Goomba38 wrote on 30 Jul 2006 in rec.food.cooking

> Mr Libido Incognito wrote:
>
> >
> > Ignore him and go...If he gives you grief tell him you're there for
> > mom.
> >
> Yup, that's what i just typed out too.

The Man just doesn't want to be a burden...Acting all Macho and
all...either that or he's scared...either way he needs you no matter what
he says. I'm guessing he just doesn't want to have to depend on others.
Well guess what...he or at least your mom needs your help ....better it's
family than strangers.

In fact that's how I feel when I need to ask family for help...I don't
want to intrude on others. They should have better things to do.


But the facts are he's your dad and you love him...Well screw what he
says and go help him and your mom.

P.S. Just don't tell him I said so.... (my attempt at humour)

--


Curiosity killed the cat, but for a while I was a suspect

-Alan

In article >,
Steve Wertz > wrote:

> On Sun, 30 Jul 2006 15:08:56 -0500, OmManiPadmeOmelet wrote:
>
> > Steve, please, for once come down off of your high horse and have a
> > little compassion!
>
> After eating all this horse, I could use some dessert. Is
> compassion like neopolitan or is it an aperitif of some sort?
>
> -sw

Rainbow sherbet.
--
Peace!
Om

"My mother never saw the irony in calling me a Son of a bitch"
-- Jack Nicholson

In article >,
Goomba38 > wrote:

> Ophelia wrote:
>
> > Thank you kili! It seems that some people are so up their own jacksies
> > that
> > they don't really listen!!
> >
> > Goomba..... listen ... please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just for once put aside
> > your 'know all' ego and listen!!!
>
> Ooooh... maybe we could hold a fund raiser for her too!?

That was a low blow.

Why do you get off on being so nasty to people?
--
Peace!
Om

"My mother never saw the irony in calling me a Son of a bitch"
-- Jack Nicholson

OmManiPadmeOmelet wrote:

>>> Goomba..... listen ... please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just for once put aside
>>> your 'know all' ego and listen!!!
>> Ooooh... maybe we could hold a fund raiser for her too!?
>
> That was a low blow.
>
> Why do you get off on being so nasty to people?

Actually, I think it was more an attempt at tongue in cheek sarcasm and
I was even laughing when typing, imagining the absurd way some here over
react to some things. And I am not going out of my way to be nasty to
anyone.

Goomba38 wrote:
> jmcquown wrote:
>
>> You made the point succinctly. She has no input. We're talking
>> about a woman who has never had a job in her life. She has
>> occasionally stood up for herself but really, she won't write a
>> check without permission. She's never been a position to have any
>> say in anything; she was raised to believe the MAN is in control
>> because he was the breadwinner. It's the way things were and the
>> way things still are in her world.
>>
> And where will she be when he can't control the check writing any
> more?

You need to realize, and maybe you'd like to email me to discuss this -
they've been married for 55 years. Mom CAN write checks and is an equal
holder in the accounts but in her mind she *can't* without his permission,
if that makes any sense at all.

> Women have been advised to be careful to not be in the dark on
> financial matters and participate in their own household decisions
> for just the
> reason that if the breadwinner wasn't there anymore what would they be
> able to do?
> You should pack a bag, go spend a long visit with mom and help her see
> she's not some emotional slave to bygone chauvinism. Most military
> wives
> are quite independent as they are required to hold the fort down while
> the military man is away. Did she forget?

She definitely held down the fort - in fact my father wasn't even in the
U.S. when I was born and I didn't "meet" him until I was a year old. BUT,
she also still asked him for permission to do stuff. I slept on a roll-away
cot until I was 7 years old. She got "permission" to buy me a real bed when
he was in VietNam... and I know this to be a fact because I have it on tape.
They used to exchange reel-to-reel tapes rather than letters; it was Dad's
idea of high tech I still have the tape where he talked about her going
ahead and get "Jillie" a bed. Boy did she! It was a doozie - a canopy bed
with a custom made frilly multi-layered fru-fru bedspread. Then she washed
the bedspread and it shrunk to the size of a doll-bed - OOPS! Seems she
didn't have permission to take it to the dry cleaners. I guess she's just
used to doing what he tells her and not much more than that.

Jill

Mr Libido Incognito wrote:
> Goomba38 wrote on 30 Jul 2006 in rec.food.cooking
>
>> Mr Libido Incognito wrote:
>>
>>>
>>> Ignore him and go...If he gives you grief tell him you're there for
>>> mom.
>>>
>> Yup, that's what i just typed out too.
>
> The Man just doesn't want to be a burden...Acting all Macho and
> all...either that or he's scared...either way he needs you no matter
> what he says. I'm guessing he just doesn't want to have to depend on
> others. Well guess what...he or at least your mom needs your help
> ....better it's family than strangers.
>
> In fact that's how I feel when I need to ask family for help...I don't
> want to intrude on others. They should have better things to do.
>
>
> But the facts are he's your dad and you love him...Well screw what he
> says and go help him and your mom.
>
> P.S. Just don't tell him I said so.... (my attempt at humour)

I'll send him your address

Jill

jmcquown wrote:

>
> Congratulations! And I've never heard of salt beef, either, but that's
> neither here nor there. You are apparently not a good cook or you'd not
> have to ask these questions.

Jill...he may very well be a good cook. He has a problem with an
ingredient substitution - corned beef (an unfamiliar ingredient which
was available) for the normally used salt beef which was not available
at the time. He did the logical thing with having an unfailiar
ingredient - he asked. Corned beef is NOT a common ingredient in many
places. I could give an excellent cook here in Honduras a piece of
corned beef and he or she would need to ask how to prepare it.

SD