
> http://www.amazon.com/LogicMark-3091...=logicmark+911
>


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On 6/10/2014 10:48 AM, sf wrote:
> On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 08:39:57 -0400, jmcquown >
> wrote:
>
>> On 6/9/2014 10:37 PM, Janet Wilder wrote:
>>> Called about one of those Life Alert gizmos. $41 a month! Told the
>>> kids they could scrape me off the floor, I'm not paying.
>>
>> Check this out:
>>
>> http://www.logicmark.com/products/guardian-alert/
>>
>> No service contract or monthly fee. Push the button for two-way
>> communication with the 911 operator. A search shows they're available
>> at Walmart and I'm sure many other big-box retailers would stock them,
>> or you can order online.
>>
>
> I am passing that along, thanks for posting!
>
>
You're welcome!

Jill

On 6/10/2014 10:50 AM, sf wrote:
> On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 08:03:56 -0500, "MaryL"
> > wrote:
>
>> It does require
>> a landline, but the setup simply means plugging it in.
>>
>
> Landline? Well, there's your fee.
>
True. I realize this isn't about me, but I am required to have a land
line for the security system in the house. So this sort of setup is
better than piling on monthly monitoring fees (probably subject to
change without notice). The unit got good customer reviews. I knew
Mary had one of them, which is why I suggested it.

Jill

>> I got mine from amazon.com:
>> http://www.amazon.com/LogicMark-3091...=logicmark+911
>>
>
>

On 6/10/2014 8:53 AM, John Kuthe wrote:


> Yep, and:
>
> "There are no monthly fees associated with the Guardian Alert 911.
> Once the unit is plugged into a power outlet and an active landline it
> is ready to use. "
>
> How many people have an active landline phone line anymore? ;-)
>
> John Kuthe...
>

Most of the older people I know still do. They are the ones most likely
to need this.

In article >,
says...

> Just remember that when people fall they are sometimes also quite
> confused and may not be able to reach up.

Our local county council provides a careline service for £4 sterling
per week. They include, fall sensors and motion sensors that don't need
the user to reach a button or be able to speak.

http://www.north-
ayrshire.gov.uk/Documents/SocialServices/telecareleaflet-19-07-2012.pdf

Janet UK

On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 17:45:45 +0100, Janet > wrote:

> In article >,
> says...
>
> > Just remember that when people fall they are sometimes also quite
> > confused and may not be able to reach up.
>
> Our local county council provides a careline service for £4 sterling
> per week. They include, fall sensors and motion sensors that don't need
> the user to reach a button or be able to speak.
>
> http://www.north-
> ayrshire.gov.uk/Documents/SocialServices/telecareleaflet-19-07-2012.pdf
>

I found one, wondering if we have more.
http://www.medicalalertadvice.com/fall-detection.php

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All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn't hurt.

Janet Wilder wrote:
>
> Called about one of those Life Alert gizmos. $41 a month! Told the
> kids they could scrape me off the floor, I'm not paying.

Buy for $39.99 then $14.99/month... first month free at Walmart:
http://www.walmart.com/ip/GreatCall-...#ProductDetail

On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 07:53:43 -0500, John Kuthe >
wrote:

>On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 08:39:57 -0400, jmcquown >
>wrote:
>
>>On 6/9/2014 10:37 PM, Janet Wilder wrote:
>>> Called about one of those Life Alert gizmos. $41 a month! Told the
>>> kids they could scrape me off the floor, I'm not paying.
>>
>>Check this out:
>>
>>http://www.logicmark.com/products/guardian-alert/
>>
>>No service contract or monthly fee. Push the button for two-way
>>communication with the 911 operator. A search shows they're available
>>at Walmart and I'm sure many other big-box retailers would stock them,
>>or you can order online.
>>
>>Jill
>
>Yep, and:
>
>"There are no monthly fees associated with the Guardian Alert 911.
>Once the unit is plugged into a power outlet and an active landline it
>is ready to use. "
>
>How many people have an active landline phone line anymore? ;-)

I do... one land line with six phones connected. The Verizon landline
is practically free when bundled with a high speed computer line and
an iPhone.

On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 08:03:56 -0500, "MaryL"
> wrote:

>
>
>"jmcquown" wrote in message ...
>
>On 6/9/2014 10:37 PM, Janet Wilder wrote:
>> Called about one of those Life Alert gizmos. $41 a month! Told the
>> kids they could scrape me off the floor, I'm not paying.
>
>Check this out:
>
>http://www.logicmark.com/products/guardian-alert/
>
>No service contract or monthly fee. Push the button for two-way
>communication with the 911 operator. A search shows they're available
>at Walmart and I'm sure many other big-box retailers would stock them,
>or you can order online.
>
>Jill
>
>~~~~~~~
>I have one of these and have been very satisfied. I accidentally activated
>it once and received immediate response from a 911 operator. It has longer
>range than most. My house is on 3/4 acre, and I tested it from every area
>of the house and lawn. It worked perfectly in every case. It does require
>a landline, but the setup simply means plugging it in.
>
>I got mine from amazon.com:
>http://www.amazon.com/LogicMark-3091...=logicmark+911
>
>MaryL

Yeah, but, if all it does is connect you to 911 you can do the same
with any phone, so it's redundant. For portability simply carry a
Track Fone.
This does a lot mo
http://www.walmart.com/ip/GreatCall-...#ProductDetail

Janet Wilder wrote:
>
>I'm trying. poured a bowl of cereal this AM but the milk had gone bad.
>Made a sandwich for lunch and a couple of hot dogs for dinner.
>I will try to do better tomorrow.

Sounds more like you need assistance with depression than cooking... I
urge you to see your medical professional STAT.

>Cancelled DirectTV which we only had for baseball. They told me the
>cancellation fee was $250 but if I didn't want to pay it, I could keep
>it for 15 months. @ $35 a month, it was cheaper to cancel it.

I strongly suggest you keep your TV... it's not just for baseball.
Janet, you are definitely depressed, seek professional help. I knew
you were suffering from depression when you asked how to cook for one.

lucretiaborgia wrote:
>Christine Dabney wrote:
>>Ed Pawlowski wrote:
>>>Janet Wilder wrote:
>>>> Some of the FB members may have heard, but my husband and best friend
>>>> passed away on Sunday. the funeral was on Tuesday in New Jersey as we
>>>> had already purchased plots there near my daughter's grave.
>>>
>>>> Sorry for dumping this. Anyway, pleas send tips on how to cook for
>>>> one. How do you inspire yourself to get up and make a meal for one person?
>>>
>>>Keep cooking the same way, but make another meal portion for the next day.
>>
>>I cook mainly for myself, Janet... I do what is suggested above. I
>>cook for more than just one meal, and sometimes cook big
>>things/casseroles, etc. If you have a freezer, portion some off into
>>individual portions and you have have dinner ready when you just
>>cannot face cooking.
>
>I think it is actually impossible to cook a casserole for one - no
>flavour develops at all. I still use the 164 oz Le Crueset that I
>used when all my family was at home. Then it tastes the way stew
>always tasted, which is good.

Christine said she cooks large casseroles, etc. and then divides into
portions for later... no one said to cook one portion caseroles...
then it would make a lot more sense to stock your freezer with frozen
pot pies. Actually keeping a stock of frozen dinners is a good idea
too... I like to keep packages of Mrs. T's pierogies, they cook quick:
http://www.pierogies.com/retail/

In article >,
says...

> How many people have an active landline phone line anymore? ;-)

Me, and most rural dwellers here. Landline service is available
everywhere (unlike mobile signals) and never needs recharging.

Janet UK

wrote:
>
> I think it is actually impossible to cook a casserole for one - no
> flavour develops at all.

I agree. Just cook a large casserole then freeze portions. I cook for
only me now but I would never just cook for one meal with most things.
I, at least, will cook the main dish large, then maybe cook some quick
and easy sides later on.

G.

John Kuthe wrote:
>
> How many people have an active landline phone line anymore? ;-)

Me, for one. I have landline and cell phone, both for different
reasons and both are necessary.

G.

On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 07:46:09 -0400, Dave Smith
> wrote:

>On 2014-06-10 7:12 AM, wrote:
>
>>>
>>> Called about one of those Life Alert gizmos. $41 a month! Told the
>>> kids they could scrape me off the floor, I'm not paying.
>>
>> I agree, that's a bit much. I keep a land line and have one with four
>> handsets. That way I keep one in the bathroom which is the room for
>> the most and worst accidents. It's at a low level in case I couldn't
>> reach it up on the counter.
>
>
>Wise idea. I once had a call in the middle of the night. It was my
>mother's neighbour. They had heard the tapping on the pipes. My mother
>had passed out in her bathroom and could not get up. Who knows if she
>had had a cordless phone with her if she could have managed to call.
>After that she had a life alert and only needed to push a button to get
>help.

Most any phone today can be programmed to call 911 with the push of a
button, or any phone number... many phones now come with a prominent
911 button. I have my Track Fone programmed to auto dial a half dozen
important numbers including 911. I thought about getting one of those
life alert type thingies but after some thought decided a Track Fone
was a far better solution. At home I have a land line extention in
every room, but whenever I walk out the door I have my Track Fone.

sf wrote:
>
> On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 08:03:56 -0500, "MaryL"
> > wrote:
>
> > It does require
> > a landline, but the setup simply means plugging it in.
> >
>
> Landline? Well, there's your fee.

Not if you have one already. I have both for different reasons and
both are necessary for now.

G.

In article >, says...
>
> Ophelia wrote:
> >
> > I am saving all these. I am terrified of it happening to me.
>
> It's definitely going to happen to you or your husband eventually.
> Just enjoy every day with him while it lasts. Miserable times once
> someone dies but when it happens, do know that eventually time will
> heal.

I believe the "time will heal" thing to be just something someone says
(not have a go at you or anyone else in any shape or form, just a
general observation based on my own personal experience) when they do
not know what else to say and think that by saying it they are somehow
making you feel better.

Time does not heal, you just learn how to cope - not the same thing -
and that takes a lot of inter-strength and effort. It does not occur
through the simple passage of time.

"At least you have your memories" is another one. Yes, I know! And they
bloody well hurt! The last thing many bereaved people can cope with,
often for many years after their loss, is visiting those memories
voluntarily.

I am quite opinionated on this topic I know. :-)

A week after losing my husband I had one person tell me they understood
as they had just lost their cat (yes, that really did happen) and
another who knew how I felt because they'd had a miscarriage a few
months previously.

The miscarriage story is furtherer interesting as that was said through
a usenet group containing people I knew personally and I was so
horrified at the time, bearing in mind my most beloved husband had
suddenly died a week previously, leaving me and my two step-children and
friends and family and work and a full and complex life, and I felt
there was no comparison whatsoever (your mileage may vary) so I did not
reply to the message as I was completely at a loss at what to say. I
stopped posting and quietly abandoned the group for a time-out. A fellow
member of the group emailed me personally about a week later and told me
off for being so very rude in not thanking that person for their kind
thoughts.

Now I laugh and understand as, as I said, people just do not know what
to say and are just trying to be kind but often simply have no idea how
to be so they reel out the same platitudes they have heard other people
use.

Yes, I really am quite opinionated on this one. :-o


>
> Next universal election, I'm planning to run for the position of
> "God." If I win, I'll definitely fix all this needless earthly
> suffering. I have a lot of visions for the future. It does NOT have to
> be this bad.
>
> G.

Shit happens and unless you are a Buddhist, all you can do is try not to
take it too personally.

"Gary" > wrote in message ...
> John Kuthe wrote:
>>
>> How many people have an active landline phone line anymore? ;-)
>
> Me, for one. I have landline and cell phone, both for different
> reasons and both are necessary.

Same here.

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"Brooklyn1" wrote in message
...

On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 08:03:56 -0500, "MaryL"
> wrote:

>
>
>"jmcquown" wrote in message ...
>
>On 6/9/2014 10:37 PM, Janet Wilder wrote:
>> Called about one of those Life Alert gizmos. $41 a month! Told the
>> kids they could scrape me off the floor, I'm not paying.
>
>Check this out:
>
>http://www.logicmark.com/products/guardian-alert/
>
>No service contract or monthly fee. Push the button for two-way
>communication with the 911 operator. A search shows they're available
>at Walmart and I'm sure many other big-box retailers would stock them,
>or you can order online.
>
>Jill
>
>~~~~~~~
>I have one of these and have been very satisfied. I accidentally activated
>it once and received immediate response from a 911 operator. It has longer
>range than most. My house is on 3/4 acre, and I tested it from every area
>of the house and lawn. It worked perfectly in every case. It does require
>a landline, but the setup simply means plugging it in.
>
>I got mine from amazon.com:
>http://www.amazon.com/LogicMark-3091...=logicmark+911
>
>MaryL

Yeah, but, if all it does is connect you to 911 you can do the same
with any phone, so it's redundant. For portability simply carry a
Track Fone.
This does a lot mo
http://www.walmart.com/ip/GreatCall-...#ProductDetail

~~~~~~~

That looks like it has some good features, but I was trying to go with the
least cost possible, and it has a monthly fee. I do have a cell
phone--"plain vanilla" pre-paid which costs less than that one, but it is
very similar to Track Fone. I seldom use a cell phone--just for emergencies
or travel--because I still like having a landline handset in every room.
So, I wear the LogicMark on a lanyard (or in my pocked) in case I fall and
can't get to a phone. Both my grandmother and my aunt had very bad falls a
number of years ago, and there is no way they could have used a phone to
dial even if they could have reached them. So, I was interested in
something simple where I could just press a button in case of a real
emergency. The one you listed has that feature, but it also has a monthly
fee that is higher than what I pay for my cell phone. It does look good,
though.

MaryL

On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 14:08:12 -0400, Brooklyn1
> wrote:

>On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 07:53:43 -0500, John Kuthe >
>wrote:
>
>>On Tue, 10 Jun 2014 08:39:57 -0400, jmcquown >
>>wrote:
>>
>>>On 6/9/2014 10:37 PM, Janet Wilder wrote:
>>>> Called about one of those Life Alert gizmos. $41 a month! Told the
>>>> kids they could scrape me off the floor, I'm not paying.
>>>
>>>Check this out:
>>>
>>>http://www.logicmark.com/products/guardian-alert/
>>>
>>>No service contract or monthly fee. Push the button for two-way
>>>communication with the 911 operator. A search shows they're available
>>>at Walmart and I'm sure many other big-box retailers would stock them,
>>>or you can order online.
>>>
>>>Jill
>>
>>Yep, and:
>>
>>"There are no monthly fees associated with the Guardian Alert 911.
>>Once the unit is plugged into a power outlet and an active landline it
>>is ready to use. "
>>
>>How many people have an active landline phone line anymore? ;-)
>
>I do... one land line with six phones connected. The Verizon landline
>is practically free when bundled with a high speed computer line and
>an iPhone.

Yeah, when you're already paying Verizon $100+/mo, they will throw you
a bone!

John Kuthe...