I have an acquaintance whom I work with, and this sometimes requires
travel and eating out together. She is mid 40's, single and as nice as
can be but to put it bluntly she eats like a pig. Chews with her mouth
open, smacks lips the entire meal, gets food all over her face when
eating something like chicken wings. Not just on her lips, but all over
her cheeks and with juices dripping down her hands to her arms. Recently
a table full of coworkers ate together and witnessed this and all were
appalled and mentioned it amongst themselves afterwards. When out at a
restaurant and she is done eating she tosses her linen napkin into her
dirty plate of food right in front of her, even while others are still
eating. Just no table graces, you know? I think she might be doing
herself a social disservice and might not realize that people avoid
eating with her because of these things. I've learned to avoid sitting
directly accross from her. Would you take her aside and clue her in?
What would you say?
Goomba

Some things are best left unsaid. I think this is one of them. At her age,
I doubt she's going to change. Why insult her?

"Goomba38" > wrote in message
news
>I have an acquaintance whom I work with, and this sometimes requires travel
>and eating out together. She is mid 40's, single and as nice as can be but
>to put it bluntly she eats like a pig. Chews with her mouth open, smacks
>lips the entire meal, gets food all over her face when eating something
>like chicken wings. Not just on her lips, but all over her cheeks and with
>juices dripping down her hands to her arms. Recently a table full of
>coworkers ate together and witnessed this and all were appalled and
>mentioned it amongst themselves afterwards. When out at a restaurant and
>she is done eating she tosses her linen napkin into her dirty plate of food
>right in front of her, even while others are still eating. Just no table
>graces, you know? I think she might be doing herself a social disservice
>and might not realize that people avoid eating with her because of these
>things. I've learned to avoid sitting directly accross from her. Would you
>take her aside and clue her in? What would you say?
> Goomba

Goomba38 wrote:
> I have an acquaintance whom I work with, and this sometimes requires
> travel and eating out together. She is mid 40's, single and as nice as
> can be but to put it bluntly she eats like a pig. Chews with her mouth
> open, smacks lips the entire meal, gets food all over her face when
> eating something like chicken wings. Not just on her lips, but all over
> her cheeks and with juices dripping down her hands to her arms. Recently
> a table full of coworkers ate together and witnessed this and all were
> appalled and mentioned it amongst themselves afterwards. When out at a
> restaurant and she is done eating she tosses her linen napkin into her
> dirty plate of food right in front of her, even while others are still
> eating. Just no table graces, you know? I think she might be doing
> herself a social disservice and might not realize that people avoid
> eating with her because of these things. I've learned to avoid sitting
> directly accross from her. Would you take her aside and clue her in?
> What would you say?
> Goomba

Let me answer a question with a question: If someone on Usenet couldn't
spell, how would you break it to him/her?
Cathy(xyz)

"Goomba38" > wrote in message
news
>I have an acquaintance whom I work with, and this sometimes requires travel and
>eating out together. She is mid 40's, single and as nice as can be but to put
>it bluntly she eats like a pig. Chews with her mouth open, smacks lips the
>entire meal, gets food all over her face when eating something like chicken
>wings. Not just on her lips, but all over her cheeks and with juices dripping
>down her hands to her arms. Recently a table full of coworkers ate together and
>witnessed this and all were appalled and mentioned it amongst themselves
>afterwards. When out at a restaurant and she is done eating she tosses her
>linen napkin into her dirty plate of food right in front of her, even while
>others are still eating. Just no table graces, you know? I think she might be
>doing herself a social disservice and might not realize that people avoid
>eating with her because of these things. I've learned to avoid sitting directly
>accross from her. Would you take her aside and clue her in? What would you say?
> Goomba

IMHO that is a classic no win situation.

The ONLY time I would mention shortcomings would be if the eating is with
clients. At that point thee is a potential to jeopardize business. At that
point and only at that point if your company is large enough I would drop that
into the HR lap.

Dimitri

Goomba38 > wrote in message
news
> I have an acquaintance whom I work with, and this
> sometimes requires travel and eating out together.
> She is mid 40's, single and as nice as can be but to
> put it bluntly she eats like a pig. Chews with her mouth
> open, smacks lips the entire meal, gets food all over
> her face when eating something like chicken wings.
> Not just on her lips, but all over her cheeks and with
> juices dripping down her hands to her arms. Recently
> a table full of coworkers ate together and witnessed
> this and all were appalled and mentioned it amongst
> themselves afterwards. When out at a restaurant and
> she is done eating she tosses her linen napkin into her
> dirty plate of food right in front of her, even while
> others are still eating. Just no table graces, you know?
> I think she might be doing herself a social disservice
> and might not realize that people avoid eating with
> her because of these things. I've learned to avoid
> sitting directly accross from her. Would you take
> her aside and clue her in? What would you say?

No way; this is your Kobyashi Maru. The only thing you'd be missing if
you attempted to straighten her out was the exploding electronics and
dead/dying red shirts.

You attempted to "say something" already by stationing yourself away
from her frontal assault. She wasn't aware of it then and she wouldn't
be any more aware of it if you verbalized it.

There's always the passive-aggressive: In one company where I put in
some time, this workerbee just didn't know what a bar of soap was or why
anyone would use one. He often ate sardines in his office and thought
raw onions were a mutation of apples. To say meeting him, let alone
working near him, was tearful is doing the experience a disservice. His
manager, in an attempt to provide some social cues, started setting
deodorants and bars if glycerin soaps about; anywhere direct report
would find them or likely be for an extended period. At first the
workerbee was upset and complained to HR; the manager was just too smart
for him. (He never let _anyone_ see him do the deeds.) It worked --
eventually... But listening to workerbee hiss and spit was my penance
for being in the know. Try putting copies of public dining from some
version of Emily Post about for her to find.

The Ranger

On Tue, 16 Aug 2005 15:43:30 -0400, Goomba38 wrote:

> I have an acquaintance whom I work with, and this sometimes requires
> travel and eating out together. She is mid 40's, single and as nice as
> can be but to put it bluntly she eats like a pig. Chews with her mouth
> open, smacks lips the entire meal, gets food all over her face when
> eating something like chicken wings. Not just on her lips, but all over
> her cheeks and with juices dripping down her hands to her arms. Recently
> a table full of coworkers ate together and witnessed this and all were
> appalled and mentioned it amongst themselves afterwards. When out at a
> restaurant and she is done eating she tosses her linen napkin into her
> dirty plate of food right in front of her, even while others are still
> eating. Just no table graces, you know? I think she might be doing
> herself a social disservice and might not realize that people avoid
> eating with her because of these things. I've learned to avoid sitting
> directly accross from her. Would you take her aside and clue her in?
> What would you say?
> Goomba

I know someone who talks and chews at the same time. It's disgusting
and I know others have noticed it too. However, we eat in a lunchroom
not in a restaurant - so we aren't embarrassed in public by her lack
of social skills.

My first thought is your friend probably doesn't experience accurate
tactile sensations that would cue her into knowing when to wipe the
glop off her face and arms. But she probably also lacks the innate
ability to pick up on ordinary social cues and norms. I think if I
was in your situation, I'd make a point of eating at more casual
restaurants than the ones you seem to be choosing... that way, at
least she'd be throwing a paper napkin on her plate at the end of the
meal. I'd also feel more comfortable handing a person like your
friend a napkin to wipe their face or arms with (accompanied by an
"oops, it's running down your arm" or "you've got a big smudge on your
cheek") if we were eating in a rib joint or spaghetti/pizza palace
than if we were eating filet in a fancy restaurant.

sf wrote:
> On Tue, 16 Aug 2005 15:43:30 -0400, Goomba38 wrote:
>
> > I have an acquaintance whom I work with, and this sometimes requires
> > travel and eating out together. She is mid 40's, single and as nice as
> > can be but to put it bluntly she eats like a pig. Chews with her mouth
> > open, smacks lips the entire meal, gets food all over her face when
> > eating something like chicken wings. Not just on her lips, but all over
> > her cheeks and with juices dripping down her hands to her arms. Recently
> > a table full of coworkers ate together and witnessed this and all were
> > appalled and mentioned it amongst themselves afterwards. When out at a
> > restaurant and she is done eating she tosses her linen napkin into her
> > dirty plate of food right in front of her, even while others are still
> > eating. Just no table graces, you know? I think she might be doing
> > herself a social disservice and might not realize that people avoid
> > eating with her because of these things. I've learned to avoid sitting
> > directly accross from her. Would you take her aside and clue her in?
> > What would you say?
> > Goomba
>
> I know someone who talks and chews at the same time. It's disgusting
> and I know others have noticed it too. However, we eat in a lunchroom
> not in a restaurant - so we aren't embarrassed in public by her lack
> of social skills.
>
> My first thought is your friend probably doesn't experience accurate
> tactile sensations that would cue her into knowing when to wipe the
> glop off her face and arms. But she probably also lacks the innate
> ability to pick up on ordinary social cues and norms. I think if I
> was in your situation, I'd make a point of eating at more casual
> restaurants than the ones you seem to be choosing... that way, at
> least she'd be throwing a paper napkin on her plate at the end of the
> meal. I'd also feel more comfortable handing a person like your
> friend a napkin to wipe their face or arms with (accompanied by an
> "oops, it's running down your arm" or "you've got a big smudge on your
> cheek") if we were eating in a rib joint or spaghetti/pizza palace
> than if we were eating filet in a fancy restaurant.

I tend to agree with the other posters that saying anything to your
coworker is a no-win situation for you. However, SF's suggestion isn't
without merit. You can't necessarily address the overall situation,
but regardless of the restaurant, you can easily pass her a napkin and
nicely say, "oops, you've got a spot on your cheek." There's nothing
at all wrong with that, as long as you don't purposely draw (even more)
attention to her (she's apparently doing a find job of embarassing
herself, whether she knows it or not, and it would just be tacky to
compound that <g>).

"Alexis" > wrote in message
ps.com...
>
> sf wrote:
>> On Tue, 16 Aug 2005 15:43:30 -0400, Goomba38 wrote:
>>
>> > I have an acquaintance whom I work with, and this sometimes requires
>> > travel and eating out together. She is mid 40's, single and as nice
>> > as
>> > can be but to put it bluntly she eats like a pig.
<snipping icky details...>
Would you take her aside and clue her in?
>> > What would you say?
>> > Goomba
>>
>><snip>

I'd also feel more comfortable handing a person like your
>> friend a napkin to wipe their face or arms with (accompanied by an
>> "oops, it's running down your arm" or "you've got a big smudge on your
>> cheek") if we were eating in a rib joint or spaghetti/pizza palace
>> than if we were eating filet in a fancy restaurant.
>
> I tend to agree with the other posters that saying anything to your
> coworker is a no-win situation for you. However, SF's suggestion isn't
> without merit. You can't necessarily address the overall situation,
> but regardless of the restaurant, you can easily pass her a napkin and
> nicely say, "oops, you've got a spot on your cheek." There's nothing
> at all wrong with that, as long as you don't purposely draw (even more)
> attention to her (she's apparently doing a find job of embarassing
> herself, whether she knows it or not, and it would just be tacky to
> compound that <g>).
>============

I too would do the "oops" thing and depending upon if I was in a delicate
speaking manner or not - I'd either pull her aside and might even ask if she
was aware that sometimes (!) she eats with her mouth open and/or... maybe
just print off your comments, minus your name & addy, and place it on her
desk.


--
Syssi

"The Ranger" > said:

> Try putting copies of public dining from some
> version of Emily Post about for her to find.

Live for Success, which came after Dress for Success, has a large chapter
on table manners. It's basically a how-to-live-in-the-corporate-world
kinda book. Can't remember the author, but both are very good books.

Carol

Goomba38 wrote:
> I have an acquaintance whom I work with, and this sometimes requires
> travel and eating out together. She is mid 40's, single and as nice as
> can be but to put it bluntly she eats like a pig. Chews with her mouth
> open, smacks lips the entire meal, gets food all over her face when
> eating something like chicken wings. Not just on her lips, but all over
> her cheeks and with juices dripping down her hands to her arms. Recently
> a table full of coworkers ate together and witnessed this and all were
> appalled and mentioned it amongst themselves afterwards. When out at a
> restaurant and she is done eating she tosses her linen napkin into her
> dirty plate of food right in front of her, even while others are still
> eating. Just no table graces, you know? I think she might be doing
> herself a social disservice and might not realize that people avoid
> eating with her because of these things. I've learned to avoid sitting
> directly accross from her. Would you take her aside and clue her in?
> What would you say?

I've met people like you've described, they're usually missing a few
essential genes... would you visit someone residing at a mental
institution and mention their disability to them... try to focus on the
reasons you value this person's company... and never invite her to dine
with you. Tact is the best part of humanity.

Sheldon

Damsel > wrote in message
...
> "The Ranger" > said:
> > Try putting copies of public dining from some
> > version of Emily Post about for her to find.
> >
> Live for Success, which came after Dress for Success, has a
> large chapter on table manners. [..] Can't remember the author,
> but both are very good books.

John T. Malloy
Dress for Success; ISBN 0446385522
Live for Success; ISBN 0553259644

The Ranger

Sheldon wrote:
> Tact is the best part of humanity.
>
> Sheldon
>

Can I quote you on that?

Best regards,
Bob

"The Ranger" > said:

> Damsel > wrote in message
> ...
> > "The Ranger" > said:
> > > Try putting copies of public dining from some
> > > version of Emily Post about for her to find.
> > >
> > Live for Success, which came after Dress for Success, has a
> > large chapter on table manners. [..] Can't remember the author,
> > but both are very good books.
>
> John T. Malloy
> Dress for Success; ISBN 0446385522
> Live for Success; ISBN 0553259644
>
> The Ranger

Well, bless your pea-pickin' little heart! There was also one for women.
Don't know where my copies of those books went.

Carol

> wrote in message
...
> > > [..] Can't remember the author,
> > > but both are very good books.
> >
> > John T. Malloy
> > Dress for Success; ISBN 0446385522
> > Live for Success; ISBN 0553259644
> >
> Well, bless your pea-pickin' little heart! There was also
> one for women. Don't know where my copies of those
> books went.

It ain't pickin' no peas, if y'git my meaning, mistress but my copy of
"Dress" is gathering dust kitties and wolf spiders aplenty in my
Library...



The Ranger

Goomba38 wrote:
> I have an acquaintance whom I work with, and this sometimes requires
> travel and eating out together. She is mid 40's, single and as nice
> as can be but to put it bluntly she eats like a pig. Chews with her
> mouth open, smacks lips the entire meal, gets food all over her face
(snippage)
> Goomba

I worked with a woman like this... I don't want to see food in someone's
mouth, thanks. Chew, swallow, then speak. It's a difficult situation, to
say the least. I'm not sure there is any tactful way to say it other than,
"Please don't chew/speak with your mouth open." She might not be speaking,
but she might get the hint. HINT to abf photo people: I don't want to see
photos of food in your mouth!

My LLL ate with his elbows on the table until he noticed I didn't. He
noticed it, said I'm "so polite" but it embarrassed him and now he keeps his
elbows off the table when we are out Sometimes it doesn't take more than
a hint; doesn't sound like it's that easy with your co-worker. Good luck!

Jill

On Tue, 16 Aug 2005 15:43:30 -0400, Goomba38 >
wrote:

>restaurant and she is done eating she tosses her linen napkin into her
>dirty plate of food right in front of her, even while others are still
>eating. Just no table graces, you know? I think she might be doing
>herself a social disservice and might not realize that people avoid
>eating with her because of these things. I've learned to avoid sitting
>directly accross from her. Would you take her aside and clue her in?
>What would you say?
>Goomba

That's a very touchy situation which is probably best dealt with
indirectly.

Eg. bring a camera to the next birthday outing, take numerous casual,
unposed photos of everyone during the meal. Then let her see the
whole set of various people, including herself . Maybe she'll
recognize the problem on her own without anyone having to discuss it.

Another possibility- the manager could ask HR to sponsor 3-4 seminars
on business etiquette, including one on dining out. Everyone should
go so she doesn't feel singled out. It would probably be a nice
break.

If any of your coworkers have kids, perhaps the next time you're all
together s/he could start a discussion (before the food arrives!) on
"I'm trying to teach Junior table manners and it's difficult. He just
doesn't realize how awful it is for other people when he's talking
with his mouth full." etc.

Sue(tm)
Lead me not into temptation... I can find it myself!

zxcvbob wrote:\

> Sheldon wrote:
> > Tact is the best part of humanity.
>
>> Sheldon
>>
> Can I quote you on that?

I just spit my wop tea all over my monitor.

Pastorio

> > Sheldon wrote:
> > Tact is the best part of humanity.

OK, who are you and what did you do with our Sheldon?

Felice

"cathyxyz" > wrote in message
oups.com...
>
> Goomba38 wrote:
> > I have an acquaintance whom I work with, and this sometimes requires
> > travel and eating out together. She is mid 40's, single and as nice as
> > can be but to put it bluntly she eats like a pig. Chews with her mouth
> > open, smacks lips the entire meal, gets food all over her face when
> > eating something like chicken wings. Not just on her lips, but all over
> > her cheeks and with juices dripping down her hands to her arms. Recently
> > a table full of coworkers ate together and witnessed this and all were
> > appalled and mentioned it amongst themselves afterwards. When out at a
> > restaurant and she is done eating she tosses her linen napkin into her
> > dirty plate of food right in front of her, even while others are still
> > eating. Just no table graces, you know? I think she might be doing
> > herself a social disservice and might not realize that people avoid
> > eating with her because of these things. I've learned to avoid sitting
> > directly accross from her. Would you take her aside and clue her in?
> > What would you say?
> > Goomba
>
> Let me answer a question with a question: If someone on Usenet couldn't
> spell, how would you break it to him/her?
> Cathy(xyz)

Ruthlessly.




Shaun aRe
--
The use of absolutes is never appropriate.

"Goomba38" > wrote in message
news
> I have an acquaintance whom I work with, and this sometimes requires
> travel and eating out together. She is mid 40's, single and as nice as
> can be but to put it bluntly she eats like a pig. Chews with her mouth
> open, smacks lips the entire meal, gets food all over her face when
> eating something like chicken wings. Not just on her lips, but all over
> her cheeks and with juices dripping down her hands to her arms. Recently
> a table full of coworkers ate together and witnessed this and all were
> appalled and mentioned it amongst themselves afterwards. When out at a
> restaurant and she is done eating she tosses her linen napkin into her
> dirty plate of food right in front of her, even while others are still
> eating. Just no table graces, you know? I think she might be doing
> herself a social disservice and might not realize that people avoid
> eating with her because of these things. I've learned to avoid sitting
> directly accross from her. Would you take her aside and clue her in?
> What would you say?
> Goomba

I say tell her to her face, in public, while she is food-juice-smeared. She
will either:

A) Get it together and sort herself out.

Or:

B) Fall apart and never ever eat out again, and utterly devastated, become a
total social recluse.

Either way, you don't ever have to deal with it any more = problem solved.

',;~}~


Shaun aRe - I'm a genius me, aren't I!

"Shaun aRe" > wrote in message
eenews.net...
>
> "Goomba38" > wrote in message
> news
>> I have an acquaintance whom I work with, and this sometimes requires
>> travel and eating out together. She is mid 40's, single and as nice as
>> can be but to put it bluntly she eats like a pig. Chews with her mouth
>> open, smacks lips the entire meal, gets food all over her face when
>> eating something like chicken wings. Not just on her lips, but all over
>> her cheeks and with juices dripping down her hands to her arms. Recently
>> a table full of coworkers ate together and witnessed this and all were
>> appalled and mentioned it amongst themselves afterwards. When out at a
>> restaurant and she is done eating she tosses her linen napkin into her
>> dirty plate of food right in front of her, even while others are still
>> eating. Just no table graces, you know? I think she might be doing
>> herself a social disservice and might not realize that people avoid
>> eating with her because of these things. I've learned to avoid sitting
>> directly accross from her. Would you take her aside and clue her in?
>> What would you say?
>> Goomba
>
> I say tell her to her face, in public, while she is food-juice-smeared.
> She
> will either:
>
> A) Get it together and sort herself out.
>
> Or:
>
> B) Fall apart and never ever eat out again, and utterly devastated, become
> a
> total social recluse.
>
> Either way, you don't ever have to deal with it any more = problem solved.
>
> ',;~}~
>
>

You neglected:

C) Pull out a gun and shoot you dead.


--
Peter Aitken

Shaun replied:

> I say tell her to her face, in public, while she is food-juice-smeared.
> She will either:
>
> A) Get it together and sort herself out.
>
> Or:
>
> B) Fall apart and never ever eat out again, and utterly devastated, become
> a total social recluse.
>
> Either way, you don't ever have to deal with it any more = problem solved.


How about pulling out a camera and taking her picture, then telling her
you're going to make a poster?

Bob

Sheldon wrote:
> Goomba38 wrote:
>> I have an acquaintance whom I work with, and this sometimes requires
>> travel and eating out together. She is mid 40's, single and as nice
>> as can be but to put it bluntly she eats like a pig.
>
> I've met people like you've described, they're usually missing a few
> essential genes... would you visit someone residing at a mental
> institution and mention their disability to them... try to focus on
> the reasons you value this person's company... and never invite her
> to dine with you. Tact is the best part of humanity.
>
> Sheldon

I don't recall any mention of valuing this person's company. It's a forced
situation where one must occasionally travel and dine with a co-worker.
There's not much control in a situation such as this.

I've been on that side of the fence. If I had to go ask a question of a
particular person at work and she was having lunch at her desk, I'd tell her
I'd come back later, I don't want to disturb her lunch. Sometimes, though,
she'd just start talking... with a mouth full of Big Mac and fries.
<shudder> At least it wasn't in a restaurant; I could always look around at
other things, people walking around the office, etc., while still making it
apparent I was listening. I just wasn't *looking*.

Jill

"Peter Aitken" > wrote in message
.com...
> "Shaun aRe" > wrote in message
> eenews.net...
> >
> > "Goomba38" > wrote in message
> > news
> >> I have an acquaintance whom I work with, and this sometimes requires
> >> travel and eating out together. She is mid 40's, single and as nice as
> >> can be but to put it bluntly she eats like a pig. Chews with her mouth
> >> open, smacks lips the entire meal, gets food all over her face when
> >> eating something like chicken wings. Not just on her lips, but all over
> >> her cheeks and with juices dripping down her hands to her arms.
Recently
> >> a table full of coworkers ate together and witnessed this and all were
> >> appalled and mentioned it amongst themselves afterwards. When out at a
> >> restaurant and she is done eating she tosses her linen napkin into her
> >> dirty plate of food right in front of her, even while others are still
> >> eating. Just no table graces, you know? I think she might be doing
> >> herself a social disservice and might not realize that people avoid
> >> eating with her because of these things. I've learned to avoid sitting
> >> directly accross from her. Would you take her aside and clue her in?
> >> What would you say?
> >> Goomba
> >
> > I say tell her to her face, in public, while she is food-juice-smeared.
> > She
> > will either:
> >
> > A) Get it together and sort herself out.
> >
> > Or:
> >
> > B) Fall apart and never ever eat out again, and utterly devastated,
become
> > a
> > total social recluse.
> >
> > Either way, you don't ever have to deal with it any more = problem
solved.
> >
> > ',;~}~
> >
> >
>
> You neglected:
>
> C) Pull out a gun and shoot you dead.

Pete - Why TF would *anyone* want to shoot me dead? And, how would that stop
this woman from looking like a one year old does, after each meal?!?

Shaun aRe - Answers on a postcard...

"Bob" > wrote in message
...
> Shaun replied:
>
> > I say tell her to her face, in public, while she is food-juice-smeared.
> > She will either:
> >
> > A) Get it together and sort herself out.
> >
> > Or:
> >
> > B) Fall apart and never ever eat out again, and utterly devastated,
become
> > a total social recluse.
> >
> > Either way, you don't ever have to deal with it any more = problem
solved.
>
>
> How about pulling out a camera and taking her picture, then telling her
> you're going to make a poster?
>
> Bob

OOOOooOOOO! I like it! It's mean, it's twisted, it is BOUND to work ',;~}~



Shaun aRe - "Where is the humour gone from Usenet?!?"

Goomba38 wrote:
>
> I have an acquaintance whom I work with, and this sometimes requires
> travel and eating out together. She is mid 40's, single and as nice as
> can be but to put it bluntly she eats like a pig. Chews with her mouth
> open, smacks lips the entire meal, gets food all over her face when
> eating something like chicken wings. Not just on her lips, but all over
> her cheeks and with juices dripping down her hands to her arms. Recently
> a table full of coworkers ate together and witnessed this and all were
> appalled and mentioned it amongst themselves afterwards. When out at a
> restaurant and she is done eating she tosses her linen napkin into her
> dirty plate of food right in front of her, even while others are still
> eating. Just no table graces, you know? I think she might be doing
> herself a social disservice and might not realize that people avoid
> eating with her because of these things. I've learned to avoid sitting
> directly accross from her. Would you take her aside and clue her in?
> What would you say?
> Goomba

Since it's a work-related thing have her boss do the
dirty deed. He can call her in for a private discussion
and mention that her co-workers find her eating habits
offensive (or some more diplomatic terminology) and that
he would like her to try to be "less of a slob" or something
a *lot* more diplomatic.

We had a situation at my old job with a guy who never
bathed and really stunk. We had the boss talk to him.
I worked out fine.

Kate

Kate Connally > wrote in message
...
[snip]
> We had a situation at my old job with a guy who never
> bathed and really stunk. We had the boss talk to him.
> I worked out fine.
^^?

I auto-added the missing letter when reading what you wrote but my how
it do make the difference. <EG> (And spell checking it wouldn't have
helped either.)

The Ranger

Sheldon wrote:
>
> I've met people like you've described, they're usually missing a few
> essential genes... would you visit someone residing at a mental
> institution and mention their disability to them... try to focus on the
> reasons you value this person's company... and never invite her to dine
> with you. Tact is the best part of humanity.

Well said.

>
> Sheldon

A friend of mine used to work at a mental hospital. The cafeteria chow
line was manned by residents. One resident screwed uop a staff member's
request, and the staff member exclaimed "Are you crazy or something!?"

-bwg